Yes, you read that right.
It’s much easier for you to approach, attract and close a girl in the daytime than it is during an evening in a bar or nightclub, not to mention the quality of women is MUCH higher.
Day game is so easy in fact, that you could be on your lunch break, pickup 3 different women and have your pick for who you’d like to take out that evening.
So what’s the biggest reason why day game is easier than night game?
Simple, it’s competition.
If you’re in a busy bar or nightclub, you are essentially competing against every other guy in that venue. The hottest girls are already taken or on the VIP tables, that just leaves the not so nice looking girls to choose from.
In the daytime… it’s just you!
No competition, just you and your thoughts.
So today I want to give you a sort of system for approaching, attracting and picking up women during the day. Everything from the mindset and opening to building rapport and sticking points.
Let’s rock ‘n’ roll…
The day game mindset
With every successful daygamer, he will have a rock solid mindset which has been developed over countless hours in-field approaching hundreds (even thousands) of women.
Here are some key mindset principles that you must adopt if you want to get ahead quickly:
- Be spontaneous and live in the moment – As a day gamer, you’re not really stuck in one particular venue, so you have the freedom to move about on the street. This gives you a great opportunity to be more spontaneous and lead the girl.
- Don’t worry about what others think around you – If you’re on the train and you see a cute girl, approach her… don’t ever let your actions be limited by what you think others may think of you. They wish they could be more outgoing like you, this is why they stare.
- It’s all about the vibe (playful and sexual) – Set the frame and she will follow your vibe. Once she is comfortable in your presence she’ll start to open up more and become more playful… even sexual.
- Don’t give up too early – Far too many guys who try day game, give up after a few attempts. You mustn’t do this, keep plowing through your approaches until you find a girl that sticks, because it will happen.
- Enjoy the process (learning) – Every rejection is a learning curve, you have to enjoy the process of learning this craft if you want to become good at it. But here’s the thing, it doesn’t take long to get REALLY good at it.
Day game openers
It’s all about the opener. The moment you stop her, you can either be direct or in-direct, below are openers built for both types of situations.
- I love your style (Direct) – Telling a girl you love her style is something most men would never say and something she’s more than likely never been told before in the street by a guy. This is why it works so well, because it shocks her.
- Excuse me, I have to tell you something (Direct) – Acting as if you have a confession to make, adds a little drama to the opener. If you say directly after… “I think you’re really cute” she’ll be laughing or at least smiling.
- Can I ask you something? (In-direct) – There will not be one woman who will reject you the moment you say this. Women like to talk, so they are curious as to what you might say next, it keeps them hooked.
- Directions (In-direct) – Asking for directions is a great way to open a girl if you have absolutely nothing to say and your mind draws a blank.
Note about openers: You should always aim to move on from the opener and build rapport a minute or so in, sticking with a topic derived from the opener will steer the conversation into boredomville.
Once the opener is done, you need to build some rapport and establish a connection otherwise the conversation will run dry pretty quickly. This is usually the stage most guys have an issue with.
- Create comfort – Rapport is essential for building attraction, it allows her to become a part of your vibe which you’re giving off. However comfort building is gaining her trust and making her feel as though you both have a connection.
- Go for an instant date – An instant date in a coffee shop is perfect for strengthening the connection between you both. If you like the girl, you should always try for an instant date by saying something like “Hey, what are you up to now… , I’ve got 15 minutes spare, let’s grab a coffee”.
The close is in fact the simplest part. If you’ve nailed the opener and built some level of rapport with her, chances are she’s going to hand over her number. There will be times when she’s got a boyfriend or whatever, so it’s fine to cut those ones loose.
- Time constraint – Throwing in a time constraint is a great way to limit the amount of time you have together and lets her know that you’re a busy guy. When you approach her, say “Hey listen, I’ve only got a minute because I’m late for work but…” you can then go in for the kill.
- Call your phone on the spot – Flakes happen, it’s part of game. But you can put a stop to them if you want, by actually calling your phone on the spot from her phone. That way if you get in touch and she doesn’t respond, then you did something wrong during the interaction and it wasn’t a wrong number.
- The bounce back – This is more of an advanced tactic really. Bounce backs are when you invite a girl back to yours after picking her up on the street. It requires a fair amount of experience in-field but is totally possible.
Everyone goes through them, they are inevitable… yes I’m talking about sticking points. Running into a problem that is stopping you from getting better at day game.
- It’s hard building sexual tension – Building sexual attraction during the day isn’t hard, but it’s also not entirely recommended. You should use the day time for stacking numbers and crafting your skills, save the sexual stuff for day two, when you meet with her again.
- Lack of energy and confidence – Do warm ups! If you work in a boring office all day, the first thing you should do when daygaming is warm up sets. Talk to shop assistants and girls you aren’t attracted to, just get your confidence levels back up and get rid of your approach anxiety.
- Can’t build rapport – Stop talking at her and agreeing with everything she says, that’s not building rapport. Rapport is connecting with her personality, put yourself in her shoes and understand what she may be feeling, then convey that back to her.
- Find it difficult to stop girls – You’re not being dominant enough. You need to get in front of her and put your hands up to signal that you want her to stop. Don’t be such a bitch.
Best places for women during the day
Depending on which city you’re in you will always find a few places / areas that are full of women. You need to take note of these places and go there frequently.
Below are a few places that I’ve found to be great for pockets of chicks:
- Apple store – Everyone loves Apple. There is a store on Regent street in London that is full of hot chicks.
- Shopping malls – An obvious choice, but still a good one. Women like to shop, so hang out in the mall for a couple of hours on a busy day.
- Coffee shops – A recent study carried out by Lynx revealed that women would liked to be picked up in a coffee shop during the day, than any other place or venue. How crazy is that?!
- The park – On a summers day, there is no better place than the park. If you’re in London you need to hit up Hyde park… the women are smokin hot.
- Tourist traps – Places like Leicester Square, Times Square etc all tourist traps but great areas for groups of girls that are checking out your city for a week whilst on holiday.
Try it yourself
Think you can do this day game thing? Well here’s a simple challenge for you to get started.
- Approach one girl in your lunch break (3 a week) – Only 3 girls in one week dude! Find a hotspot near your workplace where you know it’s busy and approach any girl you like the look of.
- Aim for a 2 minute conversation (open, state your intention and close) – To get your feet wet, you need to build up momentum. Go in for a two minute conversation… so you open with one of the above openers, state why you stopped her (you think she’s cute etc) then ask her if she wants to meet up for a coffee sometime. No big deal.
Right then, so that is how you talk to women during the day dude. Trust me, the first one is always the hardest, once you get passed the first interaction the rest are SOOO much easier.
Want more advice? Listen if you’re serious about attracting women in the day time, then you should check this out.
What do you prefer, day game or night game?