Have you been out night Gaming and found yourself walking around different venues looking for hot girls all night and not finding any that you feel are worthy of your time and energy?
Know your prey and where she likes to hang out!
You have to know what kind of girls you like meeting first of all and you have to know in which sort of way you would like to meet these hot girls. Pubs are much easier for meeting girls than bars are for example. Girls are usually dressed casually and are more themselves in pubs and quieter venues. People in pubs will be more chilled out and relaxed while girls in bars will usually be dressed up with their silly high heels on, lots of make up and bitch shields along with bad attitudes and bad breath, but this all depends on where abouts you go and on what nights you go on. If you are serious about meeting nice girls and having nice interactions that leave you feeling really good then you have to know in great detail where to go on a night out or even during the day.
I live in the center of London and i know all the top end clubs that you have to be on a guest list to get into and then the drinks are extremely over priced and the entrence fee is usually £20 per person. Yes, overpriced!!! Some of these clubs can be really cool and they can attract a lot of nice girls who also look really nice but you have to know what nights are good. If you go on the wrong night you might find yourself surounded by girls who like like prostitutes, they smoke, get really drunk and smell bad. So finding what you like and then sticking to that is very important for the success and enjoyment of your evenings out meeting hot babes who also have great personalities.
Different locations will usually attract different age groups and this is especially true for day game. Younger girls like different clothing style so it’s usually easy to find where they like hanging out. Foreigners will typically hang out in certain areas and you have to know all of the best locations all the time if you are to find your sweet heart… a girl you click with who is also really nice looking.
It’s just a matter of doing a little research and taking 10 minutes to plan your night out or at least have some ideas of where you would like to go. Make a note of those pubs, bars, clubs and maybe give them a call to find out what is happening that night at their place. Let them know you’ll be coming down and thanks for their help.
When you get to the pickup location you can have a wonder around to see what sort of girls are around and you can begin finding girls to take with you to other venues. Have a look at my article on “Social Proof” and how a night club promoter gets girls to come into clubs with him.
All the best quality girls for you all the time if you get this right
Richard Macilwaine
Ps, Have you checked out my approaching Videos where I Approach really attractive girls and I literally generate attraction and seduce women right in front of you. It’s all live and it’s all real. All the feed back has been very positive and I am convinced you will benefit a lot from watching the videos.
That’s true Richard. We need to plan our nights out carefully in order to find the people we want to find. But most importantly.. We need to KNOW what kind of people we are looking for. You need to know where you’re going before you plan your journey. This is something I wasn’t paying attention to but my experience so far tells me that it’s important.
What kind of people would you like to attract in your life? What qualities would you like them to possess? How would they look? How would they behave in certain situations? We all go in the field (hopefully!) and just approach. Interact with so many people and want to ‘close’ each and every one of them. Do we really need to close them though? Yeah that girl is hot but what if she has some issues and wants to suck your blood in order to ‘discover your inner world’? (it happened to a friend of mine and I had to ‘save’ him.. don’t ask). That’s an extreme example but think about it. You will know what you’re looking for. It’s easier to find what you’re looking for when you know what this is. It’s easier to qualify them because you know you’re looking for certain qualities. From that point on you can see if they match your criteria and see if you can live with that or not.. If they don’t, you’ll find what you’re looking for in another girl. No need to worry if she has a ‘bitch-shield’. Cause you like friendly people!
When I started getting some day 2′s I realized that knowing what I’m looking for is really important than just ‘get the girl’. Any girl… I met girls who were cute but really pessimistic. I didn’t want to date them and spend more time with them.. That’s one example. So I started listing the qualities I want my girl to possess. Not only physically… haha but all the aspects of her personality that I consider important. So know if I rate someone as a HB9 or HB7 it will be based on whether they have these qualities or not. It doesn’t matter whether you’re starting out or not. KNOW what you’re looking for. Approach many people and see if they match your criteria but make them part of your world only if they do. Don’t chase someone you don’t really like anyway..
So what do I suggest? Make a list.. Write down all the qualities you want your girl to possess.. Then think about where it’s more likely to find your type of girl as Richard suggests… Then go out and QUALIFY!!!!
It really depends on the definition of the term 'nice'. It's very rare to find true nice girls in a clubbing environment, unless they're there to genuinely just spend time with their girls. Most of them are just there to get random ONS closes and FB's which for me is fine. But depending on where you fish and what you're looking for. It's vitally important to know where to fish if you're looking for someone long term.
For me, i realised that the clubbing environment isn't the place to find such a girl.
That's why 'day game' to me is more preferable since women in coffee shops and libraries are more likely to be the less clubbing types and more of the types to have emotional interactions, rather than just all out thrills and fun. But again, it all depends on what you're looking for…
Like i always say:
"Know where to fish before going fishing" ;)
Reset is on the money. I did what he did and it worked. what is also usefull is to make out a list of what your ideal woman would expect from her man, and how you can work towards this, this is my list and its based upon
improving yourself, for yourself, so the end result is you will meet your ideal woman and meet her needs but make YOU happy!
Women need men with Confidence,
Women want men with Their life in order
The first place I head is the gym. Along process, But I will loose wieght and improve by body language and posture. I have also increased my social circle by going to the gym
Next I brush up on my appearence, haircut every three weeks,grooming products and work on my fashion style (using ollies tips)
I sort out my life and career. I am doing a PhD at the momennt so I know I am on the path to succsess. I save money to spend it and enjoy myself and spoil myself
I booked lessons with vocal coaches in order to improve my non verbal communication
I started eating healthy, loosing weight, making my skin glow and looking healthy
I read PU material to enhance my social skills
I arrange nights out with gym and work colleagues to increase my social circle
Cut down on drinking so I develop my own confidence and not the drinks confidence
Now if I meet my mrs right, and she qualifies me, I am ready! I really think if you have your life in order,gaming becomes a lot easier!!
Cheers, Noel
You’ll enjoy the process of constantly growing and improving. No longer will you be doing it for Mrs. Don Juan. . More months will pass and you will have eliminated the personal flaws in your own character and replaced them with better, more productive habits. You won’t date as often as your buddies, but the few dates you do go on will always be with interested women, because you will have long since learned to show Control and Challenge by screening the losers out. You will be at peace with yourself and be just an overall happier person, thus more popular. You will possess Power not just from your personal accomplishments, but also from the quality relationships you will have developed with close friends and family. You will be a complete man. You will have satisfied all of Mrs. Don Juan’s requirements and desires. Only then will she appear to you in the flesh.
Hey guys, this is very offtopic but it's just somthing that really been on my mind recently. The situation is in a really noisy club and I'm dancing and grinding up with the target. I would really liek some pointers,techniques or methods for transitioning from close touchy dancing to getting the kiss close, particularily when with a a girl who's taller than i am.
Cheers
Some good comments so far but I just want to suggest some things from my point of view (which is that of a guy starting out in ‘Pick Up’).
I know a lot of guys who will refuse to approach a girl because she’s too short, or too skinny or whatever- the point is they will make up excuses for not approaching girls. Even if the girl is near-perfect these guys will make an excuse so that they don’t feel guilty for not approaching.
Last night I went out for some quiet drinks with some friends, I didn’t really intend to do approaches last night but I ended up doing five. Anyways I approached girls even before I could get a good look at them to see if they were good looking or not. The reason why I’m not really looking to see whether they’re cute or not is because I’m still practising approaching and the best way to do that, I think, is just approach all sorts of groups, learn the social dynamics of a 3-set or a 10-set or whatever.
Learn to get used to different groups and how to socialise with them- I think once you’ve understood those things, then you can begin to form the idea of what sort of girl you want to find. Otherwise if you’re starting out in ‘pick up’ and have this incredibly clear idea of what girl you want to meet, lets pretend its a tall blonde slim girl, it will mean you won’t approach anyone until you see a tall blonde slim girl- by which time you will have probably put too much outcome dependency on the situation and you may end up fluffing it!
As someone starting out, I’ve not been too worrid about picking the places I go to. What I’m focusing on more is hurling myself out there into uncomfortable situations, stretching my comfort zone. Having just moved to central London I like to walk around the town, taking in the sites and going in any bar that takes my fancy.
Maybe when you’re a particularly adept at picking up you can afford to plan, but at the moment I don’t want to give myself the excuse to lose the spontaneity in my efforts. I’ve got a momentum going in my development, having just picked up “The Natural Art…” 10 days ago, moved into central London 8 days ago and gone out every night for the past week, getting my first (consciously gamed) k-close and n-close 4 days ago, and it all seems to be more down to the energy and spontaneity with which I’m throwing myself out there, rather than carefully laid out tactics and plans.
I suppose really it all just depends on what stage you’re at in your own development and what your particular goals are for the night. I don’t doubt that planning your night can seriously help your game for a particular night… but at the moment I’m thinking more long term in my development which means I’m welcoming challenging and uncomfortble situations, whether it be women who look like prostitutes or a bar with a ratio of 10:1 guys to girls.
Gabriel
I can really identify with what Gabriel says. I was just getting started in the PUA lifestyle when I got shot in the back. I’m just now healing up enough to where I can get out again (or soon, at least), and had only ready Gambler’s basic material.
As far as Gabriel’s comment, I wanted to add the observation that you do not want to go to the same place TOO often. If you go to the same place every Friday and Saturday night, people will notice you’re a “regular” and wonder if you’re out trolling all the time. Women who might occasionally go where you go all the time will notice “oh that’s the guy lives here.” They WILL notice this, and be on their guard more with you than other men because they figure you’re out looking to “get some” if you’re always there when they frequent the place.
So, find 4 or 5 places that you like and rotate them around. Don’t go to the same place more than a couple of times a month, and if you live in a big enough city (I don’t), make forays into new places every other week. Keep it new, keep it fresh, and above all, keep it real!
can i get a free botcamp now? as promised on the email i received..
thanks.
Hi there folks,
I think some of the responses hear have been really informative — (informative to the point where I’m left with nothing to say, Lol). However, I thought I would just add my thoughts:
I think the post touches on a really important point: preparation. I understand that when we ‘prepare’ things can feel rehearsed or unnatural; however, in some cases it can be crucial to a successful pickup. I like to travel, it’s a hobby of mine. However, before I go to a new place I make sure I know my way around. This allows me to feel confident in my ability to move a girl around the place. I think it would be better if I explained in a little more detail.
I like to pickup in art galleries. There are lots of beautiful and interesting girls walking around art galleries in any big city you can think of. Before I arrive in a new place I make sure that I know wear all the best galleries are. However, that’s only the basics. I then find out what is showing at the gallery! There is nothing worse than approaching a girl and getting a conversation going and then she turns round and asks: “What do you think of this exhibition? Don’t you things it transforms reality into a subvert and slightly comic parody of natures true intention?” — This happened to me, LoL. My flustered answer showed my lack of knowledge and made me seem out of place; it lowered my value. Before I go to a gallery I read up on what is on show. This is a rule for any cultural or historical place that you are trying to run game in/at.
However, for those who are thinking more along the lines of pubs and clubs — as the original post discusses — preparation can still be an advantage. Lets pretend you know what kind of girl you like. You know a club where that calibre of girl likes to go. What do you do? You go to that club. Now lets pretend that you meet a girl; however, she is with a big group of people. She is obviously interested in you, but her friends are getting in the way. What I like to do in this situation is move the girl out of the club to a more relaxed location. However, if you don’t know the area you can’t do that. You don’t want to be dragging her around town trying to find a bar that’s open past 12! I learnt this the hard way, dragging some poor lass through Moss Side Manchester on a Saturday night. Don’t ask how we got there.
In conclusion: know your environment and use your surroundings to your advantage.
Sorry if this has been a bit of a ramble guys, but I really hope you take get something useful from it.
Have fun guys.
Regards,
JonDoe.
There are some great posts up there, but I want to put a different spin on the whole locations/preparation thing. Whilst at times it’s definitely beneficial to select the location that’s most likely to get you a good close, I also think there’s a lot to be said for trying out different venues that don’t necessarily appeal to you or even the kind of girl you’re looking for. There are two main benefits to this.
Firstly, you’re expanding your experiences. Worst-case scenario: you hate the bar/club/pub/shopping area you went to, and have something to talk about with women you meet in locations that both they and yourselves find preferable. Obviously you’d want to move the conversation on to positive territory pretty fast, but I’ve definitely found bitching about how overrated certain bars are to be a really easy way to build rapport with girls who prefer drinking elsewhere. Best case scenario: you discover new interests and meet people you might have excluded from your social-circle without even considering it. Some of them might even be hot :p
Second, you exercise your social skills when you interact with people you’re not really comfortable with. It’s relatively easy to hold a conversation with people who share your interests, and developing rapport based on this is of course essential if you want to go the distance. But there are other skills, such as cold-reading, humour, and well-calibrated storytelling that are really helpful, particularly in the early stages of a pick-up when you need to attract and embed the interest of someone you’ve only just met. It might actually be easier to develop these when you don’t have the common-interest base to fall back on, since you’ll have to concentrate on using these abilities. Moreover, being able to deal with different kinds of people can be extremely useful for social-proofing, both short-term (being able to hold a conversation with anyone in the field definitely demonstrates higher value) and long-term (meet the friends/parents etc – you’ll have to get on with these people if you want to keep the girl. Indeed, maybe that’s why she cares about your ability to get on with randoms in the first place).
I hope that’s helpful.
Corporate
You have a point there man, even when i think that´s kinda obvios, that´s theorically why one bar or another charges more isn´t it?
A really overpriced bar, the one in vogue, is spected to be really crowded, cool, good location, good drinks and of course, good looking people, that includes Hot girls and good looking guys… like Poker LOL
Nah, nah, for real, that´s why they are overpriced, for the "oportunity" you have with top quality people in there, another thing that i think should be commented is that, sometimes this high quality girls are easier to play cause they are used to guys that buys them drinks, that say the same lame story and base all her game in money or so, but when you go there you are different and you step out of the crowd, that´s what a real PUA does and thats why you can play this girls in a better way.
POKER
Solid post. I am still traveling around Boston, looking for good places to hang and meet people. I have found a couple and that is great because those places will NEVER let me down and I am guaranteed a good time, no matter what the circumstance.
When you have that, your social life tends to be much better. Also, you, as a person feel happy with life.
I 100% agree. Planning your schedule is vital. When I was out with RichardM in this mad day club. Identical to a nightclub but in the day, I opened this stunning girl from America, with a simple handshake. There was a really
positive vibe, then all of a sudden she asked what time the club closed. I couldn't answer and just replied i don't know, I came with a friend. The interaction went stale, before she ejected. I realised I'd demonstrated very low value. I guess her subconscious mind picked up on my friend had more power than me, and I didn't have anything interesting planned for when the club closed. Why should she want to hang out with a guy that can't take control and has nothing interesting to do. I promised myself i'd never get blown out in this way again. Also, if you've planned to go somewhere you like, she'll be much more likely to go on an instant date with you, since she'll pick up on your natural enthusiasm.