This is a big one – out of all the emails I get off the back of these messages, the question I get time and time again is this: “How on earth can I tell whether she fancies me?” There are plenty of ways that you can tell but, the truth is, most guys go around with their eyes closed and miss out on all of them.
If you read this email and memorise the subtle signals that I’m going to reveal, you’ll immediately improve your game tenfold and give yourself a leg-up on the competition.
Unfortunately for us, women are a lot more sneaky and subtle when it comes to signalling their interest. Think about it – most blokes are obvious. They’ll stare across dance floors, offer to buy drinks, use awful pick-up lines. You’ll rarely find high-quality girls getting involved in those kind of tactics. They are much more insidious. You’ll have to pay attention, but the signs will be there. If you spot one of them, you’ve got enough to make a move. If you spot two, you should be going for it at once. Three, and you’re probably in bed smoking a post-coital fag.
Here are some of the low-level signals:
- She points her feet towards you when standing up;
- She smiles, or looks away with embarrassment when you hold
eye contact;
- She jerks her leg in your direction if she is sitting down with her legs crossed;
- She adjusts her posture – she sits up straighter and holds in her belly;
- She faces you with her hips/legs while sitting;
- She opens up her body language to you while standing;
- She brushes up against you unnecessarily when she passes
- She looks at you twice before approach
If you get one of these signals, go in and start a conversation with her at once. Your next goal is to take the interaction to a point where she wants to have a conversation with you. It might happen immediately or it might not. If you have approached without any of the above invitations, you should look for some of the below to know that she is interested in you.
- She asks you questions;
- She asks your name;
- She gives extended answers to your questions.
OK – so now you know whether she likes you enough to want to talk to you, but how do you know if she wants to get physical? Let’s say you’re at the bar chatting – here is what to look out for:
- She strokes her neck;
- She looks at your mouth;
- She tilts head to the side when speaking to you;
- Her pupils dilate;
- She laughs too much at your jokes, even when they aren’t funny;
- She is happy listening to you even when you’re talking rubbish;
- She holds eye contact with you and doesn’t look around the room or at her friends. (Bear in mind that if she’s nervous and it is just not her character to hold strong eye contact, she could still be interested);
- She’s comfortable with you touching her and invading her space;
- She shows willingness to leave her friends and stay with you;
- She laughs and hits you on the shoulder when you tease her;
- She looks at you in a dreaming kind of way;
- She asks if you are single;
- She says your name in conversation;
- She leans in to you.
So there you have it – some of the ways that will tell you how a girl is feeling about you throughout the early stages of a seduction. In Stealth Attraction, you see me demonstrate all of my escalation techniques on a hot girl, she responds, and you’ll be able to see the signs she is giving as well as what I’m doing to create them. Check it out here now so you can see what I’m talking about.
Until next time,
Gambler
I have to tell you i've read this through about 20 times and it's great i refresh my memory every month or so and this is one of my favourite PUA 'things' i've ever recieved along with the "how to go for the kiss and get it" one. I'd love some more of these sort things with easy steps instead of the long manuscripts these things are perfect, gold, fantatic please i'm sure the whole PUA community (especially the newer members) would benefit from more like this
thanks
Hey Scott,
Appreciate the feedback man, we are always working on more content like this, we have about 300 posts on the blog and try to send out emails with content as often as we can. Hearing feedback like this gives us the motivation to make even more!
-R
I often see these signs in conversations with new women but what I want to know is are they the same with women you have known for a while?
I have really started to notice that women I'm good friends with do most of these things to me anyway! Now the reason I think there is something wrong because I doubt the majority of my female mates fancy me! Any ideas?
Is it because they are comfortable with me?
Hello mates,
Jamie, I believe some of the signs are the same as you probably make and receive with your friends (be them male or female). Many of the signals just show the person on the other side is comfortable with sharing his personal space with you. Of course some (most of which Gambler listed) are definitely on the "business". It takes practice and knowledge to filter them though. As Gambler pointed those may vary depends on various factors (with the most weight on the person himself) and sometimes it might confuse and even deceive the reader, if he is taking them out of the context (especially if he/she likes that targeted person – human brain have the tendency to see only the things it need to defend it's state, thus lying to his 'master').
I relate that on personal experience and of course those body language books so I am not an expert myself.
The idea is not to trust them blindly as automated robot but to seek if they fit in the situation.
Hi Gambler , Thanks for the tips mate ,keep um coming .You are a PUA master .One day I will be as good as you.
hey…
I love the tips and all… but I'm not quite sure about em.. Just like Jamie said earlier, a lot of my old friends are showing me those signs. Plus i get it a lot of times even when i am in a club, or even outside having coffee with my friends I've noticed a lot of girls looking at me constantly, and showing most of the above signs,… What am i supposed to make of this?
Interesting stuff…
I really fell for one of my female friends a while ago and she was showing alot of these signs. Naively, I thought that females knew when men were interested in them.
Anyway I didn't see her very often as she lived quite a distance from me. Thus I phoned her up and told her how I felt. She was very shocked as she had no idea how I felt, she did not feel the same way.
Thus I wondered if it would be worth exploring how do women know if a man is interested in them!?
Thanks for the insight. I knew all of these signals, but forgot some of them. Its always good to get retaught. I'm about to go out tonight and so now I will be on top of my notes.
good stuff Gambler ,my game will get better , I must study more about bl , well done , keep up the good work
what if you already know her, hang out with her but want to ask her out. how do you know she interested den.
Yea me too, i know the girl already but i have a guess she's seeing me as a friend, we're doing stuff together and having fun, but i think she's seeing me as a friend, though i could be her type, i just don't know whether to tell her or not, because what we have here might then be screwed if i am not reading the right signs, and should instead have build more attraction (doing what..?!)
Ok, what does it mean Gambler when her pupils dilate because of you right when she sees you? Does it ALREADY mean she wants to get physical with you that night?
Thanks.
Nice article's keep'em coming, n we(PUA's in the makin) all know that when a woman's interested, she's like a consumer @ a store askin detail's q's, touchin the item on display, smilin a lot while thinkin to herself, should i or shouldn't i buy into it. . .it's actually great cause nowadays i just aim for normal convo's with them(older women,similar n younger types) 1st then if they intrigue me, i then go for the kill coz i figure i got nothin to lose but much to gain.
Thanks G
Sir the girl is to decent she never use to talk with any guys how to impress that girl
gambler keep em coming!!!theres this girl she was kinda flirting with my friend but it never reached relationship status so i wanna go for her, how do i go for her too without making her think that me and my friend are plotting for her.
Hi all,
I'd say.. Most of you try to hard! (without being offensive)
Girls.. ladies.. They just mess with your mind when you show that you LIKE them TOO much! I'm not saying don't like the girl.. BUT what I'm saying is.. Never "worship" a girl. They notice when you do, then you're screwed for sure!
A man's best friend is, BODY LANGUAGE! If you've learned to interpret it correctly.. You'll be a PUA master in no time!
I agree with Kayg. Sometimes when you go out to pick up girls specifically, You might go home empty handed. Why? Because when you go out to pick up woman (instead of just going out to have fun), you act different.. Instead of just being yourself!
Hope my opinion doesn't cross-flow the Gambler's work. I love your work G*!
Regards
~ The Womanizer ~
thanks gambeler,at last im relieved.some tyms i miss out because of my low self esteem & stuttering problem.i dont know of what would be the next step if she accepts me.man ladies here likes money & sex than long term r/ship
Hey Gambler,
I have enjoyed your tips and program yet I am an older man (53) who enjoys dating women much younger than me which I am sure you don't find that surprising. I find that there are younger women who like and in some cases prefer dating older guys yet I have had successes few and far between. When it has happened it has been great and in one case lasted for a long time. I am now back in the game after separating from my wife. I am wondering if you have any comments or special programs you have for this category. I am sure your techniques work for the overall population yet I am wondering if they would be tweaked in finding younger women who you can open and extract?
Thanks for being willing to respond and for your authentic and innovative work!
David
wooo……w gabler i have just set ma eyes on this ,and am realy speech less , girls have been showing me those signals but i had no clew
Let me learn more
hey gambler i told u before im searching to find some your sexyimages.would you mind send them tome?
i sat in the bus today opposed to a HB, it was really cold out and she had head phones on.
i blew hot air on the window and touch her leg and pointed my finger on the window then i drew tic tac toe she laughed and we started playing :) then got into conversation, got out at the same stop. i told her it was my stop even though it wasn´t. we had a cup of glühwein and had a great connection. exchanged number and we will go out again to the christmas market
dat was good bt mt oproblen is dat how do i propose to her and im d kind of a shy person