Evolution Of A PUA – Part 6

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Guys, it’s been a real long time.  Way back in  2007 I wrote this
series of posts:

http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/?s=%22Evolution+of+a+pua%22

As usual when I look back at things from a while ago i’m slightly embarassed.  I’ve changed a lot.  Still it’s good stuff but what the hell has happened in the past 18 months?

Well, I left off around January 2007.  T
his was a few months into the serious business, we’d left behind the old website:
http://web.archive.org/web/20060719014731/http://www.puatraining.com/
and we were hiring more staff and getting more customers.

Personally it was getting more interesting. I’d gotten back from my holiday with Steve in the summer of 2006 and I had 3 major additions to my game:

-Great non-verbal game.
-Better social perception (ie noticing IOIs and understanding dynamics)
-I could escalate. Fast.

I’d been playing around with these skills for a few months and taking them a little further. I dated my first stripper, pulled from Stringfellows. She taught me a lot about sex and sexual confidence.
I got my first real models (Victoria Secret etc), and I dated a beautiful PHD scientist.

There were some frustrations however. I was going out many times a week but only meeting these women of quality by chance – a lucky invite from a friend to a great party, a beautiful girl that accidently ends up in a crappy west end club.
I was going out with AnthonyP and Steve, pounding the streets and being disappointed over and over again with the quality of the girls. The common complaint from Steve echoing in our ears “They’re all mingers” (remember we’d just been to Latvia!).
The skills were there, the lifestyle & access to the hot girls really wasn’t.
Sometimes i’d have access to a top party. This would come from Adam who was my flatmate when I first came to London, he’d offer me tickets to a fashion event or other cool party, but he usually wanted £50 or so.
That made it tough to do it more than once every couple weeks. The rest of the time we were stuck with Tiger Tiger…or worse!

This all changed due to a lucky sequence of events which should be a lesson for all the PUAs out there on using your skills for a wider purpose.
AnthonyP was the person who originally introduced me to Steve, the guy that I say has “the best game i’ve ever seen”.
AnthonyP  told me that on a trip to Iceland he’d met an American guy called Brandon who he thought was as good if not better than Steve.
We had a spare room for a couple of weeks and decided to fly Brandon over, he could earn back his flight by giving some training on bootcamps etc.

Now Brandon never worked out as a trainer because he was pretty lazy and drank a lot, but him being in London for a couple of weeks had a massive effect on my life.
One night when we were on another trip across the street to Tiger Tiger (the big west end club) to see if we’d be lucky and find one girl of quality out of the 500 or so,
Brandon approached a couple of girls on the street.
They loved him and brought us all inside Cafe De Paris. Cafe De Paris was a major step up from Tiger Tiger – it was a guestlist club that would normally cost £20 to get into and we didn’t even know how to get on the list there.
We breezed in with the girls (who later turned out to be promoters) and got VIP access.

The night was fantastic, much better looking girls, including one in particular who is featued on the homepage video and my HB pics.
Whilst I was kissing this hot girl, I met Alex.  He didn’t like me because i’d been gaming his girl, I didn’t like him because he looked like a member of a boy band with his dyed hair and funky fashion.
I didn’t make any effort to get to know this guy and AnthonyP and I just concentrated on getting the girls back to our place.
Meanwhile Brandon made friends with him. A couple of days later, this guy (Alex) is at our apartment, and invites Brandon (and grudgingly AnthonyP and I) to Chinawhite. Now, Chinawhite is another step up from Cafe De Paris and we’re excited.

We have a crazy night. Brandon and I kiss 15 girls, we have a ball with Alex, and we end up in a limo.
Alex puts his cigarette out on the girls birthday present by mistake, they kick us out and set Brandon’s hair on fire. That was the first and last time i’ve gotten into a pink limo with a bunch of Essex girls!
The friendship is sealed.  We party every night, Chinawhite multiple times a week.
I buy the doorman some food and start to get free entry a lot of time.
Brandon goes back to America and i’ve made 5-10 great friends in just
the time that he is there.

What I realise now is that by focusing so much on girls, i’d not made the most of my new social skills. Other people would like me too, not
just girls. And if I was talking to a girl, she might not be right for me but she might be a great person to go out and have fun with. So in 2 weeks, i’d gone from dredging the streets to having access to much better clubs, and getting in free with fun people.
I made friends with a few girls including Angel who is the cleverest girl i’ve ever met and trainer at PUAT, club promoters, and others who still remain close friends.

There are always gatekeepers in the clubs. They are the promoters, they are the doorman, they are the popular people that get invited to the after parties, the manager, the friends of the manager, the rich guys who buy tables, the members. These people are rarely girls! You might view them as your competition because they are probably after the same girls that you are checking out, if they aren’t already with them. They probably have some natural game. If you view them as your enemies, you’ll never get access to the promised land.

By luck, this chain of events introduced me to the man with the best social skills in London, and now one of my very best friends.
Alex can work a room. He can collect girls numbers like nobody else, he can befriend the right people like professional networkers wish they could. He’s 23, doesn’t have any money, lives at home, and yet he could fill a room with hundreds of beautiful women just by texting everyone in his phone.  He’s not a PUA and doesn’t work for PUATraining, this is him he does it because its what he does, he doesn’t do it for personal gain.  He’s friends with every club manager, a few owners, and a fair few billionnaires.
How he does it is pure social skill.
To the max.

It’s positivity, it’s friendliness, humour, it’s perfect calibration, it’s generosity, just the right amount of value, not high enough to cause conflict not low enough to lose respect. It’s a winning formula with guys and girls and there’s nothing else like it.

Alex would later become the 2nd great influence on my game after Steve. He’s my wingman, the guy i’ve gone out with over 150 times in the past 1 1/2 years, the guy who I have 100 friends in common with on facebook  (out of 300), and the guy who was right with me when I met 70% of my girlfriends.

In 6 weeks I went from being a guy who only went out with PUAs, who only spoke with PUAs, and only interacted with women when gaming or dating to someone who had loads of male and female friends. People with admirable qualities who I enjoyed spending time with. When I went out I stopped going out to game and started going out to have fun.
The results skyrocketed. Things had made the next step:

1.  No friends, no girls.
2.  Some friends, some girls, boring lifestyle.
3.  Lots of great friends, plenty of girls, great lifestyle.

That’s the story, here’s the takeaway – The people that will enrich your life the most are not likely to be girls that you are trying to “close”. Take a wider view, befriend people who have skills that you lack, who you admire, and especially who you can have fun with. The results will just flow after that. Getting women will make you happy and game applied in the traditional way will bring you that, it did for me and it made me content. To take it up a notch you have to take a wider view.

We’ve gotten up to mid-2007, i’ll be back with more soon!

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