So you want to know how to get your ex girlfriend back.
Chances are you’ve been crying your little heart out, sobbing like a baby lamb looking for a teet to suck and just feeling incredibly sorry for yourself.
Well if that’s the case, I’ve got 2 things to say to you…
1. Stop being a bitch (Nothing good comes from being a miserable pathetic loser who moans about what he hasn’t got).
2. If you really want her back and you know she’s the one for you, then get your act together. Get pumped, get angry and change yourself so she BEGS you to take her back.
Before I get into the steps you need to take that will show you how to get back with your girlfriend… you first need to understand why she left you in the first place, so that you NEVER go back to being this dude again.
Why did she leave you?
- You didn’t excite her anymore mentally – In other words you are way too predictable, so she can guess what you’re going to do every day. Where’s the challenge and excitement in that? It’s boring!
- You didn’t satisfy her in the bedroom – Yep. You suck in the bedroom. Why do I know this? Because even if you were boring as a person, she would still stick around for a while longer or talk to you about things if you were AMAZING in the sack.
- You stopped being the guy she was initially attracted to – There was something that first got her attracted when she first laid eyes on you… that’s now gone and so has the attraction.
- You became clingy and needy – The two deathly causes of any relationship. The dreaded clinger and needy guy, yuck!
- You got too comfortable – Meaning you got fat, complacent and wrapped up in your own little world… not for a second did you begin to think about making her happy. Shame on you boy!
Ok enough with the beat downs… it’s time to make you a man again and let her see what she’s missing.
Are you ready to get your girlfriend back?
Gimme a hell yeah mutha fuckaaaaaaa!
Cool, let’s do this…
Quick Note: If you’re serious about getting your ex back, then I would highly recommend you watch this video to the end. Although the tips below work, this video has advanced techniques that a friend of mine developed which apparently work like CRAZY.
How to get your ex girlfriend back quickly
Each step below is equally as important as the next and helps give you the upper hand at each point during every interaction you have. You’re basically leading her into the mindset of being back with you.
The first step is for guys are feeling as though things are going wrong and she’s not that into you anymore… but if you’re at the point where she’s already left you and she’s officially your ex girlfriend then you can move to step 3.
1. Ditch her first
Yep you heard me and no I’m not crazy. Hear me out.
When you feel things are going wrong, you should be the one who says “lets just be friends, it’s not working out”. This will immediately put you in control of the whole situation and spark feelings of loss on her side.
2. Leave it for at least 2 weeks
You leave it for 2 weeks so that she has plenty of time to realise what she’s missing, how much she loves you and what she can do to get you back. In this time frame you need to carry on living exactly the way you do.
If she texts you, reply casually. If you see her randomly, be cool and act as if you have someplace to be. Don’t contact her on Facebook, tweet her or text message her.
Keep her thinking. That’s the key, she’s going to be mentally rehearsing you over and over in her mind which is a good thing.
You reinitiate contact saying that you hope she is well and saying that now the emotion has cooled, it’d be good to keep in touch as friends.
She will feel a rush of excitement and feel all giddy again. The feelings of when she went on the very first dates with you will be coming back. This is what you want.
4. Casual contact
Over the next few weeks, you have some casual contact and then arrange a non-romantic date like a coffee in the middle of the day.
Keep the conversation light and don’t discuss anything to do with the relationship, how it ended or anything that could ruin what you’ve built up.
5. Meet as friends
When you meet, you’re friendly and polite but you treat her just like a friend. You cut things short and seem like you have moved on and all is cool.
This will anger her, make her want you more and feel like she has lost you.
6. Rinse and repeat
Repeat a few times over several weeks. Allude to you having dates by talking about a new film you saw at the cinema, or an Italian restaurant you have been to. You don’t say who with, but it’ll get her to thinking about you and will spark jealousy/intrigue.
7. Meet and close
After weeks/months of laying down the groundwork between you both, meet her at night, have some drinks, and bust a move.
Kiss her, then say “we shouldn’t do this, we should just be friends, this is a mistake” and things like that but keep continuing.
You come up with the objections so that she will take the opposing view and say that it’s fine.
Then depending on how you want to play it, you can either take her back that night and have make-up sex or you can leave her wanting EVEN MORE and say that you should meet again soon.
The danger with leaving things too long is that she could potentially lose interest and start seeing other guys, so play it right and everything should be fine dude.
That’s it bro.
I never said getting your ex girlfriend back would be easy… but if you want her, then you know exactly what to do now. So go do it!
If you want some more advanced tips on getting back with the ex, then I strongly suggest you check out my friends awesome video on rewinding an entire relationship.
As ever, if you have any questions about how to get your ex girlfriend back… just post them below and I’ll do my best to answer them.