Just some of the talent on the big FB…
WARNING: These techniques aren’t for everyone, so only use them if you’re comfortable adding random girls on Facebook.
Do you have a Facebook account?
I’m guessing you do…
How many women do you pick up on Facebook every week then?
I’m guessing… zero.
Most guys I speak to on a daily basis have no idea how to pick up girls on Facebook. They just use it to add fake friends that they met for 2 minutes at a lame party or to perv over their best friends older sister.
Why the hell would you want to be on Facebook if you didn’t want to use it for picking up girls?
You seriously want to connect with old friends and write “Oh dude, it’s been too long we should catch up…” on their wall??
Haha, you make me laugh… deactivate that account right now!
Ok… I’m joking, obviously having a Facebook account isn’t just about chasing tail, it’s important these days to have one for many other things… (promoting a business, your personal brand, connecting with family etc).
But listen dude… you have a tool at your disposal that is so powerful, the C.I.A use it to run background checks on people… girls are willingly giving up information on their profile which you can use to pick them up.
It’s nuts.
In this post, I’m about to teach you the secrets of how to pick up girls on Facebook.
Now this isn’t some fluffy guide with pointless tips that some punk created… these are proven, girl getting techniques given to you in simple steps that you can apply TODAY and start seeing results really damn fast.
Before I get into the good stuff though, let’s first see why you should be spending a little more time pursuing women on Facebook, rather than posting crap on your wall no one will ever read.
Why is Facebook so awesome for meeting girls?
- You can speak to multiple girls at once, without ever getting caught. In the real world, you can only focus on one chick at a time.
- Once you master the techniques below you can line up a new date (or even multiple dates) every week if you want.
- You can engineer your life on Facebook. I’m not talking about telling lies, I’m saying that you can social proof the crap out of your account so the hard work is done for you.
- Women actually approach YOU. That’s right, girls will be adding you as a friend and messaging you when you do this right.
NOTE: Before I get into the good stuff, you might want to check out this book on Facebook game… it’s awesome!
How to pick up girls on Facebook in 6 steps
It’s far easier than you think.
Okay then. Whenever you want to meet girls on Facebook, just follow these steps and you’ll see things unfold like magic.
1. Add girls you think are cute
A no brainer.
Spend a couple of hours per week, adding 5 to 10 girls you think are cute or really hot as a friend. Write an intriguing opening line in the “add message” box that pops up.
If you can’t think of anything funny or intriguing to say, just forget the message and add her as a friend anyway.
2. Get familiar with her page
Spend 15 minutes skimming through her about page, interests, past wall posts in her timeline and photos. Just get a good understanding of who she is, what she’s about and how she interacts with her friends.
This will give you a better overview of her personality so you can connect with her.
3. Comment on new photos, videos and status updates
When she posts a new photo, video or status update that you like, comment on it with a funny or positive message. Don’t be negative or too try hard, it will piss her off.
Keep doing this for about 3 weeks, so she becomes familiar with you.
4. Send the first message
After you’ve posted a few comments and liked her status updates, photos, videos etc, go ahead and message her to get the ball rolling.
Keep it brief, ask her opinion on something, so that she will likely respond. Women just can’t resist offering advice, it’s like breathing for them.
5. Connect with her
If she responds to every message, it means she like you… so keep it up. Each message should be short and sweet, but you should be trying to connect with her. Try to really understand what she lives for, how she feels, and who she really is. Go with that goal and your conversations will be more interesting and connected.
6. Set up a meet
Never rush meeting with her, it should be at least a month and multiple messages before you should arrange meeting in person. Sometimes even longer, depending how many messages you’ve sent and how responsive she is.
Say to her “Let’s meet for a coffee or a bite to eat next week…” then arrange the time and date with her.
The absolute best way to get her to meet is if you speak to her on the phone. Give her your number (don’t ask for hers) and say “Call me later, so we can meet up for a coffee in town”.
Second best would be texting her or messaging her on Facebook.
Advanced tip: Are you being catfished? Always perform checks to see if the girl you’re talking to is REAL. I’ve heard of some horror stories from guys before.
Rules you must follow
Write these down and stick them to your forehead so you don’t forget them.
- Make sure your photos are up to date – Keep them fresh, like within the last couple of months so it’s not a shock when you meet her. It’s fine to have old ones, but keep them buried.
- Delete any photos of random girls on their own – If there are any slutty shots of girls in your albums, get rid of them. When another girl looks at this, she will think you’re typical guy and will just delete you.
- Use social proof – Upload pictures of you and pretty girls hanging out, but safe shots… like you’re in the park chilling with your “girl” friends or on a day out somewhere. This is also known as pre-selection.
- NEVER cold message a girl… it’s stupid – If you send 100 cold messages you might get one back, but it would be from a nutcase. Women get cold messages all the time and it never works, so don’t be a dumb-ass.
- Never leave yourself tagged in photos that can harm your cred – People like tagging other people in funny shots, like you throwing up in the gutter after a night out or running threw your garden butt naked. Make sure you’re not tagged in any of these shots.
- Never say how pretty or hot she is when she posts a “validation” photo – Women love posting shots online so they can get a shot of confidence, don’t give them that satisfaction. Always post a funny comment or don’t post anything at all.
- Don’t be Mr. funny – Women like funny guys but if you’re always trying to be funny, it can wear thin pretty quickly. So use the funny lines every so often.
- Don’t ask for the number outright – If you add her as a friend and go straight for the number, it’s just creepy. No rapport means no number.
Conclusion
So that’s how you pick up girls on Facebook dude. If you’re interested, here’s how to get more women on Instagram.
I know that guys will bitch and moan about how long it might take, but get real for a minute… you’re not going to pick up a girl and bang her on the first day right? Exactly, so just chill.
Just follow the steps above, stick to the rules and the rest is easy. You’ll basically get laid locally, or globally if you put the work in.
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So I’ve found a girl on facebook and sent her a request, she accepted my request and I’ve initiated a conversation with, just said “hello”, and she answered, asked her what she’s doing, and then we started talking, I told her that if she wants to know more about me, she can ask whatever she wanta, and on my surprise she did, we talked and we have some things in common. Now, since then we had some short conversations, the problem is I initiated each conversation, so this makes me wonder if she’s interested in me. I don’t if I should continue talking to her, or not, and for how long, also I don’t know if ahe has a bf. What’s your advice ?
Trying to meet girls through Facebook typically comes off as desperate and stalkerish no matter how you play it. I would avoid it at all costs. Better to go out and approach women in face-to-face situations and add them as friends after you have established an authentic connection in real life.
So, this really hot girl sent me a friend request today. I’ve never met her, but she went to my high school, and I remember her name. She has about a 1000 friends, so I’m not sure if there’s any interest on her part. I added her, but I haven’t messaged her or anything yet. How should I proceed? Should I wait until she posts something and then like/comment, should I pm her, or do something else? I’m an average guy, so I don’t spit game at every hot girl that walks.
Say just hi,
talk a little about shitchat with her. If she responds quickly and with medium to long anwsers, and if she is really interessed in talk with you, just ask something like:
” if I want to have a coffee (or something like that) with you, whats the better day, X or Z ? ”
She will respond. Them you ask:
” do you want to hang with me in day Z ? ”
so she will respond and you have a date. keep simple and use FB just to have dates. cause in history of world no one have ever kiss a girl or f* a girl through FB. capiche?
Regards
What about instagram. How would you pick up girls on there.
I’m not sure if this opener to this girl is good enough for her to respond. Hi (girl’s name), I’m Raymond I came across your profile and it made me stop. I’m glad I did. You seem like a really interesting person.
So I read your blog and can you give examples of a funny comment to start the conversation? Also why can’t I ask for her number? What do you mean by never cold message to a girl. Can you give examples of that as well. Please reply asap Thanks bye.
Well done my friend.
I wanna add to this one more very important thing.
You should make a folder in which you save the links to all the profiles you’ve sent a friend request so that once in two weeks or so, your going back to these profiles and cancel the friend request to avoid being blocked by facebook for sending to much friend requests to people you don’t know.
Sup man
How do u strike up a convo with a chick that has added u on Facebook?
I’ve complimented on some photos and posted a couple of comments on her
Posts, but I dont know where to go from then onwards, I’m a shy guy, just a regular
Guy, and shes just so darn gorgeous and I’m totally out of her league, yet i see we have
Some things in common . She’s a show pony and has all the guys chasing her, I want
To be different from them so I can get her attention. I don’t really have an active
Facebook account, ive been moving around alot so I dont really have time making freinds,
Because I move in like 6 months again, so i don’t really try socialising with work collegues.
I havent met this girl, but shes different from the rest, most girls don’t attract my attention,
But she instantly caught my attention when I just browsed her facebook profile briefly. I haven’t
Talked to her on Facebook chat, and its been about 5 months since she added me.
Like i said I’m shy and talking to a women of this standard takes alot of courage that feels almost
Impossible to muster. I’m not some seedy fuck, thay just want to get to know, the girl then Fuck her
And leave, I want to start a long term relationship, and that is the kind I have trouble creating…so do u
Have any tips that could start me off? I’m 21 by the way and she’s 20…anything would be
Great bro!
First off, chances are she hasn’t noticed you before, since you didn’t say anything. This message is in case you still didn’t do anything. First off, stop the attitude that she will be the one, she will be turned off by neediness. You have to first not be shy. I recommend watching David Deangelo’s videos that you can find on you tube. Basic idea, being shy is solvable, you just need to go out more, talk to people, the checkout counter girl, friends, old lady on the street. Solve your shyness, become the man a woman like her needs, build your confidence, and MAYBE she won’t have a boyfriend by the time you will have what it takes to take her on. You might need to consider going out with lesser attractive women, just to give yourself some experience, but only if you are comfortable doing this. The main point is to only approach her when you will feel comfortable with yourself, when you will have a clear goal in life that you would be passionate about and that will keep you on track with or without her. Not only will you be more confident in yourself, but she would feel like she could contribute to your success in the future and so consider a long term relationship. I hope this helps, I’m there also, and I see I have a lot of work ahead of me.
I GOTTA SHARE THIS ON FACEBOOK! ;)
What if she does not accept your friend request out of attitude in the first instance ? It’s all a waste. You would be more unfortunate if the girl and you had common friends. If you’re friends knew you randomnly added the girl,its all a waste ! And a girl will definitely discuss you with all her friends if you had the slightest of interaction on facebook , they would let her know that you’re just hitting on her. So I don’t think this works.
I’ve been using FB a long time,but despite picking up a few female friends they’re either not interested,attached(usually to good friends) or just non-starters.Now I’ll admit I haven’t got or used the PUA vids,but I intend to buy them.
Anyway,I never seem to get much luck,partly due to where I live offering crumbs & the dating websites are all an utter joke,cos I think the women on them judge me for still being separated & not divorced.My ex is happily shagging an old flame that ironically tapped onto her thru FB(he did so with a few of her friends too),but I don’t seem to be getting a damn thing.After near 9 years of a miserable marriage,I think it’s high time I was allowed a slice of action too.I do approach women in pubs when confident enough,but FB seems an easier place to go.Anyone got any further ideas? Thanks Andrew……
I plan on opening another account on face book for this will that work.I think Ill have to keep my name off of adress.
This works!!! within hours I met a girl thru fb and them the next day we made out and I fingered her that same day…in two days!!! Sometimes it takes longer but hey lucky me :)
Helloo!Nice post man i enjoyed reading it although i already do most of that staff! :D I really like your work and i would like to buy your book but there is a little problem.. i am from Greece and my english is not that well so that is a problem.. so i was wondering if there is anything you can do to make this work! P.S.excuse my english :) .Respects from greece.
I just wannt know who that bangin girl in the pic is. Anyone???
I cannot seem to find the ability to search for people that aren’t people I already know (family, friends, or, friends of friends). I tried searching for “people” using the city I live in as the search term, and no good, there doesn’t seem to be a detailed search for me to search for “single women in my area”.
I’m open to feedback.
You can either search for random names in the search bar or you can check out the recommended friends bit.
Great stuff with the friend adding!,
I have another 2 tips from a friend of mine that gets lots of girls on facebook, and he told me to apply these.
The way to look for hot woman is to take a girl that you have on your account that is hot go to her friends then choose another hot girl from that girls friends, and in their friends you can just shoot :) That way you will not have any mutual friends because in the end you want to send girls that are around your area, and not the other side of the country. Although you can do both, and the ones that are more far away just use it as a form of practice
In terms of opening something a bit silly that builds curiosity, and short is the best if she will like your profile she will answer. Here is an example: Hey there neighbour!
Also when you are doing this make sure people cant see who you add as friends on your timeline, and make sure that pictures that friends tag you in go through your approval before they appear on your profile :)
Very good post. Specially the part about mistakes. I’m not a big fan of Facebook as a pick up tool, but it’s just one more weapon in my arsenal. To me, the most important thing is that you don’t show your desire to sleep with her. That applies also to real life.
By the way, I also loved your book The Natural. Best $15 I’ve invested in a while.
Thanks Bambino!
Oh, finaly! Glad you wrote it man! Thank you very much for your timely article :)
No worries dude. Thanks for the inspiration ;)
I liked very much the post, i don’t post very often, but I always read the blog… I have one question, what do you think about add friends of friends? In my opinion it can be easier to have some interactions or even meetings, but at the same time it can be strange, cause, you know, probably she will talk to my friend about this.
Could be tricky, I mean on one hand they may find out that you’re chatting to both but on the other hand you could just lie and say “oh wait, you’re friends with each other I didn’t know that…”. I’d say it’s a little too risky… unless they are ridiculously hot ;)
Whatever you do… do not say the same thing to both of them. I talk to girls who are friends all the time. I let them decide for me which one I’m going to be with because I know they will be talking so I wait and see which one takes the bait the best (at this point you know they discussed with each other and the loser has to act aloof) and go with it. However do not, make the mistake of saying the same thing to them! If they are actual friends they will be comparing what messages they get from cute guys. Other than that fair game.
I actually have been using internet for pick up girls for a long time, and it’s pretty fucking sweet. Just don’t rush things, maintain yourself at many targets and you will know when to attack.
It just works. And some times in one week or so some girls will be falling at your feet.
I met a girl who was talking dirt with me in like 3 or 4 days. But I was in vacation so I had lots and lots of free time, our conversations would last something around 5 to 7 hours almost non-stop, so don’t try it at home guys hahaha
Anyway, awesome tips. Keep up the good work.
Thanks Edward!
Great post! Facebook just became much more appealing. I was just about done with it until I saw this post but now I see a great deal of opportunity. Nice!
It works, I’ve been chatting with a couple of girls last night and early this morning, but sometimes the conversation just run into a dead end, perhaps it’s because my opener was weak ( I used : “I’ve been on facebook for a long time, you’re too shy add me or what ?? :-P” ). One average girl replied: ” huuu…?”; I then said: “WHATTT !! :D you don’t remember me… reallly….”; girl: “I dunno, you first msg is weird…”.
So far they’ve all befriended me on facebook, but 9 out of 10 responded to my opener, and 4 of them continued the conversation further.
Nice! Good work Alex. I think the opener could be a little stronger like you say… maybe something like: “Ok, listen I’m gonna lie… You popped up on my suggested friends list for some reason and I think you’re very cute… ;)”
That may seem lame to some girls, so it’s best to write down 5 or so then see which one get the most attention from women.
FIrst of all its a great post.
but i got one question… does girl just accept a friendship from a total stranger? what if she asks hey who are u do we know each other?
What about then? Just go straight and say u seemed cute so i add u as a friend seems a bit too much.
Depends. Some girls will say that it’s too creepy, whilst other girls like the attention and think that it’s a little exciting, especially if they like your profil pic.
This morning i spoke to a real hotty and after a couple of light neg’s and play full jokes i got her laughing and then I said something she did not see the way I wanted her to(can’t rember what it was) so she asked ”listen, do I know you” I replied ”you can’t ask me that, how should i know who you know? but I don’t know you…” it got her laughing again. I’m still trying to find my own two feet but i always try to reply with a better funny comeback. If it fails i learn from it but if it works then so much better.
Awesome, as long as your response has one of the following, then you’re all good:
1. Humour
2. Quick wit
3. Intelligence
4. Confidence (not cockiness)
I bet Tony is at home jerking himself off!! babaahaha these are good facebook tips!! thx Ive been on the Rampage since I got my PUA Videos!! Ive been Crushing Tittys all year long!! I was good before but now I cant turn it off!! haha its like magic!! Plus on a social level awesome!!
Great post! Some decent tips here actually, I actually don’t really use my Facebook account for much anyway, so might just start pimping it out so it’s easier for me to meet girls on there.
So, if you use your Facebook account like a normal person, or for any other reason besides chasing pussy, then you should close your account. Things like communicating with friends or family, reconnecting with old friends, promoting your band or business, or any other legitimate reason… They don’t count.
Pussy or nothing. There’s nothing else in life. Great. You’re a fucking idiot.
I couldn’t even take this article seriously after reading that, and couldn’t read any further into it.
Did you read the line beneath that one Tony? It was a joke. Wow you really must be attached to your Facebook account dude, lighten up… it’s ok. Relax and take a deep breath.
what an idiot why would you comment on something when you didn’t read past the joke opener? Have you ever approached a girl with a joke opener? Does she automatically assume you’re a comedian? No! this article believe it or not is impressive. I had already been doing this but didn’t know it was also a recommended way to meet girls on facebook. I did get a couple pointers though. You on the other hand got your hand to comfort you. Haha Thanks PUA training!