Dirty talk you say?
I never realised the true power of talking dirty to a girl until I read an article online one day randomly and just started implementing it on all of my girls.
I can’t remember what I read exactly but it said something like… “mental stimulation is as important to a woman as physical stimulation”.
Meaning they love to be teased and played with mentally (with dirty words) so they can fantasise about what you’re going to do to them.
When you do it correctly, you’ll not only be able to make her orgasm very quickly but you’ll have her hounding you for sex… texting you at all hours, calling you, messaging you on Facebook… the works.
Also if you can do this with multiple women, it can lead to a very healthy sex life for you.
All that with just “dirty talk”.
So that’s what I’m going to talk about today. The art of dirty talking to girls and how to do it properly, so that you can have her in your bed with just one text.
Before we get into the nitty gritty, let’s first answer a common question…
What type of girls respond well to dirty talk?
I get this question a lot.
And you’ll probably be surprised by the answer.
ANSWER >> All girls respond V-E-R-Y well to dirty talk!
Yep you heard me.
They all love a bit of dirty talking… whether it’s in the bedroom, in a text message or even on the phone.
But they need to be warmed up first before you start spouting deliciously filthy words to make her wet and begging you to pin her down.
Like I’ve said before… attraction isn’t an on/off switch, it’s a dimmer switch you need to turn up slowly.
1. Lay down the groundwork and use these key ingredients
Girls need to be able to trust you implicitly and feel extremely comfortable in your presence before you can start talking dirty to them.
This means building rapport, comfort and attraction over weeks. Don’t get me wrong, it can sometimes be hours, depending on how sexual the girl is. But in most cases it will be a few weeks.
2. Kick start the filthy goodness with a fantasy or Q&A
When you’re out with her next or you’re on the phone, even texting… be sure to kick things off with a fantasy swap or Q&A session that will set you off on the right “dirty” track.
Say something like “What’s something you’d like to do but haven’t gotten around to it yet in the bedroom?”
“What’s the craziest thing you’ve done during sex with a guy?”
“What do you enjoy most during sex..?”
3. Anchor certain words or phrases during sex
Assuming you’ve already had sex with this girl you can drop a few dirty phrases in here and there that you can use later on outside of the bedroom in a text or actually in person when you’re out with her.
For example, as you’re humping away you could get right up close to her ear and whisper… “Oh my god, your pussy feels so good”.
“Baby your ass is perfect” (whilst slapping a cheek).
“Wow, your breasts are absolutely perfect” (whilst sucking on her nipples).
Dirty complementary talk is always a winner, so don’t be afraid to throw a few compliments her way during a session.
After you’ve had sex, you can text her and say “I’m still thinking about how amazing your ass is… that was seriously incredible x”.
Also listen to what she throws out during sex, she may say something like “F*ck your cock is so big, it feels so good”.
You can then use that later on when you’re talking to her or texting her… “I can’t wait to f*ck you with my big dick later… I’m gonna have my way you you.”
4. Use the tool you’re most comfortable with (phone, Facebook, texting)
Some guys prefer texting, whilst others like hearing a girls voice on the phone. I personally like texting and Facebook because it really builds the tension up over several hours and she’ll be imaging what you’re going to do to her all day.
It’s important to keep the sexual tension building until you meet her in person and just keep ramping up the dirty talk until the last minute.
5. Keep her wanting more…
Always be the one to initiate the dirty talk and keep pushing it each time so that it gets dirtier and more exciting, otherwise it can get pretty boring if you keep saying the same stuff over and over.
If you’re seeing her that night, you can something like “Guess what… you’re mine tonight…”
This will get her mind racing and she might even come back with “Oh yeah? And what are you going to do to me…”
Or you can say…
“I just looked at your Facebook shot with you in the bikini and you’ve got me all worked up now!”
Certain things you should never do…
There are some things you shouldn’t do when trying to talk dirty to a girl, here they are.
- Don’t jump straight in when you first meet her and talk dirty, you’ll just come off as a crazy perv and she’ll be freaked out by it.
- Don’t sound robotic… like “Ooo.. yeah… baby… you… like… my… cock” You just sound like an idiot. Keep it natural, talk slowly or text/type in detail.
- Don’t go over the top you freak! Ok I understand you might have watch some really nasty stuff on Porn Hub, but it doesn’t mean your girl needs to hear it. Unless of course she asks you to, there are definitely some girls that love the aggressive dirty talk.
What should you do if she responds negatively?
If a girl gets angry when you start dirty talking it’s probably because you did something wrong like (introducing it to early on, getting too aggressive too quickly or using a word she didn’t like) so take a step back and analyse the situation.
Then get back in touch with her and say something like… “Aww, I didn’t mean to offend you… was just playing young lady… I’ll be gentle x”.
How far should you take it?
This really depends on how dirty the girl is and the only way to find that out is by pushing the boundaries each time. So you will start off with the mild stuff like… “Damn you smell so good” (whilst smelling her neck slowly).
Then you’ll move onto something a little more frisky like “I’m so hard right now, look at what you’re going to me” (taking her hand and placing it on your cock).
After a few weeks (even months) you could take it to the extreme and see how she reacts. Something like “You love my big cock inside you don’t you… you dirty little whore”.
WARNING: Some girls can get offended by extreme dirty talking, but some with get into it. So always test the waters and slowly get deeper into the dirtiness.
So that’s how to talk dirty to a girl. Now go and put everything above into practice big man!