Imagine this situation for a moment…
You’re about to meet up with a girl you approached in a bar last week, you’ve been texting her back and forth, things are getting a little flirty and based on what she’s saying in her texts it feels like a sure thing.
You agree to meet and go out for a few drinks to get to know each other.
…Fast forward to the evening. She looks hot, you both go to a nearby bar and you start using the stealth attraction techniques to build sexual tension and deep rapport.
After a while you both end up kissing and you say to her “Listen why don’t we go back to mine for a few drinks… it’s a little boring in here”.
She agrees and you head back to your apartment, thinking to yourself “Man, I’m in… this is awesome!”
You arrive at your apartment, run some game to make her feel extreme levels of comfort, make excuses to go straight to the bedroom and go in for the kill.
However as you do, she stops you and says “I don’t know you well enough, I’m not that type of girl you know…” or “I’ve recently split up with a guy and I’m not looking for anything serious at the moment”.
It ruins the mood… you’re annoyed because you’ve put a lot of work in and spent money on drinks, she’s annoyed because you’ve gone all quiet and it feels like a waste of a night.
Been in that situation before?
Don’t worry, most guys have which is why I wanted to address this issue and give you some techniques I use that are pretty much guaranteed to help you smash through the dreaded last minute resistance (LMR) and get into her knickers.
Now before I get into the specifics of how to completely blast through any LMR she throws at you.
I want to stress that last minute resistance although typically is when she doesn’t have sex with you after getting her back to yours (or going back to hers) it can actually happen before you even get back to your or her place.
Her logical mind will kick in and pre-determined social excuses will follow. So it’s vitally important that you understand and apply each of these techniques if you want to totally destroy LMR.
Ok cool, here we go…
1. Get her to invest before meeting
Before the night has even begun you need to be sure that she’s invested in you enough to want to have sex. Otherwise it will be easy for her to give you the brush off when the time arrives.
No investment on her part means no kissing, rapport or nookie.
So what does “investing” mean? Well it means she is into you, she’s making an effort to get to know you, touch you and be around you. This is the sweet spot you want every girl to be in.
Here’s how to get her to invest more:
- Set the tone with a text: Be playful with your text messages and use cheeky banter with sexual undertones, so that she knows you’re not out for a “friendly” drink.
- Always lead: Never ask needy questions like “So where do you want to go” or “Is (bar name) alright?”. You should always lead and but in a sexy way, not a demanding immature way, women like this. Say something like “Ok cool, meet me outside Topshop at 7pm… we can go to a cool bar I know around there :)”.
- Don’t leave a voicemail: Never leave a voicemail, most women won’t get back to it, especially if this is your first meeting with her. Always text instead, it’s much simpler to reply to.
- Set and forget, don’t follow up: If you send a message and she doesn’t reply for a few hours, this is totally fine. Even a couple of days before the date, just send the message and forget it. If you think about it, or even follow up it could be detrimental.
- Don’t leave it too late: Stop playing it “too cool for school” as she will forget about you and move on, if you don’t stay in touch. Let’s say you meet her on a Friday, text her either the same night or on the Saturday morning as you’re fresh in her mind.
2. Have everything planned beforehand
If your apartment is a pigsty, do you really think a woman will want to have sex with you? Of course not. What about if you don’t have any drinks back at your place, wouldn’t that kill the mood? Yep, absolutely. So you need to be prepared for every step of the night for it to go smoothly.
Here’s how to plan:
- Lighting: Leave the lights on when you go out. It’s important to set them up as mood lighting, you know that soft glow. There are plenty of lamps on the market that can do that.
- Wine in the fridge: Chill the wine by leaving it in the fridge before you go out. Grab both white and red, so you can give the girl an option.
- Bathroom clean and smelling good: Make sure your bathroom is spotless and smells good, she’ll be going in and out a few times throughout the night to freshen up.
- Bedroom clean and bed made: Your bed should be clean, with fresh sheets and made so it looks inviting when you go into your room. Some soft pillows on there make a big difference.
- Music on your iPod ready to roll: Get some of those speakers that work with your iPod and pre-select some tunes, so you can put it on as soon as you get in the house. Don’t get the laptop out, because this will take her mind away from sex… she’ll start checking Facebook or something.
3. Build massive rapport (connect with her)
There are 3 key stages you must go through during the interaction in order connect with her on all levels and make her feel attracted towards you.
Here’s how to build deep rapport and escalate through conversation:
- Mr sociable: Be high energy, positive, smile and enjoy yourself from the moment you first meet her. Mr sociable makes women laugh and feel comfortable around them, so adopting this first personality is key.
- Mr comfort: When she’s smiling and laughing, you can then move on to building more comfort which leads to a buildup of sexual tension. At the beginning, you’re going to do most of the talking, but as attraction builds she will invest more and you can simply listen, keep strong eye contact and respond occasionally.
- The seducer: So the rapport has been built and the conversation is flowing nicely, she’s giving of the right signals and you can see that it’s the right time to kiss her. To do this, you need to use plenty of eye contact, listen more and speak a lot more slowly… even pausing between words. This should cause her to breathe more slowly, her pupils will dilate and attraction spikes will follow and then you can kiss her.
4. Distract her logical mind
Women think… a lot! The more they think, the less likely you are of getting laid. So your job is to keep her mind distracted from logical thoughts like “Why am I going back to his on the first night” or “Am I a slut for doing this, I don’t want him thinking I’m a slut”.
Here’s how to distract her:
- Assume that you’re going to yours: Find the right moment in the evening to take her back to yours. Many guys find this difficult but it’s easy. If you’re kissing and touching each other, simply say “Listen, it’s a bit boring in here, let’s go back to mine for a drink”.
- Think of the logistics: When you come out of the bar, you need to work out the quickest route to your place. If you live 5 or 10 minutes away, then walking is perfect. If it’s 20 minutes or more, you should definitely hop in a cab.
- Distract her thoughts with banter: It’s very simple to distract her logical mind… just don’t answer questions, deflect them. If she says “Where do you live” say “Oh, it’s like 5 minutes away”. Keep the conversation flowing and she will be fine.
5. Make her feel comfortable, then escalate
- Remove your shoes and jacket: The moment you get back to your apartment, you need to remove your shoes and jacket, then ask her to do the same. It psychologically feels like you’re staying for the night.
- Use kino: Keeping kinoing her and dial that up even more as the night goes on, so she feels sexually attracted towards you.
- Build sexual tension and kiss: Grab the drinks, turn the music on and get on the bed. From that point on you just need to talk seductively and kiss, whilst initiating sex. The rest will happen naturally…. clothes off etc.
So providing you’ve followed all of the steps above, she will be putty in your hands… not a chance of rejection from her.
Obviously every girl is different and there are some girls that take weeks, even months to break down, but eventually they always do it just requires persistence.
If you want to become a master at busting through LMR then I would suggest using my ninja stealth techniques.
What distinctive routine or line did you use to break through last minute resistance with a girl?




Nice, but I’m totally disagree with the wine and alcohol sentences. I don’t even drink indeed I don’t think it’s necessary to make a nicer mood, much worse if she exceeds with drink. And the worst part, if I don’t drink, what’s the excuse to have good drinks on the fridge?
Nice post, a lot of good info. Once I have a woman in my living room, I like to transition to the bedroom. To me, there is something definitive about moving to the bedroom that screams sex. I do this by bringing up art. We will talk about art, painting, etc. (girls love this shit). I then tell her I painted a large canvas and ask if she would like to see it. They always enthusiastically say “yes.” (I painted an abstract painting on a large canvas I have in my room). I tell her the painting is in my room and I take her by the hand and lead her back there. That’s when I make my move. I found this dramatically lowers last minute resistance.
Great advice Roman. Distracting the logical mind with something like art is perfect, that way she won’t notice what part of the house your in thus removing the urge to panic and make excuses. Also you make a good point of leading which is key, 99% of women love to be lead, it’s only the ego driven feminists that hate men telling them what to do.