Flakes and cancels are going to happen, it’s part of game.
But what are the specific steps you need to take when a girl cancels on you, so that you…
a) Come across as a cool, easy going guy who isn’t needy
b) Don’t ruin your chances of meeting with her again and eventually sleep with her
Well that’s what I’m going to talk to you about today, the steps I take when I’m cancelled on by a girl I was eager to meet (yes it still happens and will always happen, so you must accept that).
Something to remember is that, If she flakes, it doesn’t always mean she’s not interested.
Girls are busy by nature, they like to have things to do…. girlfriends to see… trips to the salon… work…. gym… etc. Especially if she’s hot, she’ll have a TON of crap to do… so you’re waaaaaay down the list of important things.
Feel depressed about what I just said?
Don’t, it’s life… so suck it up and deal with it.
Ok, enough with the tough love, let’s move onto the steps you need to take, the moment she cancels on you.
What to do when she cancels
1. Be cool and don’t text her when you’re emotional/angry
The absolute worst thing you can do is act in a way that will scare her off and make her think you’re a needy douche.
By saying something like “Great, thanks for cancelling last minute, maybe next time” or “Aaaaah man you suck! Oh well, hopefully we can meet up soon”.
You’re just making yourself look bad.
2. Did she offer a reschedule date or not?
When she cancelled, did she say “Hey, I’m really sorry I can’t make tonight… but are you free on Tuesday night? x”
Or did she not offer you another date?
If she did try to make good and reschedule then you can just reply a little while later and say “That’s cool, yeah Tuesday looks good for me… let’s meet at 8 inside the mall”.
But if she didn’t offer another date, then you just need to relax and respond with text that shows you’re not bothered (but in a nice way).
Something like “Cool, no worries. We’ll catch each other soon..”.
3. Don’t arrange a new date with her right away
One of the needy things guys tend to do when they’ve just been cancelled on is, arrange another time and place to meet straight away.
They say something like “No problem, how about tomorrow night? Or maybe even Sunday, are you free then?”
Don’t do this, it shows that you’re needy and have no social life. Both of which women don’t want in a man.
4. Call her to arrange the next date out of the blue
After your last casual text to her cancelling. The best way I’ve found to setup a followup date is by calling her, building some rapport for 10 minutes or so and then say something like “We should meet this Friday, I’m out with some friends at this place and it should be cool, you should come along”.
That way, she’ll have no reason to blow me off and I get to see her again.
5. No response? Move onto the next girl
Sometimes you’ll meet a girl who will cancel on you, then she’ll not respond when you text her back and try to meet up again.
What I do in this situation is leave it totally and move onto my Plan B girl. Always keep a bunch of girls on tap, so you can keep the momentum going.