Attraction Body Language Skills You Need To Aquire Fast!
Let's introduce some new terminology; 'attraction body language'. When you talk to a woman, one part of her brain is listening to your verbal meaning, but an even bigger part of her brain is unconsciously and automatically deciphering your body language meaning (often quoted as the 80% non-verbal communication). An even bigger part of her brain is screening you. She is screening for anything that telegraphs interest in either sex for mating, and makes them interested in mating with the other party. Women will automatically screen men sending off the right vibes as a potential mate. These men will have 'attraction body language.' This screening is important for two reasons; firstly to see if he is truly a strong male who will breed healthy offspring, and secondly to see if he has the sensitivity to stick around and help father this offspring. Of course this is a very basic, categorical way of looking at it, and doesn't fully apply to the modern world, but the basic instincts behind it are still viable because women had to screen men very carefully back in the tribal days of our ancestors; her intuition is something left over from her evolution.
Women are already very good at this, not just from the flirting tips they've grown up with from magazines and watching her friends, but instinctively her body knows what to do. Body flirting language comes very naturally to her, and she enjoys it very much. An example of body language would be if she touches her neck, or holds eye contact for longer than normal, or accidentally brushes her skin against yours. The puppy-eye gaze is perhaps the most suggestive, as women will gaze into the eyes of a new-born child to build maternal connection with her baby; she instinctively uses the same technique on her lover/ lover-to-be. Also, if she hits you in a playful way, if she laughs at your jokes, if she teases you and acts like a little girl when you tease her then you are using 'attraction body language' and can safely say you are flirting with each other.
There are many kinds of flirting, it is fun to be playful, but it doesn't have to be. Sometimes very subtle suggestions, double-meanings, sexually charged silences, a James Dean underlook, gently pushing her away until she starts hitting you then teaching her how to hit you properly, this is all the kind of flirting that naturally leads to more. Think back to when you were a kid, and how you were with the girls then. You used to chase them around the sand pit, you'd pull their hair, you'd tease them and annoy them and make them cry, anything to make sure they noticed you and you affected them!
In her mind, without even being aware of it, she is building up a body language picture of your entire personality. Whatever you are thinking, or doing, or dreaming about, she knows. Whether she chooses to pay attention to it or not is her choice, and this depends on the woman, but she is very fine-tuned at deciphering non-verbal communication; Unfortunately for us, males are much worse at unconsciously deciphering womens body language - it is a much more conscious process, perhaps something like this, broken down in a very basic step-by-step way of looking at it; male sees female he likes - male attraction body language telegraphs animal interest and desire - body language woman signals ambiguous interest to protect herself from getting hurt - woman's mind sees attraction in the male's interest - male shows dominance - woman's eyes see obvious lust which he converts to attraction body language signs - female instinct detects male body language attraction - if female likes attraction body language male, female might show subtle body language sexual attraction - male will show overt sexual attraction body language - if male is smooth, interaction will eventually lead to uhh uhhh oooh uh uh uh uh uh... These are the primitive mating rituals of animal sex we still have in the human species today. The principles of 'attraction body language' still apply, and in these situations our words mean virtually nothing.
A woman wants to be understood, so make sure everything you say has purpose. Make sure you are always leading the conversation, sign posting and listening to her answers. A quick little trick here to break the question-answer-question-answer-question-answer interview style interaction with a woman is this. Break her pattern. Instead, try this: question-answer-story from your own experience she can relate to-question-answer-story from your own experience she can relate to-question-answer... this way she will not feel like you are interrogating her, and it will feel like a much more playful interaction which also forces you to listen to her answers so you feed her questions based on your own experiences. This will lead to much more flirtatious conversations, because now there is room to flirt.
Your body language in flirting is important, it mustn't seem forced or uneasy. If you are going to touch her, it should be done light-heartedly and casually - this is actually easier if your hands are already waist high maybe holding a drink or some other prop such as sunglasses. A lot of this game is about tact, instinct and practise, so you will have to micro-calibrate on lots of different women to develop a feel for what works and what doesn't. Some women will respond better than others, some may not respond at all - remember, every woman is different, and she may not be used to a lot of touch. The opposite is true of very beautiful women. With these girls you might want to break rapport, as this immediately sets you apart from the other guys. Often perfect tens will need a lot of negging. 'Attraction body language' is very important with these girls, one sign of weakness and she walks. You will be spending most of your time trying to figure out how to break down her bitch-shield.
But this can be done with a few simple playful lines like, "I don't know where you're from, but where I'm from people have a lot more manners than that..." Even this is flirting, and if you keep a strong stance with your body facing away from her but maintaining strong eye contact with her as you look over your shoulder, this can be a very powerful technique. Another is what we call a freeze-out, where you just keep a strong body stance whilst ignoring the girl, until she gets confused and starts fighting for your attention again. The more you push through situations like this, the more natural, stronger, and more integrated your non-verbal communication will become.
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