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My recent post“Using ‘NOT’ Part 1 - What You Focus On Increases“ explained the concept that in communication, “What you focus on Increases”. Poker made some great comments and asked the question, “Is it better to focus on the girl or on your own development as a pua?”

Of course, the question itself implies that it’s one or the other and not both. So, a simple answer is to consider how you can expand your world to focus on the girl AND developing yourself.

Another answer is to discover your own response to this question –“What do you really want, and, much more importantly, WHY do you want it?”

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I started as you are.

I started by reading this website and wondering what was this “System” that PUATraining taught.

I wondered if I really could feel as confident and successful with women as I did in other areas of my life.

But I was worried about what people might think so I didn’t tell anyone before I went on the bootcamp.

But afterwards I felt it was such a positive and eye opening experience that I told everyone in my life.  My friends were truly supportive of me wanting to improve myself. Some needed to have it explained to them, some took some convincing, but they could all see the difference it had made to me.

Now I’m a trainer, everyone in my life knows about that too.

Isn’t it strange that we think it’s completely normal to educate ourselves in every other area but social skills?

So who’s with me – who’s a proud PUA?

Recently there was a girl I liked, and she told me she wanted to feel like a bird, because when a bird flies, it doesn’t care what anyone says or thinks about it.  She said you have to fly before you can express yourself.

Nearby there was a balloon man holding balloons, so I said maybe if she held enough of them she could float up into the sky like a bird and land on the soft white fluffy clouds… she told me she didn’t think so but we could try.  So we bought the balloons and we tied them to her but sadly it didn’t work.

Why did we do that?  Was it a desire to leave behind Darwinian natural selection and beat evolution? 

As humans we may not be able to attain the beauty of a free-spirited bird, its grace, movement and existence.  But to notice what is important to her, to explore it with her, to create a mutual understanding of ideas from one emotion to another, and how it all relates to life… you can easily find out what makes her happy, and when to leave something at suggestion level.

If you’re curious, if you’re thirsty, if you’re creative, you can take an idea and make it seen.  Nothing will happen if you don’t show it.  Your mind will give you answers, it will give you the power to create something beautiful.  Maybe the reality around us is merely something we negotiate between us…

Imagine…

In Western thought everything exists out there. Eastern thought, the mind exists and reality is an illusion. She comes to this place, maybe it is unreal, but she feels happy.

HB:  One day I’ll wake up and I’ll think ahh alex, okay… I’ll call him. I’ll say hey it’s the girl you tried flying with…

Maybe today is just my memory as long as I can remind… the life is true…

Alex Street Kid

I want to look at the actual importance of an opening; the question being: is it the most important part of pick up or maybe the least?

I usually go with the latter statement but I also accept that in some situations the “opener” can be more of a major factor than in other circumstances.

However, I stick by my opinion that it is never beneficial when one is putting too much energy and emphasis into a fixed a routine, or getting hung up too much on that killer opener.

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Hey guys quick question………………..who lies more men or women?

Only kidding, love getting people’s attention and saying that

Come on, it would kill if it I was standing in front of you saying it right now.

Anyway, moving on to my blog topic. I have decided to write this one on interruptions when in set, as ‘Reset’ left a comment on my last blog, which was a video approach, as to how I dealt with the woman receiving a phone call when I was in set with her and how they should be dealt with.

I am going to start by saying that each situation is different and there is no universal method for dealing with such interruptions. You must assess each set, at what stage of the pick up you are in and how important the interruption is for the woman.

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In this blog entry I’m going to explore a concept in NLP that the unconscious mind doesn’t (easily) process negation. A common example of this is as follows:

I’d like you to STOP NOW…….. and read this slowly…… try not to imagine an elephant and don’t notice the long trunk and white tusks or see the grey legs.

What happened? I’m guessing that you may have had some experience of an elephant. The thing is, in order to make sense of that sentence you have to process the word ‘elephant’ on some level. In order to ‘not’ imagine it, a person usually has to imagine it first.

It doesn’t matter whether there’s a NOT in front of it, people have to process the word and represent it to themselves because the word is in the sentence (and potentially they might represent this to themselves on a deep level if the word ‘elephant’ has some emotional connection or is wired into some important experience).

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Approaching

Day game, Night Game, Friendly, Direct, Subtle, Drunk, DHV, Social Proof, Confident, Telegraphing interest, shy, introverted, personal, impersonal, work related, comforting, helping, complimenting and the list goes on…

Bars, clubs, streets, shopping malls, cafe’s, busses, trains, parks, grocery stores… There are billions of places and ways to approach and have great interactions with women that lead to bonding and relationships.

This is my way of meeting people… I walk up to them wherever they may be and I say or do a few things that causes them to respond to me in a positive way. They like me instantly, if they don’t then I keep changing my strategy until i do something that  they do like or if I have calculated that the subject is not worth my time or that the subject is no longer worth pursuing I simply abandon that particular Approach.

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**Update - Blog comment free bootcamp competition winner will be announed tomorrow, I need a little more time to make this tough decision!**

I wanted to write a post about the early stages of relationships, i’m talking about the time after you get the number and before the point where you can relax and say “okay she’s mine” where she answers all your calls and is happy to see you all the time.

An important thing is this phase is keeping your attractiveness and making sure your emotional investment in her doesn’t exceed what she feels for you.  If she sees that you like her more than she likes you, it can kill attraction.  It would be pretty straightforward but women often throw curveballs at you in this phase and it’s easy to make a few mistakes and lose a potential relationship.

The situation:  You’ve met them and had this amazing time, the connection is great and she is very into you.  She gives tonnes of IOIs and you think you are very much in there.  You look into each others’ eyes and feel the sexual tension and your feelings growing.  Then you part ways.

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Learn the art of small talk

Yes, it is a wonderful skill to have, to be able to talk to absolutely anyone and make a connection with them. Not only is it nice for other people but it is a nice experience for yourself. Being able to have rapport with people quickly and to be able to have a laugh is in invaluable skill to have.

Becoming a guy who can meet any girl he wants to and begin a relationship with her is a journey that has many stages and one of those stages happens to be where you become a more outgoing and talkative person. What i mean specifically is talking to random people you come across in your day to day life. Not only is this the best way to improve your conversation so you will be equipped to talk to HB’s but it will help you understand the different ways that people respond to your approaches.

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The PUA arrives in the body of a politician and he must seduce Ann Widdicomb…

Strategies people!!! What should the PUA do in this dire situation? Remember that he must climax in order to leap, it’s not like how the old Quantum Leap used to be. Will seducing women he isn’t attracted to damage his psychology? What are the pros and cons of his new job? Should he use NLP on himself to make him attracted to them? Or should he seduce them in his natural state of mind and bare it? Did he make the right decision in accepting the job from Ross?