Using NLP to Seduce

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a powerful tool in many areas, from therapy, to sales, to self-improvement. As a powerful tool of influence, many man have asked how it can be applied to seduction. It can be applied in simple ways with limited effect, or it can be used to make a woman desire you completely. Here is how to use NLP to seduce

1. Positive use of language

A simple but effective use of NLP is to make sure you never use negative language. Saying “today wasn’t amazing, thinks didn’t go as perfectly as I’d imagined” is so much better to hear than “today was awful, things went terribly”. Just simply using positive words rather than negative words allows you to convey the same information without affecting the mood.

2. Pacing and leading

If she is speaking negatively, first pace it by agreeing and expanding on it, but then take charge and turn things positive by changing the subject or positively reframing the negative event. Pacing and leading also applies to energy and state. If she is cold with you, don’t be loving with her, instead match her coldness and then slowly lead her into being seductive by slowly becoming seductive yourself. The same applies to if she is tired or bored, pace and then lead.

3. Mirroring and matching

When people spend a lot of time together, they tend to share mannerisms, reactions, vocabulary, and tone and speed of speech. You can see this with good friends, couples, and relatives. If you match and mirror someone, they will feel a lot more comfortable and relaxed with you and like they have known you longer.

Do this by:

• Speaking at a similar speed, and using a similar amount of gestures.

• Feeding back the words they use in conversation.

• Mirroring the way they sit, the amount of eye contact, and the facial expression. You can get away with a surprising amount of mirroring and matching – they don’t seem to notice!

4. Anchoring

Anchoring is the process of linking a touch, sound, or visual input to an emotion. When the woman laughs, you can click your fingers, or touch her and it will anchor the emotion to the click or touch. Later you can try to re-trigger the emotion by simply firing the anchor – the touch or click. You can also anchor by playing songs when she is with you that she will later hear and associate to being with you.

5. Patterns

NLP patterns for seduction involve the use of language to bring out an emotion in the girl that is desirable given the current circumstances. An example of an NLP seduction pattern would be:

“Have you ever just met someone and almost immediately you start to feel incredibly comfortable like you’ve known this person forever and then as you just let the barriers drop and you let them more inside you start to naturally feel a sense of rightness, like this is meant to be”.

For greater effect, the italicised words should be “marked out” by delivering them slightly differently.

NLP is a powerful tool of influence, and to land the girl of your dreams you are going to want to use all the tools at your disposal to maximise your chances. Work on the above techniques and your newfound success with women will surprise and delight you!

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