It’s the silent killer. It’ll stop you dead in your tracks and make sure you never talk to a beautiful woman in your life. I’m talking about approach anxiety. And if you don’t get it handled, it’s going to eat you alive.
When I was starting out I tried everything that “the community” had to offer, but nothing worked. Soon, though, I discovered a secret. One that would change my life forever.
Now, it’s with great pleasure that I invite you too to discover the secret that
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It wasn’t an accident that as soon as I blasted away this fear using what i’m going to show you, that my skills accelerated at a rate that had others shaking their heads.
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what kind of blog post is that? we all know your websites
i bought this thing. dont get scammed by it. im still just as scared as i always was.
btw, gambler, if you say that my email never received one and ive neevr bought it, its cos iput a fake name and email broseph
all these fucking products are pretty useless
The Fuck it Phylosophy
Everyone and I mean Everyone gets the opening jitters.. you need to train urself to ignore or numb it.. As for fear of rejection, optimism is key.. whats the worst that can happen?
You: Open
HB: Fuck off
You: Brush it off and move to ur next set
Fuck it.. Become an opening machine.. open on Skinny chicks, fat chicks, shy chicks, loud chicks, drunk chicks.. what ever.. just get comfortable with sparking the conversation to any one at any time..
Because once you get that “Fuck it” in your system.. ppl will notice.. and you may indeed get to fuck it.
Live by it.
If that doesnt work.. take a zanex
-Fresh
*Philosophy
maybe this product isnt so bad. Maybe its just me. I went to a therapist and she says I have agoraphobia. Thats why this doesnt work for me.
cant you make an agoraphobia remover cd? haha
Hi Gambler!
First of all let me say that I respect you so much, for the kind of stuff that you make.
Secondly. Can you give me some short answers, to some questions(they don’t relate with the current subject).Anyway, here there are:
1)In my past, i get rejected so many times, and the girls telled me that they didn’t like me. Now, when I start to apply this pick-up knowldege, I have my first girlfriend(I’m 18), and she’s so hot, and she says that I’m very good looking(and in my opinion I didn’t change very much my looks, and her friends also said that I’m cute :D). Do you think that only the pick-up knowledge makes the difference?
2)This is a big one. My girlfriend isn’t living in my town. To be sincere, in my group of friends I’m not the leader guy, I have to work on that, and I’m not that preselected as she might think(I didn’t lie her). Do you think that if she’ll see me in my group of friends, she’ll lose the attraction for me?(I’m with her for about 4 months).
Thank you so much guys.
As Fresh says – Fuck it. Feel the anxiety and then approach anyway.
I’ve never regretted approaching a girl, only ever regretted NOT approaching.
I’ve done some crazy shit KNOWING I’d get rejected, so that once I’d done it a few times I could laugh about it.
Try this: next time you’re out with your mates, ask them to point out the hottest girl in the club/bar and get them to think of something really bad for you to say. That way all the pressure’s off because you all know you’ve set yourself up for failure anyway and you can laugh about it.
Last time I was out, my mate gave me this mission: “walk up to a girl, blow her a kiss, put your finger up saying ‘shh.. don’t say a word.’ Then back away slowly and thoughtfully.” We laughed our asses off and I displayed higher value by not giving a fuck.
Do it…
yeh i agree with rob. i told my mate to go out and just approach and fuck up and he was like ‘NO I WONT YOU FUCKING BASTARD PRICK WANKER FUCK!’ and i was like MATE! what you on boss! then he did it eventually and all was good. i guess it really has to sting first then one learns after the uncomfortableness.
Well the guy who agrees with Rob, that’s exactly what I’m like, but I just wont do it, not even eventually. I don’t wanna get rejected. Inevitably it’s gonna happen a lot, probly every time I do it for quite a while, but still, it’s too big a risk, and I’m not willing to take it. I don’t see the point. Normal guys can get girlfriends and a lot of them don’t get rejected at all. My friend got rejected for the first time a couple of weeks ago, and he’s moderately succesful with girls. They approach him. I still don’t understand exactly why some men are like me, and some men have all the success in the world.
A girl approached me the other night, and frankly, it made me a bit uneasy. I don’t wanna make people feel uneasy. it’s not nice. It teaches you to be a God with women with lots of hard work, isn’t there a course to make you normal with women. Cos there’s no way I’m approaching on my own.
Yannis, you should start with basic conversational skills. In other words, practice talking to everyone. Just today, I was buying some gummy sweets. I asked the woman who was serving me if she’d ever had them before. She said she hadn’t, so I said, “You’ve gotta try one.” And we basically kicked up a conversation over nothing. I wasn’t after her, I was just talking like I talk to anyone. Talk to everyone and anyone, make a comment about something in that situation. Ask people for the time for God’s sake, just to practice. Be casual, and don’t think that what you say will matter because it won’t. People who work in shops are bored witht heir jobs mostly so they’ll be glad of a bit of human interaction. Talk about any old shit, just to practice. It gets easier the more you do it. If you do it once, it will be HELL as easier next time and the next time. Do it.
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I hate doing stuff like that. My friend tried to get me to approach by asking for the time or asking where a shop is. It was nerve racking.
gambler is a genius! keep the innovation coming!
This is all about Social Anxiety Disorder is the fear of social situations and the interaction with other people that can automatically bring on feelings of self-consciousness.
For example, the left side of the brain will tell the right that nothing catastrophic will happen if you approach her. The right side “believes” it and you “feel” confident, and approach her.
So how do we Break Social Anxiety?
The trick is to push yourself even when you don’t feel like it. Approach that person on the street or in a bar and “believe” that nothing catastrophic will happen, or tell yourself that you can “stand-it” and not drink, smoke, or drug. And speak rationally to yourself affirming your value as a person, family member, friend or colleague and “feel” good about yourself.
One more thing, when you find yourself being one sided emotional or logical), take the opportunity to build a pathway by inviting the other side of the brain.
For example, if you are being very emotional, talk to yourself rationally and calm yourself down; the logic part will be calming down the emotional part.
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i noticed the way i approach a girl is when that scared anxious feeling starts coming up i just tell my self ” theres no way your getting out of this.” so after awhile i learned to deal with it easier and easier and i would just approach rejection or no rejection. Its like going to work. You really dont wanna go but you have to. Either your gonna go in a happy mood or your gonna be a depressed. but who wants to be depressed?
Guys after one try of this I’m already much more confident as well as in my daily life with other people. As a profound introvert this has changed my relations of people, and they have noticed and complimented about it. The fact that this only gets better with successive sessions is only a plus. Bear in mind, a lot of hypnosis hinges on the placebo effect: that is, it will only work if you have a predisposed expectation that it will. So if you actively are against it then guess what? It won’t work for you, in a similar fashion religion won’t give you closure if you can’t accept its tenants. Even if all hypnosis IS fake, and it WORKS, then why complain?
Try this opener…Walk up slowly, head up w confidense…I noticed you when I walked in…and had to take a minute to see what your really like. also women like to laugh so use a teasing opener find something to tease her about. A little small talk,tell her you gotta run, then the phone close.
i told my nlp coach i am not going to any more sessions unless he gives me advice on how to move out.
Hey Dan, you made some really good points. I guess for a long time I was the same, a profound introvert, a Beta Male, low self-esteem etc, but lately with all the affirmations and self-hypnosis I’ve been doing, I’ve changed on so many positive levels, it’s fucking amazing. I’m really grateful for Gambler’s podcast on Affirmations, I mean I’d heard of them from the Hypnosis Academy, and some of the spirituality courses I’ve been on, but never really applied it until now.
The thing about religion you mentioned, it’s a really good point, and personally I can’t fucking stand it. You know your mainstream Christianity is mostly stolen from earlier traditions. The only thing all of the world religions do is give people comfort, an easy belief system for how everything fits, if only people actually questioned why they believe centuries of accepted truths, and actually use critical thinking and discernment.
Oh yeah, your point on Placebo Effect / virtuous circle / self-fulfilling prophecy is a really key point. Lately, I’ve been choosing to focus only on the Positive emotions, personality qualities, everything I’m grateful etc and what I DO want in my life. It ties in with Law of Attraction, confirmation bias, and that whole Hawaiian Kahuna system “Huna” – the world is what you think it is and there’s seven other quotes.
The thing what I love about PUA, it helps you grow and change on so many levels, not just success and choice with woman, but actually all across the board, you know, your happiness, self-confidence, your own value (self-esteem), hobbies, lifestyle, creating the kind of life you DO want.
I’m really honoured and grateful to be a part of the community , it’s fucking amazing.
Anyway, hope you have a great holiday season and all the best to you my friend,
warm regards
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I can actually see the self hypnosis sessions gradually beginning to work.
2 months ago, i started doing self hypnosis every weekend.
i’ve already noticed many changes.
for example, i hold longer eye-contact with people, especially women. i’m no longer nervous talking to attractive women.
i even found myself going dating during the past vacation, without being nervous about it.
my self-esteem has also improved, along with a growing positive attitude about my life.
it just takes a lot of patience to learn to find the perfect state of hypnosis. it was very frustrating at first and sometimes i wouldn’t even fall into hypnosis.
it only works if one enters the state of hypnosis and always tells oneself , everyday, how confident and successful one is.
i can say it has changed my life in a good way.
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As Fresh says – Fuck it. Feel the anxiety and then approach anyway.
I’ve never regretted approaching a girl, only ever regretted NOT approaching.
I’ve done some crazy shit KNOWING I’d get rejected, so that once I’d done it a few times I could laugh about it.
Try this: next time you’re out with your mates, ask them to point out the hottest girl in the club/bar and get them to think of something really bad for you to say. That way all the pressure’s off because you all know you’ve set yourself up for failure anyway and you can laugh about it.
Last time I was out, my mate gave me this mission: “walk up to a girl, blow her a kiss, put your finger up saying ’shh.. don’t say a word.’ Then back away slowly and thoughtfully.” We laughed our asses off and I displayed higher value by not giving a fuck.
Do it…
Here is a tip for you :
Don’t be yourself !!
Be in control of your skills !!
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Thanks for article!