Gambler In Cambridge
Hi there,
You know, a lot of people think that I’ve always had success with girls, but a couple of years back I was single, depressed, and living with my Mum in Cambridge.
That’s when I made the decision to stride out of my comfort zone. I got a room in London and started going out five nights a week, met up with some great guys who helped me on my way, and the rest is history!
I started PUA Training to help other guys make the same transformation to their lives, so I wanted to share with you this video I shot a short while ago when I had a chance to go back to my old house for the day and remind myself how things have changed for me.
Check it out, and if you want to find out more about how I went from zero to hero, how I fixed my looks, my fashion, my social skills, and my love life, here are three ways in which you can do this:
Oh, and after you’ve listened to it, here’s three easy steps you can take to really get your game flying and move 100% closer to having the love life you deserve!
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Talk to you soon!
Richard (Gambler)
Ya know i’ve always sort of felt that way myself, but the difference between you and me in your former stage was that i wasn’t really scared to talk to people i just didn’t know how to approach a woman, and when i did i found myself as a friend that she would remember but not even close to a sexual partner. And i am more of a peacock by how i dress so i get women approaching me time and again. But it all ends with no number, no rapport just a few funny jokes and a few laughs. I don’t really like the whole Hypnosis thing, That to me scares the hell outta me lol. But i’ve read tons of info whether it be online or even the Mystery Game and still find myself with the same problem. My question to you is did u ever go through this faze and if so what did u do to overcome this part of your stride to the top?
LOl i’m 18 i’ve only had 1 first kiss and only got 1 number.
Hey Matt,
I definitely got stuck in the situation where i’d be able to interact but it wouldn’t go anywhere. It lasted around a month. What you need are two things:
1. a structure for the pick-up open to close so you know what to do at each stage.
2. Smooth ways to escalate or ask for the number so that you don’t feel any pressure or anxiety about doing it.
Have a look around and you’ll easily get through this sticking point.
Good luck!
-G
I can relate very well to your story Gambler. The point you were at in 2005, is the same point im at now in my life.
Im currently devouring endless amounts of knowledge but I think what will really improve my interactions with people, will be straight up cold approaches.
I’m curious Gambler, but as you were learning, did you ever play any social games to make the interactions more fun and the learning process more engaging. If so, what kind of games did you play?
As an example, ive started playing around with wild openers. One that I was recently doing was getting a girls attention and then yelling “Catch!” and id then lightly throw my hat at her.
From there id either tease her on her poor catching skills, or be impressed and tell her she should try out for major league baseball team.
By the way I live in Canada, Ottawa. If you know any great teachers out here I’d love to meet them.
~Cracker
Hey Cracker,
Haha, cool opener! Good way of finding out if she is fun or not too.
I was pretty serious in the very early days, but afterwards I came up with some more fun stuff. Silly openers work well, especially if you are with a wingman who can laugh at what you are doing and who you can give challenges of silly openers to try. I’m not too connected in Ottawa but we have been to Toronto and have some ex-students there.
-R
Another great video man and I like that you actually answer people’s questions. Definitely glad I found this place (this and reading The Game are my first steps into improving my game).
Something I’m curious about is do you guys continue playing the game when you want to start going out with the girl as a girlfriend? Once your going out with her, do you still do the same things, i.e. the neg, kino, and etc? Or do you really just act like yourself 100%? You see I have a similar story to yours Gambler and do not really appreciate these material things in my life but would rather have all the social things. I’m not learning these techniques to get hot women into bed with me but rather find great girls that could possibly end up as a g/f. Anyways, thanks again, all the tips are greatly appreciated (especially that 45 min interview, great stuff in there).
Hello G, I’m in to the learning curve now but still not try it out yet,I recogniz ure story of not happy yet of the results…byfar is very frustrating wen I Am in the field end not dare or hv the courage to take action,Freeze up forget my skills,I find meditation and self ritual really help me out ,I seeing progress of my fair and excitement to go for the sarge is rolling down the hill now,From time to time i watch ure stuff on youtube,and i hv to say ure stuff is a really extra additional knowledge and tools set to apply what my default main source of lecture Alla seduction teach me.
I like ure stuff 2
Thank you
John
Mr La Ruina,
Thank you for your humility, thus giving me hope, at 37 years old, still married, plus two lovely kids.
You did a very humbling exercise in 2008-09-09, supposing you filmed and told the truth.
I dont’ find any doubts to cast on this video content, anyway,
I also admired the images slideshow beginning with an average guy who ends with the Greek heireiss PH.
I am very happy to be able to look at the real place where it all started and that you showed this source as it was with no change at all.
Thanks your mom for accepting strangers in her home for nearly 10 minutes.
I want to be much more sociable and study in education to become a teacher.
Lots of girls are there, but I lack the confidence, the technique and the time to try.
Perhaps it is not the good period of life, the studies, to try.
I am going to stay, more or less, with the same group for four years, so I hope the best is not to try to seduce anyone.
I want to use your techniques to appear to be more sociable, then perhaps integrate it into my behaviour, although I have an historical behaviour which is genetically imprinted and reinforced because of the insistance on studies importance, so no time to fool around.
Reflexion : it is called “fool” : conservative society gets even into my English knowledge.
I also wish the kids to be much more sociable than I am, so they will lessen their probability to live appallingly painfully minutes-hours-days-weeks-months-years-5 years-10years-20years at school/university, which I have been through just like a prisoner gets through his time in prison because he wanted to outlive his sentence.
The result is horrible inside and stays for life, even if a communicative varnish hides it at some moments.
You may not understand every relationship I wrote to you today.
Don’t worry. Other people don’t also.
Some ex-students are in Toronto. I live in Montréal.
Is there any way some of them could contact me ?
The e-mail is in the required field.
Be proud of your personal decision, commitment, ongoing helping business and spartan consumption.
It might be too late for my life, continue for others anyway.
Pascal
Gambler,
Thanks for another great video I really appreciate all your efforts to help guys like me so thanks very much.
I have only got into learning PUA stuff recently so Im still a novice in the subject but seeing this video confirms that I am already on the right track with books on Bandler, NLP, hypnosis, field guide to the birds of Britain and Europe etc. Im glad to say that I am starting to get some positive results.
Thanks again and all the best.
Kiano
hi, tis is Chris from China, i would reckon u to translate ur publication to sell in asia, i can see there’s a huge market here. and I would say there is slightly culture difference on PUA skills. well, at least i love ur book.
Hey Chris, i’d love to translate and publish it in China. I offered anyone 50% of the cash I receive if they find me a local publisher in any country outside of the UK and US!
Kiano, less so the birds of britain! haha. But thanks and good luck
CK, now I don’t even play games when I meet them the first time, and definitely not when I have a girlfriend. I think it’s a worry for a lot of guys that they won’t “be themselves” or that they’ll always need to game. Luckily, after doing this for a few months, your natural confidence, conversation skills, and everything else has reached a level where you don’t need to consciously game.
Pascal, really genuine message, thank you. I would love to help you out. For children, it’s important to make sure they are socialising and gaining skills (in any area) which give them confidence. Don’t let them be too shy! Your email was in the required field and I can see it but no one else can. The best thing to do to connect with other guys in Montreal would be to add me on Facebook and put a message on my wall, you’re likely to find a few guys that way.
Hi Gambler,
I really admire your honesty and courage, taking us back to your formative years in a sincere non-anecdotal manner, as a method of encouragement and guidance. I speaks volumes of your character.
I’ve just started to game, but have since decided (largely based around your advice) to take a bit of time off it to work on some other areas of my life. My main areas of focus will be self-actualisation, developing my Buddhist practice, and education.
I’d like to thank you for your time and unassuming effort, I’ll get back into game in a couple of months once I’ve come up with a worthwhile plan, and look forward to all your future releases.
I’ll give it three years before I’m on your staff or in competition with you :P
Cheers!
Hey Richard,
thanks for the insights. I also made the experience that it makes a huge difference to move to a new city, in my case even a new country. Who did you start off with ion London? Did you do standard Lair sarging, look for some people you got along with and went out with them or even go out on your own?
Concerning your book publication. Did you already publish it in Germany? Most people have pretty good English skills, but many would probably prefer a German version and you are already quite a number here.
Bastian
I couldn’t access it, said it was no longer available due to copyright.
Man, RSD has been messing with so many of your vidoes, including this one, can’t access them anymore.
Unable to view video? Seems to be a problem with coyright?
Have enjoyed your subjects. Thanks
Can you explain what RSD are up to?
Hows it copy righted, its just a personal video
Ridiculous right?! We’ll need a few days to fix it, we had 80 videos on there and they were all removed without warning.
hie Richard,
thank you for your e-mail but am having a problem am not able to open the video you send to me each time am connected to email so help me out.
doro.
hi
The reason any man wants to be successful with women is the pain of loneliness.
You can only overcome that loneliness by surrendering to love.
That sounds like a soppy thing for a man to do and appears to go against our instinct to believe we are invulnerable.
But it is truth.
Anything else is just nonsense.
It’s all well and good to know what you are good at and be successful.
What builds character is finding your weaknesses, no matter how uncomfortable they are, and conquering your fear.
You have nothing to fear from love but most men fear it.
Instead of demanding love from others, why not give love to other people and make them feel special, even if it is one night or a relationship that becomes a lifelong commitment?
That is what the “game” is really about.
It is an exciting emotional and spiritual odyssey rather than a cynical trawl for empty soulless sex.
It is about enjoying life, loving other people and eventually finding a woman who is the one for you.
that was pretty gay Theflarey.
soudns pretty unpractical and soppy.
“that was pretty gay Theflarey.
soudns pretty unpractical and soppy.”
I don’t know if you are aware of it but idiotic, negative and bigoted comments AND poor spelling are unattractive.
Cheers.
1
TheFlarey
You got a really good point man, its the first time iv heard my thoughts put into words.
Cheers.
Hey man, just watched the show about you on Dutch TV – you’re awesome!
For those wishing to view this documentary online, follow this link:
http://player.omroep.nl/?aflID=10196053
I’m thinking about holding a workshop for friends in the Utrecht/Amsterdam area, where I’m gonna try and mine some of the knowledge held by a couple of ‘natural’ friends of mine to see whether other guys can repeat the success achieved by these naturals.
I’ll let you know how we get on!
I love it that ure teachings maked to da dutch tv,That so awsome to me.I folow ure stuf online and ure dvd box UNG,Seeing you making da same example remind me back on track again,Very funny selfspot of u making picture of ure actor facial pose Remind me of my self shoothing it al da time in my past.
I LMAO :p
Jay from Maasticht
Cheers
Richard,
watching the documentary I was impressed by the authenticy and humility of your statements. Coming from a similar experience, I felt I could truly relate what you said about your time in Cambridge.
One thing I realized after 2 years of taking my journey: I was deeply unhappy and no amount of outer success, be it with women or whatever could change that. Then I focued on becoming happy, starting to appreciate what works in my live, focusing on solutions instead of problens, stopping to complain and releasing old emotional baggage – and guess what: After some time, as if by magic, meeting women just happend.
What I got form this: Focus on being happy AND go out meeting people at places you like. The rest will almost take care of itself.
I don’t even know where to begin, I went out to a club tonight for 3-4 hours and I couldn’t work up the nerve to talk to any girls in a 3 set or 2 set or even a 1set. I felt like I would be a fool if I did it. Then I saw all these guys do it and give it a shot, and I felt that they looked more masculine than me and the girls would find them more attractive than me even though I’m a good looking fellow. I guess I have low self-esteem since I got lucky with my last girlfriend since she chose me and I didn’t have to do any work to get her. Is there any tips you can give me? would be very much appreciated.
Scott
Hey Gambler,
I am at a stage where I can approach a woman no problem..I get through Mr. Sociable..and I can do Mr. Comfort but when it comes to Mr. Seducer I am not able to execute. I am a big flirt and girls tell me they see me as having a very sensual seducing personality (ladies man they call it) but I can’t seem to execute..what would you recommend to get past this block?
Thanks Rich!
Eddys Velasquez
Gambler: “my bedroom, which is exactly the same as it was right before I left and moved to London”
Dear God!!! What’s surprising is not the books. What surprising is that the bed hasn’t been made in fucking years! Haha.
Seriously though, great video, You and all of PUATraining make it incredibly easy to understand. Cheers!
I am a Civil Engineer 35 years of happily married father of a kid well settled in india as well as abroad.
I just want to say that despite having been with a select few girls that I know many guys, or AFC’s, would give their left nuts to have even a night with, my life has been for the last few years mostly spent in utter depression and discontent. Why? Because, the vast majority of those beautiful women were from when I was in college. Ever since I moved to NYC however I’ve only a had a few wonderful successes that my ego must cling to with desperation for validation.
The long and short of it is that college dating vs city dating is like the difference between Checkers & Chess. As a 5 ft 7 inch tall guy I’ve felt completely inadequate to be competitive out here. Even with the success I do get I don’t get what I crave most: confidence. However, The Game and especially your helpful advice are changing all of that! While I am a very hilarious guy and quite sociable, I’ve had a very hard time expressing it out here on a cold pickup at a bar as I’m too terrified of the stakes: my ego and belief that I have some value!
Basically, I don’t see your advice as cheating or lying to women, but instead as offering methods by which men like myself can have the confidence to walk up to a stranger and give them a chance to see our best, most confident selves.
So, my point is: thank you. Thank you so much. Your videos – free of marketing gimmicks – and related materials offers so much hope to me that I can’t even express how much they have already begun to change my life. Please please please keep it up. (That’s what she said – BOOM!)
Hey Richard
The biggest problem I see my own self having is building enough confidence in my own abilites I just can’t picture myself speaking to girls out of my own league so to say I guess I’m really afraid of rejection how is the best way to build confidence or deal with this situation? I’m trying to raise money for the may class in TN…
Hey Richard,
Well I just resently bought the package 3 or 4 days ago, and I think it is absolutely awesome, I haven’t put it into practice yet because of the following.
I dont have any low selfsteem issues, but the thing is that, I was wondering if my height is a problem when it comes to hitting on HBs that are taller than me, I am 165 cm tall so… you know, Is my height going to be an obstacle? I dont feel bad about it but it would be great to just know what my chances are with tall HBs
The other thing that is that I live in Monterrey, Mexico. And well, the HBs here are famous for being very hot, and a pain in the ass when it comes to hitting on them at a club so… is there something I must do different? shall I tease more, shall I escalade at a slower rate?
Hello Gambler , I’m from Pakistan . i’m ur fan .i’m a little busy soon i’ll join you . you are fantastic
@ Raul
Dude, height doesnt matter, looks dont matter, weight to some extent doesnt matter, thats the point, with the right attitude, application and training, ANYONE can do this and thats the point Gambers trying to educate you in
What does matter is your own opinion of yourself, so the above does matter… but only in your mind, not in the mind of a girl, once you got that figured out, and start learning and practicing you will improve.
I am not a PUA yet, still learning like everyone else, but I know that much is true, someone once told me a number of years ago this saying; which is a maxim I still hold today and applies equally relevant to all aspects of life;
“the only boundaries in life are the ones you put up yourself.”
now re-read your 2nd paragraph and think about it
good luck mate
@ mal
Thx mate, I re-read and thought about the 2nd and 3rd paragraph and I think u are right.
Cheers
Dear Gambler,
I am impressed with your offers for $1.00 and would like to place my order at once. Problem is I’m in my 70′s and all online buying is handled by my daughter, Mrs Michele Wiehe.
Is it possible to send me the ORDER FORM, BANKING DETAILS AND DELIVERY ADDRESS ONLY so I don’t need to have the embarassment of my daughter reading the other stuff?
Many thanks
Kind regards
Jess
PLEASE OMIT ALL MENTION OF MY NAME FROM THE ABOVE. Even better, omit publication of my letter altogether.
Thanks, Jess
My problems are several. Primarily is lack of cash, I earn very little, I cannot afford to go out 4/5 times a week, buy nice clothes, have my own crib etc. I live with my mother after my divorce. If I got my own place all my money would go on rent and bills.
I go out at weekends, I get interest from women mainly because of my love of dancing, however it is a bit rubbish in my city, no underground dance clubs here. I like that type of music.
I have no male friends to roll with, lost touch with them years ago, burnt my bridges.
No female friends.
Work friends all live 10 miles away and all old or in LTRs.
So my options are limited, I rarely see any hot women 10s, when I do because they are in big groups I feel intimidated to approach them. I have a sense of humor and see the absurdity of life, but for some reason I am in a very serious frame of mind when around women.
Inwardly also I have a lot of arrogance and I do not want to lower myself by chasing after women, no matter how hot. I have intellectually kind of grown distant from orthodox opinions, my views would be considered very radical, I am a left libertarian, and do not accept the legitimacy of laws as formed by politicians, taxation is theft, fractional reserve banking is fraud etc. this makes me isolated from the majority of women who are largely apolitical (or non political). I have some tolerence for these dumbed down people because its not their fault, but then I think why would I put myself in a position where I can potentially be judged by these dumbed down people. Is this my insecurity manifesting as arrogance? maybe.
btw gambler, if you are not a materialist anymore why charge £700 for a boot camp? drom the price to £300 and more people will attend. I am very cynical, I assume you are using some kind of sales gimmick to hook suckers in, by telling stories about yourself, you create empathy and by denying materialism, you make the suckers believe you are not in it for the dosh?
Hey gambler thanx alot for all this information, i am just devouring all of it. I was just wondering is there any book you know that could boost my self esteem on my looks,i’m only 20 and have started loosing my hair, i now shave it and have been told that i look really good with it, i do get looks from girls now and then but the fact that i’m bald and don’t have a choice in the matter effects me greatly,and advise would be greatly appreciated
thanx
a week ago i just said to myself, “its time to make a change”. i saw your work and what you do and decided to give it a try but now im not sure where to start. ive started to talk to this girl and would like to take her somewhere nice but not sure where. i had this idea to take her for picnic but not sure how to ask her. can u give me some advice?
I want to see more video
Thanks for making this video, Richard. It’s very easy to dismiss PUA as the redoubt of sleazy, one-dimensional men, but as you clearly understand this is self-help of the highest order, and a means to cultivating hope, self-respect, and the ability to connect with others. Great to see Alan Watts made it to your bookshelf too!
Can you please tell me how can I date girls at my school?
Your videos and posts are great!!
Wow, I’m touched by your experience, Gambler…I’m somewhat going through the same thing myself. Thankfully I’m 18 and at college now.
I missed out on my social experience at high school. I traded it for pure academic excellence. I’m at Duke University now, but I realize (like you feel money isn’t as important) that being a know it all nerd sitting in front of books isn’t as important either. After reading The Game, I wanted to be social, have meaningful relationships, and get any woman I want.
I’m currently going through your Inner Game Installed program. I’m half done, and I must say I feel so much better about myself. I’m using Sinn’s Seduction Roadmap to improve my outer game too. I feel like I’m making a customized rehab to sort my issues out. I’m driven by faith that after all this, I’ll become a better person and finally be happier.
Your video has given me confidence that I too will be happy like you.
Thanks man and please give me any advice on how to escape the torture of loneliness,
Ashton
i know that here its not the right place to post it but i just want to tell you i’m from brazil and i want to go to london to do the residencial but you guys cant reach me by phone i would like to have an skype adress or something to talk to you directly
Interesting. I like that you were making about 100k working two hours a day and thought that was only fine – seems like you’re a focussed person who realised that material goods weren’t the route to happiness. Lifestyle is all important.
Brian here again I don’t know if mylast message sent to you. I plan on hopefully moving out of Dublin to London. I know no one in London maybe I could meet up with your PUA friends. I enjoyed your video man very inspirational.
Dam, Gambler. I’m seriously proud of you, and thanks for posting this awesome video. I’m gonna use it for myself and in a few years I’ll be really succesfull. Thanks for your work. This work helps me to improve myself.
Thanks man.
Hey Gambler,
I started all this when i was starting my junior year of high school. Ya know i thought “Wow, this stuff is really interestin.” at the time i wasn’t really that good with girls. and so when i started i figured why not start early so i can be really good when im older and able to get into clubs. The whole reason why i started this was because i also knew that being social and having a girlfriend would make life worth living. so im outta high school now and about to get into college. i just wanna say from the bottom of my heart thank you so much for changing my life for the better.
Sincerely,
Marc A
i really gotta let you know that im just like you i never go out alot i just wish i had a gf and i keep hoping and trying and trying im just so pissed that its this hard for me
Hey Gambler, my names Aaron and I also live in Cambridge, not sure if u heard of it but I live in Swavesey, anyway I not to long ago got my first girlfriend using ur techniques but considering this is my first I’m not quite sure how I can keep a good relationship going, we haven’t kissed yet or anything and I don’t quite know how to build up to it…
Hey man, im quite fan of your work. But i have a question thats been burning for a while. Ive been good at talking to women for a while and i dont have fear of approaching them. I have no fear of closing with women, as i have multiple times before. But lately I have had a problem escalating a reaction from just becoming friends to her wanting to hook up. Any thoughts?
Hi Gambler, Thanks for this video. I identify with it in so many ways. I have had girlfriends and turned down girls but they were not the girls I wanted.
Like you I am well read but have very few qualifications, having dropped out of university many years ago.
Unlike you I am 44 years old an am trying to rebuild my life after spending the last 12 years of my life under the mental health system where I was wrongly diagnosed as crazy and pumped full of anti-psychotics and anti-depressants. I have now been off all medication for 16 weeks and will be discharged completely from the system very soon. I now face an enormous uphill struggle of finding gainful employment, respectability and a positive role in society and obviously a soulmate who I can love and be loved back in return.
The one big plus is I have some funding for this Rocky style comeback from an inheritance left me by my mother.
If you can help me or give me any advice to achieve this major challenge I would be grateful. If you require it I can produce medical evidence that I’m no longer away with the fairies. Anyway sometimes I think insanity is a sane response to a deeply crazy world!
Once again thanks for the video I find it truly inspiring and hope to enrol for your boot camp or residential course soon so I can help get my life back on track socially.
Take care. Yours Robert.
When i first watched this video, i was shocked to really see how bad it was for Gambler and now he is the man! i guess sometimes we gotta go through the pain before we experience the joy because i can totally relate to that same experience that Gambler had to through.
I can’t blame myself anymore for not being successful with women because if i dont do anything about it’s my responsability. So therefore, i am as convinced as Gambler used to be that i can do it, too.
You seem very committed to this pua training thing, i deeply respect you for that.
Edi
I am in the same position except without cash flow and limited amount of travel. I have the same problems with my jobs as I do with women I have trouble getting them and when I do I end up getting screwed. I’m 22 and haven’t had even a girlfreind. I don’t know how to get out of this rut! can you help me?