I’ve been watching a lot of guys talk to girls. I’ve spent hundreds of hours listening to every word of the conversation between a guy and a girl who have just met. This has enabled me to come up with countless new theories and methods of teaching. This was a massive realisation for me…. Do you generally just “chat”? Is your conversation undirected and random? Are you actually interested in the answer to the questions you ask? Are you just filling time until you go for the close?
Hey, it’s what most guys do, so you’ll do okay like that, but here’s how we can super power your conversation from the first minute to the close. Pay attention and watch your results multiply.
After the opener, once the girl has committed to an interaction you need to be focused on 3 possible objectives and to switch between these modes as necessary. Here they are:
Connecting
In this mode, you are actively working to elicit emotions, motivations and character traits and to connect on them thus facilitating the strongest possible close. Your conversation follows the format: elicit information, connect, go deeper. If you ask a series of questions you will put the woman under pressure and have an unnatural interaction. Underneath the answers to surface level questions, from her favourite colour to her job to her interests, there are always deeper levels of connection – what that favourite colour says about her character, why she works (for money, because it is a passion, to reach her future dreams).
Number Closing
When you need to be going for the close, start to lead into it. Go for connections and mutual interests that can lead to a date. A classic example is: “Do you like going to clubs?” “Yes!” “Cool, we go to lots of cool parties, you should come sometime” “Okay” (Hand phone). The idea is that when you know you need to be closing you start to look for things to do together that seem to flow naturally from the conversation but allow you to go for the number.
Building Attraction
If you are having a nice interaction but you feel it isn’t going anywhere you need to build attraction. You do this with: Challenges – Think about what you want in your ideal girl and ask her questions to see if she measures up. Breaking Rapport – ‘nice’ guys agree with everything, confident guys agree when they agree and disagree when they disagree. Status – Act like the CEO, think about your tone, keep it flatter. Be comfortable with pauses. Remove umms and errs.
So…Never be having a directionless conversation again, keep working and moving towards your goal. If you want more detail on mid-game, and I mean like 20X more detail, check out the Best Deal Ever.
Gambler
Master Trainer, CEO
www.PUATraining.com
Could you do another article going into more detail about the conversation format of eliciting information, connecting, and going deeper. Do you just go out with whatever topic comes to mind after transitioning? Some dialogue examples would be great gambler, thanks
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“INTERNATIONAL BURN THE HOLY QURAN DAY” – 09.11.2010.I had an article in my mind to share with the author of PUA Training Blog,of an America and the Holy Quran,COMMON THREAD – A Round-up of the Issue of the week as reported in the Media.”Pastor Terrey Jones threat to commemorate the anniversary of 9/11 attacks on Twin Towers in New York by burning copies of the Holy Quran has been successfully foiled.But what this episode has revealed is that we live in dangerously delicate and intolerant times.The smallest of triggers can set back peace processes across the world and in fact spark fresh violence in many parts.Jones is a small time pastor in Gainesville Florida and part of Dove World Outreach Center,a 50 member evangelical organisation.Yet,his one comment made him an international figure with world leaders and International Media trailing his every word and move ever since he expressed his intention of carrying out the dastardly act.NBC Chicago reported:”First Methodist Church Reverent Phil Blackwell said on Wednesday that he’s alarmed by the actions of the 50 member Gainsville,Florida,congregation,which plans to set fire to the Muslim holy book this weekend.It’s appalling and it would have been pathetic if it wouldn’t have so much potential for not only mis representing the faith,but misrepresenting America,said Blackwell”.President Barrack Hussain Obama minced no words in condemning the pastor and his proposed plan.The BBC reported:”U.S President Barrack Obama says plans by a small church to burn copies of the Holy Quran on the anniversary of 9/11 are a ‘recruitment bonanza’for Al-Qaeda.Mr. Obama said if the burning went ahead in Gainsville,Florida,it could endanger US Military Personnel serving in Pakistan and Afghanistan.The Pastor’s comments came under heavy criticism from top U.S and International Leadership as told in THE GUARDIAN and as in THE WASHING POST reportedly.An opinion piece in the CHRISTIAN SCIENCE MONITOR noted,”America’s 300 million citizens represent just about every walk of life on our planet…We lead the world in creating and preserving every type of freedom possible,and we liveour daily lives under the most stable form of government ever devised by man.But what does it say about our freedoms when a small town preacher with 50 people in his congregation stands ready to burn The Holy Quran so he symbolises Americas anger of the moment as Muslims campaign across our great land for their right to build an Islamic Centre near Ground Zero?Is this the first look at America’s dawning reality – that Muslims are no longer welcome here? Is America really the bludgeoned by the terrorist attacks of September,11,2001 that we allow one man in a rural church to hijack the entire nation’s image around the world and recast our great society as a land of bigots and fools?But still for all its flaws and follies,America remains the most hospitable country on the planet.”MY NAME IS SAMEER SHAIKH”,aged 35 years,10 months.I’m a PROJECT ENGINEER cum SAFETY ENGINEER cum BUSINESSMAN.
I just say ” hey I got something for you may want to do ? And they say “what is that”? And I say ” I build fucking machines and I have my newest model just finnished it and I would like to know if you want to test it and give me your opinion” I can’t tell you how many times that has worked. Like 100
The thing is.. I really do make and sell them… And it all boils down to the man who makes the machine ha ha ha love it
Im not quite shure why Im here Oh so I pick up girls and not relly on the machine idea Oh ya good deal Thanks Richard
Gambler, I work alot and all my free time is valuable to me. I do make time to read some of your stuff every now and then. Alot of it I like because I apply it to other areas of my life as well as girls, seeing that I,m in a happy relationship. THANKS, Mark