Bait; Hook; Reel; Release
Mystery “How To Hit On A Woman”
You cannot indicate your interest (IOI) to a woman until she has first indicated her interest to you. The ATTRACT STAGE has 3 phases: 1) OPEN – to get you into her group and in front of the girl 2) F2M female to male attract – to get her attracted to you and 3) M2F male to female attract to show that you have grown attracted to her for legitimized reasons.
Assuming you have completed phases 1 and 2, its time to move onto phase 3.
You may have already read about QUALIFYING principles. Many concepts about qualifying are incorporated into phase 3 of Mystery Method. The idea is to make a woman demonstrate a higher value to you (BAIT her into telling you INTERESTING THINGS about herself – not “What do you do?”) so when she replies (HOOKing her to give you information) you can IOI her (REEL her in) only to push her off (RELEASE her from the pressure of being hit on).
This occurs several times.
So the phase 3 sequence is: BAIT, HOOK, REEL, RELEASE.
Here is an example for you to use in-field right away.
YOU: What nationality are you?
HER: FRENCH.
YOU: Seriously? No WAY!!! The girl I had the biggest crush on in high school was French! I can’t even talk to you now.
Every time she gives you a DHV (demonstration of higher value) you IOI her. This way she will believe your IOIs and when you fully SOI her, she will feel like she deserves it. This allows your attraction for her to legitimately GROW over several minutes instead of just IOIing her because she first IOI’d you.
Since an important aspect of Mystery Method is to restructure routines to be in context with YOUR IDENTITY in particular, take the time to write up some personalized phase 3 routines with this format. After all, I’m pretty sure YOU didn’t have your first crush on a girl who was French right? Write 3 to 5 routines right now.
Here is one more example I used literally the night before writing this:
ME: If you could be anything in the world with no chance of failure, what would you want to be? And don’t say “Princess” haa.
HER: Um, an actress.
ME: Really? When I was little I wanted to grow up and be a magician. And you know what I am now? A magician! So you want to be an actress. I’m living proof that our dreams can come true. It would be so cool if you were an actress. I LOVE THAT! We need to figure out how to make that happen. I bet you’d be an amazing actress. But what if you get more attention than I? I can’t even hang out with you now.
Mystery
Awesome Post. Left the game two years ago to work on identity (self-esteem particularly) took up bodybuilding. Am getting a ton of attention but I dilemma still is that I’m still a broke ass college student with no $ to actually be at the places where all this should take place. So identity is the most important thing but how to construct and recreate the routines to your context/identity if your identity at the moment is a big nothing lol..