So I was sitting in Starbucks, Leicester Sq, London one day in September 2005. I lived in Cambridge at the time but used to come down to London every 10 days or so to hang out with my cousin.
We happened to be sitting next to what I would later find out to be an RSD bootcamp. Tyler was there, and about 7 students. I was listening in trying to figure out what the hell was going on.
My best guess was speed-dating.
I asked Tyler (who was kind of overseeing things) and he broke it all down to me. Told me to buy The Game, etc. At the time, it was interesting, but I couldn’t imagine any of these guys being good with women.
Fast forward a couple of weeks, i’ve read the game and now have the idea that there are these super-hero PUA dudes that can have any woman they want. With this as my new end-goal, I decide to gobble up, packman-style, all the information I can find on the subject.
Right after reading the game and a few other things I take a trip to Singapore. On the trip I get my first one night stand. She basically PU’d me 60%, but at least I didn’t make the mistakes of old.
She was hot-ish, I was attracted to her. I was very proud of myself. I came back to England and carried on with the theory. I used to watch DVD programs on the PC whilst watching the stock market and making the occasional trade (my job at the time).
I kept a notebook of all the cool ideas. I’d listen to audio products before sleeping, when cooking and eating, cleaning, travelling, playing playstation, etc. Between November 2005 and March 2006, I must have gone through a thousand hours or more of products.
Some of my favourite ones at the time were David Deangelo’s audio series – Interviews with Dating Gurus, his DVDs including Double Your Dating, the Mystery Method ebook (but not so much the DVDs), Swinggcat’s Real World Seduction audio, and RSD/Tyler’s Surviving the Game of Dating.During this time, I didn’t do much in terms of PU.
I came to London to visit my cousin and did the occasional approach. The problem was that all this theory was difficult to structure, I basically had a collection of cool lines and fun things to say. I had no idea how to link them all together.
I remember a turning point for me. I was in Starbucks, mixed 3-set, I sprung into action using a situational opener – “Can I look at your tube map, I need to get to errrrr… Kentish Town!” They helped me out, I transition into what they are doing in London etc. I ask boring questions, but then something happened, they said they were learning English.
I talked about how I trained to be an English teacher, how I did it in Seville, and how people come to learn English and then they live with people from their own country. I was talking for 30 seconds, they were listening with interest, and laughing a bit, I felt a buzz.
I’d never had 3 people watching me and listening to me talk with interest before. I went red and was sweating but it was a great result.Small talk continued, then they said some tiny objection like “we are meeting our friend soon”, so I made an excuse to leave (I was looking for one I guess!).
Sat back down, they seemed to linger around suggesting “please n-close us, please!” but I let them go with a goodbye. This counted as my first real approach. Before that, i’d talked to a girl on the train and n-closed but it was not really a cold approach because she came and sat next to me.
I’d n-closed a couple of girls in bars over the previous two years (literally less than 5!). It made me grow in confidence.Around this time I had the dream of being the best PUA in London and training people, and even having a Project London. I talked about this with my cousin. I made the plan to move to London in March 2006.
On 24th March 2006, I moved into my place in Leicester Sq, London. My goals: to become great with women, to meet cool people and develop a social circle, to have a blast!Cambridge allowed me to find myself, study hard, improve, now it was time to put it into action.