Playing Hard To Get
1- There is a natural social process that occurs, which women don’t want you to know about. They want you to think that you’re the one who picked them up, so they don’t have to “be responsible” for it. However, this fallacy has spawned guys in this community to develop pickup styles that violate social practices, in a way that isn’t effective. (I violate social practices myself, but in a way that nobody spots). That’s why when you talk about hitting on girls, the girls don’t like it. But if you ask them “How *would* you like a guy to hit on you?” they have no realistic reply. It’s because they secretly know that they pickup guys, but don’t admit it publically or even to themselves.
2- Being able to attract a girl is often not enough. Girls find themselves wanting to sleep with various guys that they see all day long. What it takes to actually get laid, is to flip her S/C switch, so that she’s decided “Today is the day. This guy is the guy”. This is why there are many guys in the scene who can run a tight set, but still don’t get laid. They have a certain part of their game down, but need to work more on flipping that f$%king S/C Switch.
3- Being aware of buying temperature spikes, and knowing WHEN to pull away is key. If you just pull away at arbitrary times, you will not get a result.
4- Guys think that looks is the most important part of a pickup. In fact, its brains. You have to be smart as f$%king hell to do this stuff. You have to think fast on your feet, and you have to calibrate. Most guys don’t have a repertoire of material that will spike buying temperature, and fall into a trap of talking about situational stuff, which girls just interpret as you trying to get rapport with them, and makes you unchallenging.
5- There is a difference between a girl being attracted to you, and a girl wanting to f$^k you. If you are TOO GIVING in set, then you run the risk of being the first guy, not the second. You have to be giving, but strategically.
6- To implant the idea of seducing you into the girls’ mind, you have to have a repertoire of material to do so. That is BOTH material to entertain sets so you can pull a girl from her group or open a lone girl in a way that doesn’t set off an autopilot response, but also you have to have material that gets her thinking that she wants you and gets her chasing you. This material is a combination of regular material that you use to spike buying temperature, and then pulling back, as well as recognizing anything that you can misinterpret as her trying to seduce you, and then pulling back from that as well, which raises the challenge and makes her do it more, and then you can play with it in the ways that were mentioned.
Anyway, hopefully some guys got some useful ideas from this post. I’m not sure how well it came across in writing, and I much prefer just demonstrating it in field, because although its complex in writing, its fairly simple in practice once you know what to look for and what to use.
Have fun,
Tyler Durden
Interesting post, however i think is most just a list of things that a guy shoult take in consideration for his game that a practical list of things to do or not to do like the one above, that im gonna take a while to read cause seems too long LOL, but as well as interesting and useful, the part i like and got me thinking about this is the one about making a lot of attraction to make her fuck you, it seems to have an opposite point of view to another players, equaly valid but a lot more agresive and looking for one night stands, that seems pretty good too, however, im looking more for Ltr´s, so we´ll see, im gonna study some of tyler´s material and check it out on field.
POKER
This is why there are many guys in the scene who can run a tight set, but still don’t get laid. They have a certain part of their game down, but need to work more on flipping that f$%king S/C Switch.