Style “Have you ever noticed that there’s something strange about a lot of sargers? It’s as if you look at a guy, and you can just TELL that something is missing.”
And some of these guys even do amazing in the field. They get great reactions most of the time, and sometimes even #s and !s. But, at the same time, they NEVER seem to have a girlfriend.Most of the guys I know are like this. And there are a few reasons why: First, it goes back to one of my cardinal rules: The best way to sarge is to have something BETTER to do than to sarge. Some guys give up everything — school, work, even GFs — to learn to sarge better. But all these things ALLOW you to sarge better, because they make you a more COMPLETE person. A problem I’ve noticed amongst some of the most dedicated posters here, especially those who got into ASF in their teens or early 20s,, is that they have INVENTED themselves through this theory. They are, to some degree, SOCIAL ROBOTS. And, after a great 20 minute set, it begins to show through to an HB that you don’t have anything MORE going for you. The other problem with being a social robot is that you start to thing that everyone else around you is one too, and begin to read TOO MUCH into their actions.Here’s another thing Social Robots do: They treat Women completely differently than they treat Men. If they are around women, even at a lunch for work, they feel a stange shot of adrenaline and feel as if they have to sarge. Interactions with women are no longer normal; they become special occasions to feel a sense of self-worth. Your self-esteem is contantly at the mercy of the reactions of women.Social robots also stop seeing value in things that are non-PU related, such as books and movies and even friends that they can’t learn about PU from.
So, what I’m trying to say in short is that ASF and the PU lifestyle can give you SO much — I know it’s given me so much — but it can take away a lot too. You can end up becoming just a one-dimensional person, a social robot.
The solution is to put your life back into balance; spend just an hour a day reading ASF/PU-related material; spend just three nights or afternoons a week sarging or hanging out with PUAs. Alternate PUA reading with good literature. Make it a HOBBY. And focus a greater share of your efforts on the job/achievements/success you want in life. If you can make something of yourself, the HBs will come and what you’ve learned here will prepare you to deal with them.
There’s a book on cold-reading that basically breaks down all problems to Health, Wealth and Relationships. And each have an Internal and External component. (This btw is the book where Mystery got his theory on this from.) And you need to start DIVIDING your attention between ALL of these to be successful in any single one.
A lot of guys always ask how I got good so quickly. And I think that in addition to all the awesome things (like Mystery Method’s workshop) that changed my life, I was well-rounded and interested in people to start with. So when I ran out of routines, I could still be INTERESTING and INTERESTED. Those two words in caps right there are, I think, the special sauce that can prevent a lot of flaking that guys here seem to get.
What is Happiness, is this a question you have ever asked yourself? Theres probably a different answer for everyone. For me it is maximising my potential, becoming the best I can be, and in a way looking back at my life when I am old and grey and saying “I had a fucking great life”. I think this a pretty standard answer.
You will notice how my answer evolves around me doing things for me. Improving myself for myself. I am not improving myself so people will like me or to get girls to like me, this is a by product of course, but its not my goal. My goal is to improve me….for me.
This is healthy.
I think PU is dangerous for some guys if used incorrectly. The whole thing of acheiving happiness only through picking up women is a bit shallow in my opinion. Think about it, your hapiness is DEPENDENT on a woman. This is BS.
Its called YOUR happiness because it is about YOU!Not some girl!
Apart from counting on women for your happiness, your going to forget about developing yourself and turn into a “social robot” who can seduce girls, but can’t keep them around long term. WHY?
Because you value the girl more than you value yourself!A girl will realise this, you have no prospects, no security, all your friends are weird PU guys so she won’t stick around!
Use PU material wisely to improve you, not for some girl, but for you! Pu material is all great,but make sure you are in the game for the right reasons. If you are, you’ll become a well rounded person and you’ll keep that girl around, long term. Here is in my opinion the most important paragraph in styles entry
“The solution is to put your life back into balance; spend just an hour a day reading ASF/PU-related material; spend just three nights or afternoons a week sarging or hanging out with PUAs. Alternate PUA reading with good literature. Make it a HOBBY. And focus a greater share of your efforts on the job/achievements/success you want in life. If you can make something of yourself, the HBs will come and what you’ve learned here will prepare you to deal with them.”
Now I have mixed opinions about Style to be honest, But this post by him here, is truly great!
Cheers, Noel
mmmm that´s quite true, and the thing is I already thought about that but i forgot you know? but is true, i know a lot of guys like that, that thinks that everybody is sarging all the time and start reading actions in other people that are not there, i have this friend that all the time is:
“look he is amoging me”
“Look, he is trying to apply her kino”
“He is trying to make rapport by moving her thru the place”
Or so…
which i think is kinda sad, and yeah, every time a woman is near “open, open, open” let´s play, DUUUUDE!!! chill out! i have other things in my life too, sarging is great too, but now im in another mood or something.
anyway, those were just some examples, but i think the post could be more directed into inner game, how you should enrich your life with a whole variety of things, that would even help your sarge and helps to realize when we are becoming social robots.
POKER
Well said Poker, glad to see your on the ball!
Cheers, Noel
Gambler,
Great stuff as always.
What book are you referring too? sounds interesting