How to be sexy in public
Just as the problem of an actor is how to be private in public, the problem I think for the pick-up artist is how to be sexy in public. I see a lot of students who are very competent with many of the traditional aspects of game – opening, building attraction, getting comfort, and so on, but who confide to me that the missing building block in their game is “sexual tension”, as if that were something merely equivalent in importance to, say, having a good set of DHVs. Last year I remember one evening taking out a residential student who had struggled all week with sexual escalation, but when we brought two girls back to the flat and initiated a game of spin the bottle, suddenly became as sexily suave as James Bond himself when it was his turn for the 2-on-1 k-close. Nearly everyone – who isn’t a virgin – knows what a bedroom voice is, and if they could only turn that on with a girl they’ve just met – like they would do with a girl who’s already their girlfriend, picking up girls would suddenly become the easiest thing in the world.
Whenever I come across a new theory of pick-up, I always judge the usefulness of the theory by how analogous it is to the act of sex itself. As far as I can see, there are only two things which a girl is interested in a man, and those are how good he will be at making a baby with her, and how good a father he will be. I find these more useful perspectives than the roughly equivalent “attraction” and “comfort”, terms which I find rather vague and distant from the act of sex. A man’s competence in making a baby is, I feel, directly related to his competence at giving her an orgasm. Here I would again distinguish between a woman having an orgasm – which may be something she gives herself coincidentally whilst she is having sex with a man, and a man being solely – or largely – responsible for giving her that orgasm due to his competence. The build up to the woman’s orgasm begins with the man’s (public) approach, and if we can remember the level of connection we have with a woman when we begin to lock in to her orgasm at the time that we approach her in the club then we will be focussing our energies on what, I believe, is essential in the art of pick-up.
Man, bravo! this post is really amazing, and im starting to figure out that´s your specialty, to see the things from another perspective, cause that´s what this post did for me, put me things in another perspective, how i didn´t figure it out before, the orgasm of a woman start from the point that you met her, thinking that way is a lot easier to put myself on a sexual frame and reflect this with the girl, i think this post should be into “inner game” category as well as in “techniques” is quite good, and helps a lot, see ya guys!
POKER
I agree with Poker, a truly great post which could revolutionise “game”. Honestly!
The more i think about it, your take on PU cuts out any bull shit! Your communicating all the right things, confidence, sexual prowess, frame of mind and intent! Its an exciting concept, one I hope to develop myself. Its on my “to do” list! Obviously for this method of PU to work, your game has to be tight in other aspects so I’d say its for the advanced PUA. So beware haha
Great post, very original!
Noel
I love the point you make about the better the orgasm you give her, the more likely she is to conceive. Since her brain is basically designed to conceive with us males, she’ll be much more attracted to a guy she feels more able to conceive with ie. he can give her a better orgasm. So we need to do everything we can to represent we can give her a good orgasm. I guess this is why its so attractive if you create the right sexual tension.
Also try and talk about sex as though its no big deal. Rare thing to do, as men, the horny beasts that we are. But the rewards should pay dividends. When I first started gaming I hooked a two set remarkably well, I was amazed at how quickly she turned the conversation sexual (ten minutes or so in day game). I pulled her up on this saying ‘I can’t believe how sexual you are’ She then replied ‘you’re a virgin aren’t you?’ At which point I realised its vital to talk about it, as though its no big deal. Anyone who thinks it is clearly doesn’t get laid a lot.
I think that is a great experience for you Phillip, and also for us now that you shared, i mean, we all know females are sexual beings as well as we are, but that one expressing that to you is something that get you thinking, I had an experience yesterday with a target that is actually a refresh, a girl that i haven´t spoke with in like a year, a year ago i was in a non-sexual frame with her, just friends, i just heard she broke off with her boyfriend so i gave her a call, and got really sexual on the phone, she asked by herself “when can i see you?” so, there you go, you just gotta go for it, is not big deal!
POKER
Hi,
wearing my favorite jeans and my FBI t-shirt that I got in Washington DC, because I know that both look really good on me.
Also hanging out with my friends makes me feel good about myself.
Smiling and laughing also makes me feel pretty. So I do it a lot.