Britney Spears and Female Sexuality
Hey dudes,
I just saw the video for Britney Spears’ Gimme More and I have to say that this is great – and more to the point, se%y – pop music. A lot of guys would call my taste in Britney Spears (and I’m not talking about her attempts at RnB, I’m referring specifically to her Madonna-type music) “gay”, and certainly her music is popular in the gay subculture, so let’s think about what’s going on here. The stated goal of most men entering the wonderful world of pick-up is to “get laid like a rockstar” (and by the way, getting laid like a rockstar doesn’t have to mean laying lots of girls – it can, or even should be with one girl, your girlfriend. Are you f%^king your girlfriend like a rockstar?) and the connection between rockstar and PUA is well-founded in my opinion in which I’ve always maintained that it’s not being a rockstar that makes a man se%y but it’s being se%y that makes a man a rockstar (in other words, a man naturally becomes a rockstar when his sexuality evolves beyond a certain threshold).
So what is it that Britney’s song evokes in me? I’d say it’s brim full of female sexuality, and we could summarise the entire learning curve in pick-up as a man’s attempt to embrace and incorporate female sexuality – without becoming female, or “gay”. In particular, Britney’s song expresses female sexuality as a standalone entity – not, say, as the “safe” adjunct to a dominant male sexuality which is characterised by RnB, but rather as an implacably sexual goddess – the Stripper – that can enslave the most alpha of males with a single glance, exactly the pedestalisation that novice pick-up artists are warned away from. But what else is a rockstar other than a man who can stand up straight in the face of this onslaught and not only not wither under its extreme sexual intensity but embrace and incorporate it – “give it more”? There aren’t many rockstars around these days, and this sort of music has been appropriated by the gay subculture simply because it’s not so hung up about its implications as is the average frustrated straight guy.
PS: Anyone fancy coming to the stripclub with me after that video? anthonyp@puatraining.com
Even Odysseus was tempted by the three sirens as they sang sweetly to him, and that made me feel a lot less crap about myself when I watched that Britney clip and realised that Im not a rockstar…and least not yet anyway!
Good post Anthony P.
I have a really funny personal analogy to this post.
Whenever i saw a hot girl look at me in a club or bar and my brother in law was there, he would always turn to me and say:
“Hey, she’s only human…” and give me a wink :)
The fact is, it shouldn’t be alien to us guys that women are sexual. We’re both sexual creatures designed to fornicate and explore our wild side… After all, we’re only human! ;)
Yeah i think this post make a lot of sense, and is true, maybe britney spears, Megan fox, halle berry or any other of this celebrity HB´s could make us shake and become AFC´s all over again but that´s because of their value, i like the example of the rockstar, he is just another guy, but a guy with an at least equal value, frequently more value than this celebrity girl, maybe is harder to prove or to embrase but i think is quite posible to play this kind of girls, you guys here in puatraining know that first hand and i´d played my amount of celebrity hb´s around here, so, impossible, is nothing LOL, that´s from some commertial right? well keep it going dudes!
POKER
Thi article brings to me an interesting view point on male and female sexuality. Nowadays in our post-feminist world it seems that female sexuality is not only celebrated but drlled into our minds… we have tv shows like Desperate Housewives and Sex and the City, celebritys constantly baring their tits on magazines and women wearing tops that barely cover their nipples while out on cold winter nights.
In contrast nowadays men are increasingly told that to pursue women sexually is demeaning, wrong, creepy, pervy etc. Its an interesting reversal of roles… in the first half of the twentieth century and before men were allowed to be sexually dominant… in many countries if a girl was raped by a man she was as much shamed by the act as him, and would often have to marry the man.
So it seems like male sexuality has been dragged down in the last half a century while on the other side of the scales female sexuality is increasingly becoming something out of the reach of us mere mortals.
I’m glad therefore that I’ve discovered this world which allows me to not be put in my place sexually… I thought that whatever happened would happened, but now I know its perfectly reasonable, in fact preferable to go out and take it.
Obviously I’m not talking about the earlier example of a man raping a woman as a way of placing his hold on her… any man who did so I would gladly castrate. But we now know that in our modern world there’s a way for us to be completely accepting of our sexuality without any need for guilt.
Unless you believe a lot of extreme feminists.
Gabriel
Gabriel, fantastic post man,
You’ve come in line with some of my thoughts on the seduction community- as society has evolved to a higher level, where women have equal social standing in legal terms, there has been a backlash. Many women have overtaken men in their understanding of sexual dynamics, and the modern ’90s man (as it were) is told not to act on his baser intstincts.
So here pops up the seduction community- its a sociological backlash to the above phenomenon. But its suffering from its own covertness.
We should all work to bring the concepts of game, esspecially the natural game ideas from these pages, into the mainstream consciousness. With people like AFC Adam we’re seeing the change from PUAs vs AFC to everyone being welcome, you just need to take the time to get in touch with your sexuality.
This way all men, and women can experience the joy of safe, pleasurable, and spontaneous sexula expression whenever they wish..
AnthonyP, thanks for the post – the rockstar analogy is so beautiful dude. For me rockstar= self refferal. And your self is your creative soul. Bring on Britney… : )
p.s. Onder nice idea. A wing friend of mine told me this one- “O.K., so you think she’s hot, but somebody, somewhere, is fed up with taking her shit…”, tongue in cheek of course, but always makes me smile..
You know, after reading the posts of Love Plus and Gabriel, that makes me think about, how we as PUAs have kinda an invisible advantage over other guys, that´s we are in a comunity, that is based in respect, value, and if we want it of not, ranks, maybe not too defined, but we know how good we are, or how lame is our game, in any case, most players have a better game than they used to or than an AFC, so just by knowing you are part of a comunity that devotes themselves to seduce and improve that art gives you inner value, you maybe don´t say it to your target, or she didn´t know, but you know and that helps to your inner game, you got the knowledge, so your value is higher.
POKER
It makes sense from what you’re saying to become like a rockstar and emit a v.powerful sexual vibe. I like gamblers idea on developing this skill by going to a strip club and just sit there, holding solid eye contact like a man.
I’ve really enjoyed reading the comments on this post. I think we’ve all got this understanding that women now hold a lot of power in places of social interactions e.g. bars, clubs etc.
The trick though is to believe that you hold the power- and this is something that will become naturally installed into your beliefs after your first few f-closes. I think at that point, you wont feel intimidated when you walk into a bar and seeing gorgeous women wearing next to nothing, because you can look back at your successes and say to yourself ‘I did it then, I can do it now’.
As has been said before, Success=Confidence.
britney spears and k fed…
I must have somehow missed it! Guess I should do some other research before coming to a conclusion….
I now realise women are extremely sexual – way more sexual than men. Has anyone ever watched the film Roger Dodger? Anyway as Cardenas says, “they all want to be porn stars” – just behind closed doors. Be the man, step up!
My new favourite word…. Syntribate
Ha ha!
Roger Dodger film quote…
What’s happening right now is important only in the context…
of our continuing evolution as a species.
Roger, all I’m saying is that I wish my sister would learn to read a subway map.
By saying that, you disregard the primary importance…
of utility in human relationships.
Our ability– Men’s ability to read maps…
to navigate, makes us useful.
You should discourage your sister from even looking at a map.
Are you saying that we women have an inferior sense of direction?
Which way is north,Joyce, without looking around?
What?
You heard me. Point north. Quick. North.
Quick. North.
North. North.
- You’re right. – Is he right?
- He’s right. – Very impressive.
As she has throughout history…
the female responds to the male who displays the most utility.
By honing those skills which make me useful…
I stave off my inevitable obsolescence.
You stay home honing your ability to program a VCR?
My VCR’s been flashing 1 2:00 for three years.
What else, Roger?
Oh, driving a standard shift. Lifting heavy things.
- Air guitar. – Yes, yes.
Go ahead and chuckle, okay?
But until women evolve the ability to move objects telepathically–
and they will–
physical strength remains a primary utility.
Here’s to brute strength then.
Roger, you’re forgetting a very important male utility.
What’s that? Barbecuing?
Sex.
Yeah. I want a guy to do more than just program my VCR.
Oh, I’ll program your VCR, baby, like you never had it.
It’s a top-loader. You think you can handle that?
Interestingly, a group of scientists in England…
just announced their intention to fertilize an egg…
without the use of sperm cells.
I don’t understand that.
Every cell in the human body contains a copy of the genome pattern.
The only reason sperm cells have all the fun is that up until now…
they were the only ones with access.
Within Christopher’s lifetime, artifiicial insemination…
will render sperm as useless as an assembly line worker in Detroit.
Luckily, my accountant set up a golden parachute for my sperm years ago.
In case they were downsized.
Just so you know, Roger, you know that we women…
make love because we like it.
- Not just to procreate. – Yes.
- But are men absolutely necessary? – I don’t know that.
Think of the structure of the female genitalia.
Wait. Wait. Okay, got it.
What is the most sensitive part of the vagina?
-I can’t believe we’ve gotten into this. -I think you know this, Donovan.
It’s the clitoris, fiirst discovered by Renaldus Columbus in 1 559.
He thought it was India.
Oh, no! No!
The crown of the clitoris contains 8,000 nerve fiibers.
It’s a far great concentration than in any part of the male body…
even our fiingertips.
It is the most effiicient, pleasure-delivery system…
ever devised by nature.
Now, ask yourself…
why didn’t the clitoris end up inside the vagina…
so that intercourse would be naturally…
compellingly, constantly pleasurable for a woman?
- I know the answer. – Yes, Ms. Maynard.
Because in primitive time, women died of childbirth.
So for intercourse to be too pleasurable…
wouldn’t make sense from a Darwinian standpoint.
- I’m impressed. – Absolutely right.
- What does that tell us? – Evolution is looking out for us girls?
- Exactly. – That for women…
intercourse and sexual fulfiillment were never intended to intersect.
New technology just makes it offiicial.
Future generations of women will evolve clitorises– ”clitori, clitorati”–
”Clitorissimo.”
that are larger, longer, even more sensitive.
And a woman’s ability, as well as her desire to self-stimulate…
will increase exponentially…
as intercourse is robbed of its procreative utility.
- I’m confused and frightened. – You should be.
The species is not static. We’re in a constant state of flux.
Two genders has been the default setting for one reason only:
So far it’s been the only way to propagate the race.
Is there any species that just has one gender…
that doesn’t have male/female?
Starfiish, for one.
Next time I see a starfiish, I’m gonna tell him to go fuck himself.
Come on. You love it.
No, we don’t.
So where are we headed?
Equality? Equality, what is that?
Is that a principle of nature?
We all sit around reading subway maps together.
No. Of course not. Natural selection.
Now that is a principle of nature.
Selection. Something has to lose. Something has to be defeated…
in order for something else to be selected.
So, what does this mean?
We have to take orders from Joyce for the rest of lives.
That’s right. I like that.
It means that 1 0 or 1 5 generations from now…
men will be reduced to servitude.
Technology and evolution will have combined…
to exclude sperm from procreation…
and our fiinal destiny will be to lift couches…
and wait for that day when telepathy overcomes gravity…
and our gender’s last remaining utility is lost forever.
Forever.
Oh, my God, Roger.
- What? I’m done. – Then I rest my case.
Thank you.