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Two identical twin sisters, both are in love with the same guy, they have vastly differing personalities. The guy is attracted to both of them as they are physically very beautiful. He falls in love with one of them because of her personality and gets along well with the other one. After a strong 5 year relationship together, a tragic accident takes her life away. After a long bereavement process he finds that the memory is dying and that only the sight of the identical twin sister brings her back. She can even ‘do her personality’, so to speak, and sometimes when they are reminiscing and doing impressions of her favourite catch phrases he finds himself falling in love with the illusion and the joy that it brings him. The identical twin is and always has been deeply in love with him and while wouldn’t initiate him romantically, he knows she wouldn’t resist if he initiated her. Would she grow bitter knowing why she was able to have him in the end and would she begin to resent him due to the nature of his love?
How would the passed away twin feel about this?
September 30th, 2008 at 10:33 pm
>How would the passed away twin feel about this?
She wouldn’t; she’s dead. But if you don’t think I should be so morose about it, I think when people want something even if it may not be morally right, people can find a way to justify it if it serves a personal need.
September 30th, 2008 at 10:36 pm
Another thinker uh… what´s with this twins sisters issue that you guys love so much lol, well, I think that it would be a little weird for the guy to start a relationship with the other sister, if he would it should be because of her, not because she can imitate the other one, at least i could not do it, i mean, i can not name my pets after a dead one since i am too aware that they have different personalities even if is a cat or a dog that looks exactly like the passed one, with a human, and with a relationship would be a lot weirder, now, if they should go on with this anyway, i think they could not be really happy since he would be always comparing her with her fined sister, but if that would actually worked, i think the dead sister would be very happy to know that her love in life and her sister are happy now, of course, just my oppinion.
POKER
October 1st, 2008 at 6:23 am
Huh?
October 1st, 2008 at 8:07 am
This is a good analogy that explains clearly just how vital it is to be yourself. Yes you can get someone attracted to you via routines and games but think about it.
Is this person really attracted to you; the real quality person you are, or the games and methods you played with her?
The key to natural game is to understand why the routines work on a deep level so that you can apply it to your OWN personality rather than to just see it on the surface level…
Women will be able to sense this a mile away. I realised that at first hand in my own experience as i used too much game in my dating with this one girl and thought i was doing well, but eventually learned that she only held off on a full on relationship because i wasn’t being my true self…
October 1st, 2008 at 10:05 am
If she grows bitter, its her own fault for continuing with a relationship where she knows its not truly her he’s love with.
But I think a deeper question that relates to PUA would be, is it good for her to start the relationship based on the fact that he’s attracted her because of who she reminds him of, but then try to progress that relationship onto something deeper and more to do with her?
This is parallel to, is it good for someone to start a relationship on grounds where one person is not actually attracted to the actual person, but to an image that does not accurately represent them? Does it make it okay if he relationship progresses onto real grounds?
To be honest, lots of people do it. It’s very rare that we really know someone before we’re attracted to them, so we start off being attracted to the image of them rather than the actual person themselves. One of the most rewarding things of a relationship is peeling away the images of each other and knowing what one each other are really like. The object of PUA is creating an image that we know they will be attracted to… the fact that so much planning and effort goes behind it often makes us feel like we’re conspiring to trick people.
This really all depends on your intentions though. If you’re a serial killer and the image of attraction you create is simply to draw in your victims, then yeah, you’re conspiring with malicious intent.
If you’re creating this image in the hopes of attracting someone who you can then spend a lifetime peeling away the image and getting to know each other, I see no problem with that. If they really don’t like the real you once they get to know you, then end the relationship.
Also, if you’re creating an image for just a night of quick sex and nothing else, I see nothing wrong with that. Such nights happen so quickly that we only ever know the image, not the person. It is therefore largely irrelevant to who the person is underneath for such nights, unless you want to take things further, in which case see above.
But what if you are outright lying in order to create an image? Well… I guess that’s just one of those moral dilemmas that everyones got a view on. If you want a satisfying long term relationship, then I’m still naieve enough to think that telling the truth is needed for that. For a quick, fling, maybe its alright to lie, maybe not. I personally am not disposed towards out and out lying about who I am. If you were to create an image and keep one up for your entire married life when there’s a ‘real’ you underneath, I would say your actually harming yourself more than anyone else.
Interesting post, gave me lots of mental stimulation.
Gabriel
October 1st, 2008 at 10:39 am
Stealth, Thats such a blunt comment and it made me giggle, harsh but funny.
“How would the passed away twin feel about this?
She wouldn’t; she’s dead”
ANYWAY
The alive twin will grow bitter as she will start to realise that the man is not in love with the real her, she is having to be someone she isn’t.
Not to mention That man is a fucking weirdo for WANTING TO hump his dead wifes twin!!WEIRDOOOOOO LOL!!
October 1st, 2008 at 12:05 pm
“Not to mention That man is a fucking weirdo for WANTING TO hump his dead wifes twin!!WEIRDOOOOOO LOL!!”
That´s so true! LOL, this post is actually really funny at the same time is a thinker, has somehow a little bit of black humor when you think about it but is pretty deep at the same time, and yeah, the alive twin would be bitter as everybody here says, i think the guy should study a little of pick up arts and get a new girl and stop being so sticky with the same “model” LOL, ok… bad joke, see ya later guys!
POKER
November 10th, 2008 at 6:31 pm
The twin who is still alive might be cool with the idea in the beginning, but would eventually grow to resent the relationship, not knowing what place she had in the guy’s mind and heart.
I think it does also say a lot for routine-based game - if you aren’t being authentic, things might work initially, but eventually, they will go stale, fall apart, etc. She won’t be getting the real mcCoy, just a watered down version.
If the guy were to admit that he thought of the dead sister when around the live one, but persisted with the relationship with an attraction for the things that make the living sister an individual, the dead sister would likely be happy that the living sister and her former husband had both found someone to make them happy.
The relationship could change over time and the guy could start to become aware of things about the living twin that he hadn’t noticed, as he was only looking for the things that made her like her dead sister. In time, he could learn to love her for who she is, and her own personality traits.