Comments on: Rapport, bonding and making an emotional connection with her http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2008/09/rapport-bonding-and-making-an-emotional-connection-with-her/ The Most Active Pick Up Artist Seduction Blog on the Planet Tue, 07 Feb 2012 14:33:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: cliff http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2008/09/rapport-bonding-and-making-an-emotional-connection-with-her/#comment-2753 cliff Sat, 21 Feb 2009 13:15:50 +0000 http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/?p=550#comment-2753 Great blog man, good material Great blog man, good material

]]> By: Craig http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2008/09/rapport-bonding-and-making-an-emotional-connection-with-her/#comment-1085 Craig Sun, 30 Nov 2008 21:38:19 +0000 http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/?p=550#comment-1085 I have always found several times that just hanging out with a girl long enough as the main man in her life she will eventually become attracted... lead her on a bit of an emotional adventure - explore places, mix ordinary conversation with subtle sexual body language like strong eye contact... I have always found several times that just hanging out with a girl long enough as the main man in her life she will eventually become attracted… lead her on a bit of an emotional adventure – explore places, mix ordinary conversation with subtle sexual body language like strong eye contact…

]]> By: PhilipC http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2008/09/rapport-bonding-and-making-an-emotional-connection-with-her/#comment-475 PhilipC Tue, 30 Sep 2008 19:34:18 +0000 http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/?p=550#comment-475 Rapport is huge. I arrived at an intermediate salsa class, and a girl I barely new slapped me on the wrist and said 'you were supposed to be in the beginners class, thats naughty,' and gave me a gentle slap on the wrist. I instantly felt a lot more attraction for her, since she was so comfortable in my presence and cared about where I was. It felt as though she was a family member or an ex girlfriend or something, so I felt much closer to her. Rapport is huge. I arrived at an intermediate salsa class, and a girl I barely new slapped me on the wrist and said ‘you were supposed to be in the beginners class, thats naughty,’ and gave me a gentle slap on the wrist. I instantly felt a lot more attraction for her, since she was so comfortable in my presence and cared about where I was. It felt as though she was a family member or an ex girlfriend or something, so I felt much closer to her.

]]> By: Reset http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2008/09/rapport-bonding-and-making-an-emotional-connection-with-her/#comment-438 Reset Tue, 30 Sep 2008 10:24:42 +0000 http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/?p=550#comment-438 Great topic and great comments from all you guys!! Keep it up! Rapport is important we can all agree to that. I'm not gonna talk about what rapport is or how you can build it. I'll just talk from my experience. Rapport isn't just something that will 'get you laid'. It's much more than that. I might sound as a hopeless romantic but I'll say it anyway. Recently I started going out in the field more and getting good at this. Something else happened recently as well. I moved to a new country. When my course started I met some girls who happened to come from the same country. As a social being, I got their numbers. Now, imagine this.. What do we have in common? We were born at the same place and we all moved to a new country to study the same thing. These were obvious from the moment we said hi. Getting numbers from the field we all know that when you're starting out is not that easy to arrange day 2's from each and every one of them. Some might not even reply. With these girls I don't have to worry about that. I know that I'll get an immediate reply. (Does that ring a bell about the reason for flaking?? More comfort guys..) I often arrange outings with many of them or even with one of them and we're both comfortable.. No need to worry that much about what the other person thinks. Especially one of them has an excellent sense of humor and we have quite a few laughs all the time. (This is not a one-itis by the way and I'm not saying it to ask for the usual advice 'there is this girl.. What can I do now?') She's not that hot although she is cute but automatically has an advantage over other girls because I know that we're having fun together and she has an awesome personality. What is my point? The importance of rapport. I meet new people almost every day. I get their numbers. But I don't have this kind of relationship with them right away. I'd spend more time with these girls instead of an HB9 (not sure about an HB10 though haha) that I met that moment. Because we share things. I don't mind if I lose a set. But I would mind if I lost this particular set though. There are people who you'd like to have in your life and people that you're not so sure about. Any person that you meet can transition to someone you'd like to be a part of your life. But it takes time. It takes time to build that rapport. I want these people in my life because I've invested too much in this relationship and they did too. This is the key. I shared this story to make a point across and emphasize the importance of rapport. This doesn't mean that I'm not going to the field and I'm not sarging. I do and I will keep on doing it. I'm just saying that when I'm out with these people they are more important to me than any other cold approach I'll do that day. We keep on saying how important rapport is for the girl and how it makes them feel. I don't know how it makes them feel. I know how it makes ME feel. It's similar to them. I'll keep on going to the field until I find someone who's hot and I have that kind of connection with. It's not about us being from the same country.. We have so much in common that it's inevitable feeling that way. I understand what Gambler said to one of his posts that he prefers a girlfriend over a one night stand. There are some people that you want in your life. Beware though!! You want them in your life not because you need them to make you happy. You are happy already and let them CONTRIBUTE to your happiness. And on your part give value to their lives. Now, that's rapport.. Great topic and great comments from all you guys!! Keep it up! Rapport is important we can all agree to that. I’m not gonna talk about what rapport is or how you can build it. I’ll just talk from my experience.
Rapport isn’t just something that will ‘get you laid’. It’s much more than that. I might sound as a hopeless romantic but I’ll say it anyway. Recently I started going out in the field more and getting good at this. Something else happened recently as well. I moved to a new country. When my course started I met some girls who happened to come from the same country. As a social being, I got their numbers. Now, imagine this.. What do we have in common? We were born at the same place and we all moved to a new country to study the same thing. These were obvious from the moment we said hi.
Getting numbers from the field we all know that when you’re starting out is not that easy to arrange day 2′s from each and every one of them. Some might not even reply. With these girls I don’t have to worry about that. I know that I’ll get an immediate reply. (Does that ring a bell about the reason for flaking?? More comfort guys..) I often arrange outings with many of them or even with one of them and we’re both comfortable.. No need to worry that much about what the other person thinks. Especially one of them has an excellent sense of humor and we have quite a few laughs all the time. (This is not a one-itis by the way and I’m not saying it to ask for the usual advice ‘there is this girl.. What can I do now?’) She’s not that hot although she is cute but automatically has an advantage over other girls because I know that we’re having fun together and she has an awesome personality.
What is my point? The importance of rapport.
I meet new people almost every day. I get their numbers. But I don’t have this kind of relationship with them right away. I’d spend more time with these girls instead of an HB9 (not sure about an HB10 though haha) that I met that moment. Because we share things. I don’t mind if I lose a set. But I would mind if I lost this particular set though. There are people who you’d like to have in your life and people that you’re not so sure about. Any person that you meet can transition to someone you’d like to be a part of your life. But it takes time. It takes time to build that rapport. I want these people in my life because I’ve invested too much in this relationship and they did too. This is the key.
I shared this story to make a point across and emphasize the importance of rapport. This doesn’t mean that I’m not going to the field and I’m not sarging. I do and I will keep on doing it. I’m just saying that when I’m out with these people they are more important to me than any other cold approach I’ll do that day. We keep on saying how important rapport is for the girl and how it makes them feel. I don’t know how it makes them feel. I know how it makes ME feel. It’s similar to them. I’ll keep on going to the field until I find someone who’s hot and I have that kind of connection with. It’s not about us being from the same country.. We have so much in common that it’s inevitable feeling that way. I understand what Gambler said to one of his posts that he prefers a girlfriend over a one night stand. There are some people that you want in your life. Beware though!! You want them in your life not because you need them to make you happy. You are happy already and let them CONTRIBUTE to your happiness. And on your part give value to their lives. Now, that’s rapport..

]]> By: Antonio "Poker" http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2008/09/rapport-bonding-and-making-an-emotional-connection-with-her/#comment-420 Antonio "Poker" Tue, 30 Sep 2008 07:35:14 +0000 http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/?p=550#comment-420 Good Topic, Rapport is very important, in fact it was the part of my game that i was failing on, so i took a trip inside my own life to make it better cause i knew that if i could make the rapport in a better way, my game were gonna improve in an amazing way, and it did, first of all, yes, you are totally right, one of the best things you can do to build rapport is to show the girl you have some things in common with her, but careful here, you don´t wanna look like all the wussy guys that say to her "yes, i like that too", or "yeah, you are right, you are right in everything you say" this is just too needy and won´t get you anywere, you should try to start a conversation with her and take hints about his likes and dislikes, for example, if she tells you something like; "Well, im studing education, so i wanna become a teacher" then you can assume she likes kids, you could be wrong and she wants to be a College profesor, but is most unlikely, so, later you can say something like ; "Yeah, so i took my nephew to the park and it was great, we had a great time, i love that kid, do you like kids?" And she goes "Of course, they are so cute bla bla bla..." it seems you are just clicking, you had a conection, but is not too obvious, other way to create rapport is by touching her, but not in a creepy way, gently and in a non sexual way at the begining you´ll start scalating later, she gotta be confortable with you touching her like that to be comfortable with you touching her in the bedroom later, and another way is to be a leader, make her see that you are in control with the situation, take her hand, move her from one place to another in the bar, so she sees that is safe with you even if you take her some place else, and well, it goes on and on... Finally i wanna coment on this, i have two female roomates, i was chatting with one of them in our living room, so i asked her how should be a guy if he wanted to pick her up in a bar or something, she is an HB8 probably, she said "I don´t date guys that i meet in bars, you know that" and i said "well, what if the guy is a swimer or something?" ( she is into sinchronized swiming) and she said "well... that´s different, that would be interesting" So... as you see, what she said here, without saying it is... "RAPPORT WORKS" See you people! keep with the great job! POKER Good Topic, Rapport is very important, in fact it was the part of my game that i was failing on, so i took a trip inside my own life to make it better cause i knew that if i could make the rapport in a better way, my game were gonna improve in an amazing way, and it did, first of all, yes, you are totally right, one of the best things you can do to build rapport is to show the girl you have some things in common with her, but careful here, you don´t wanna look like all the wussy guys that say to her “yes, i like that too”, or “yeah, you are right, you are right in everything you say” this is just too needy and won´t get you anywere, you should try to start a conversation with her and take hints about his likes and dislikes, for example, if she tells you something like;
“Well, im studing education, so i wanna become a teacher”
then you can assume she likes kids, you could be wrong and she wants to be a College profesor, but is most unlikely, so, later you can say something like ;
“Yeah, so i took my nephew to the park and it was great, we had a great time, i love that kid, do you like kids?”
And she goes “Of course, they are so cute bla bla bla…” it seems you are just clicking, you had a conection, but is not too obvious, other way to create rapport is by touching her, but not in a creepy way, gently and in a non sexual way at the begining you´ll start scalating later, she gotta be confortable with you touching her like that to be comfortable with you touching her in the bedroom later, and another way is to be a leader, make her see that you are in control with the situation, take her hand, move her from one place to another in the bar, so she sees that is safe with you even if you take her some place else, and well, it goes on and on…
Finally i wanna coment on this, i have two female roomates, i was chatting with one of them in our living room, so i asked her how should be a guy if he wanted to pick her up in a bar or something, she is an HB8 probably, she said “I don´t date guys that i meet in bars, you know that” and i said “well, what if the guy is a swimer or something?” ( she is into sinchronized swiming) and she said “well… that´s different, that would be interesting”
So… as you see, what she said here, without saying it is… “RAPPORT WORKS”

See you people! keep with the great job!

POKER

]]> By: ethnic indulgence http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2008/09/rapport-bonding-and-making-an-emotional-connection-with-her/#comment-397 ethnic indulgence Mon, 29 Sep 2008 20:53:46 +0000 http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/?p=550#comment-397 ha, this "spam protection" system just layed the law down on my elementary math skills, so this ll be me trying to rewrite this post. f my rudamentary life. preciate it noel, and that's the best example i have. just taking two ideas and connecting them through emotions and NOT physical facts or figures is the goal. the idea is to break from our masculine/rational brain and, for lack of a better phrase, connect with our femanine side. like, instead of talking about how bicycles are the most efficient means of human transport down the road, ruminate on the roll that the road plays as the safe haven for a bike, each designed to accentuate the best characteristics of the other, pressing against eachother seemlessly. i just whipped that one out of the ass, but i think you got me. and i like the empathy excersise. tony robbins will talk about how its not that everyone enjoys everything they do, but we all do what we do to fufill our basic needs: certainty, uncertainty, significance, and connection. maybe your empathy excercise can tie into discovering which of those needs a person needs? idunno, ill try it out ha, this “spam protection” system just layed the law down on my elementary math skills, so this
ll be me trying to rewrite this post. f my rudamentary life.

preciate it noel, and that’s the best example i have. just taking two ideas and connecting them through emotions and NOT physical facts or figures is the goal. the idea is to break from our masculine/rational brain and, for lack of a better phrase, connect with our femanine side. like, instead of talking about how bicycles are the most efficient means of human transport down the road, ruminate on the roll that the road plays as the safe haven for a bike, each designed to accentuate the best characteristics of the other, pressing against eachother seemlessly.
i just whipped that one out of the ass, but i think you got me.

and i like the empathy excersise. tony robbins will talk about how its not that everyone enjoys everything they do, but we all do what we do to fufill our basic needs: certainty, uncertainty, significance, and connection.

maybe your empathy excercise can tie into discovering which of those needs a person needs? idunno, ill try it out

]]> By: Noel http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2008/09/rapport-bonding-and-making-an-emotional-connection-with-her/#comment-393 Noel Mon, 29 Sep 2008 20:19:34 +0000 http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/?p=550#comment-393 An exercise I know (credit to the PUA training guys) is that take a list of random professions Doctor, scientist, book maker, architect, train spotter etc. it can be anything. Pick one of these, and talk for 30-45 seconds on each one using the emapthy skill and really imagine why they do their jobs and why it makes them happy. The more you do this, the more your brain is trained to emapthise. I don't think this exercise is as good as yours but it helps! An exercise I know (credit to the PUA training guys) is that take a list of random professions

Doctor, scientist, book maker, architect, train spotter etc. it can be anything.

Pick one of these, and talk for 30-45 seconds on each one using the emapthy skill and really imagine why they do their jobs and why it makes them happy. The more you do this, the more your brain is trained to emapthise.

I don’t think this exercise is as good as yours but it helps!

]]> By: Noel http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2008/09/rapport-bonding-and-making-an-emotional-connection-with-her/#comment-392 Noel Mon, 29 Sep 2008 20:15:35 +0000 http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/?p=550#comment-392 Hey man, I think your exercise is awsome. Really helps with conversational skills also. Can you do me a favour and PLEASE elaborate on it and give me a different example, when you have time of course. Just so I can get it into my thick head lol Cheers Buddy Noel Hey man, I think your exercise is awsome. Really helps with conversational skills also.

Can you do me a favour and PLEASE elaborate on it and give me a different example, when you have time of course. Just so I can get it into my thick head lol

Cheers Buddy

Noel

]]> By: ethnic indulgence http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2008/09/rapport-bonding-and-making-an-emotional-connection-with-her/#comment-389 ethnic indulgence Mon, 29 Sep 2008 20:07:40 +0000 http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/?p=550#comment-389 man, way to keep it fresh on a subject thats been hammered at by the community for so long. and good eye to noel for extending this topic. this blog is quickly becoming a well oiled machine. do you have any field excercises to build this muscle for puas? i catch what you're saying, but its always tough, when I'm learning anything, to go from o to 60 without some intermident steps. when i worked with the guys at the Art of Charm they had a great excercise that helped you make a connection no matter if you didnt know the slightest about wat the girl was talking about. how? it wasn't based on building rappore based on some shared experiences, but just on emotion. the idea was that we all share the same core emotions, and emotions are something you can connect with anyone on. even if you're gaming a saigon hooker with a limp (god forbid) there's always some emotion that the two of you have shared along your twisted path (in this case, hers bein a bit more twisted then yours). so the excercise? its simple and can be done by yourself. take two objects, ideas, things, people watev, and create an emotional connection between the two and convince yourself or others that they are the same. here's an example. college and an oak tree. The roots of college is your entire life thats led up to your first day of class, like the earth around the base of a sapling, and like the earth, its often composed of everything else the world has offered the tree, most of it out of its direct control. and like your entry into adulthood, the sprouting of the oak tree is its moment of truth, to no longer be unproven potential balled up in a seed, but rather to show the world, and itself, what its capable of. i promise. give it a try, start getting good at it and it will build your rappore game. that's just my opinion. man, way to keep it fresh on a subject thats been hammered at by the community for so long. and good eye to noel for extending this topic. this blog is quickly becoming a well oiled machine.

do you have any field excercises to build this muscle for puas? i catch what you’re saying, but its always tough, when I’m learning anything, to go from o to 60 without some intermident steps. when i worked with the guys at the Art of Charm they had a great excercise that helped you make a connection no matter if you didnt know the slightest about wat the girl was talking about. how?

it wasn’t based on building rappore based on some shared experiences, but just on emotion.

the idea was that we all share the same core emotions, and emotions are something you can connect with anyone on. even if you’re gaming a saigon hooker with a limp (god forbid) there’s always some emotion that the two of you have shared along your twisted path (in this case, hers bein a bit more twisted then yours).

so the excercise? its simple and can be done by yourself. take two objects, ideas, things, people watev, and create an emotional connection between the two and convince yourself or others that they are the same.

here’s an example. college and an oak tree. The roots of college is your entire life thats led up to your first day of class, like the earth around the base of a sapling, and like the earth, its often composed of everything else the world has offered the tree, most of it out of its direct control. and like your entry into adulthood, the sprouting of the oak tree is its moment of truth, to no longer be unproven potential balled up in a seed, but rather to show the world, and itself, what its capable of.

i promise. give it a try, start getting good at it and it will build your rappore game.

that’s just my opinion.

]]> By: Anders http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2008/09/rapport-bonding-and-making-an-emotional-connection-with-her/#comment-383 Anders Mon, 29 Sep 2008 19:35:54 +0000 http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/?p=550#comment-383 Another graet post.. But where can I see some of your videos?? Another graet post.. But where can I see some of your videos??

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