Thanks Ayman!

(1) It goes against the grain. I mentioned in another post that in the world of seduction we are bombarded with concepts about control. However, sometimes the best thing to do is sit back. Let others do the work for once. This post emphasises this important concept.

(2) It’s a great thing to concentrate on for the fans of NLP. You will be surprised next time your in set and you find your tongue running away from you what thinking those two simple words can do. Shut Up! Stamp it onto your bloody forehead if you have to! Lol, it would be a great opener.

Have fun guys,
JonDoe.

personally I have never experienced it, not that I know of, but I want to!lol

I’ll definitely take what you said on board.

Ps I’m not a londoner, am from Northern Ireland but plan to live in London some time as I think its the best place in the UK for enhancing your skills. What about you man?

Cheers, Noel

All this is great stuff, there’s a million benefits to say less, and often talking too much is just a fear thing, so it comes accross as such.

So I’m a bit of a hippy, but I think the best thing to do when you ‘shut up’ is concentrate on your breathing- just place your attention on it. This allows you to meditate whilst actually engaging with a girl or group.

You don’t need to be thinking about anything, just hold your intention there- something will float into your mind which will be right for the moment, if it doesn’t then she will fill the gap.

Out of chaos inevitably comes order. The Tao Te Ching says that when we do that which takes least effort, order will prevail. If you can trust this force within an interaction then you will develope comfort, and if you introduce a sexual intention then you’ll increase sexual tension too.

Anybody have the experience of simply clearing your mind and trusting to fate? Its woked for me, anyone else?

So for example I was with a girl a few weeks back and we were not getting on, so I cleared my mind and relaxed my entire body, then sat in silence and relaxation. A few seconds later she broke the silence, which was a form of qualification, I rewarded her qualification with kino, and she qualified herself more… the seed was planted in the silence.

Any thoughts?

Keep up good work guys…….gonna keep on looking….despite being old, fat and ugly….lol!

John – Well done, I AM proud!!! :)

Gambler – Thanks man… I couldn’t have done it all without your help. I’ll never forget that!

Gabriel – Thanks for your honesty… sounds like you need to build comfort in your own skin. If you can be comfortable in yourself, you’re not going to worry about a bit of silence with a girl – and it will be a MASSIVE step forward, trust me! Hope you had a good night out :)

Richard – Yes, it’s very possible… that’s the whole point! ;) BUT… you can’t do it feeling like a twat, you’ve got to be totally cool with it. Otherwise, your discomfort with it will be smelt a mile off.

Extasy – Perfect… good work my friend!

Onder – did you read the post? lol

Pharoah – good stuff man, and good luck. It will be fun :-D

knight4mares – looooool I love it!

Tung – errr, I love the internet. At least knight4mares was creative.

Antonio “Poker” – very interesting and it makes absolute sense. Thanks for sharing.

Noel – Very true. Thanks for giving us your experience.

Essentially, this is non verbal game. In my previous post about the guys approaching in bin bags (lol) I mention how communication is 93 percent non verbal and 7 percent verbal.

So in a way, it means the majority of game is non verbal. so why do people spend so much time learning lines when time would be much better invested in learning this non verbal stuff.

I read that a CAVEMAN (remember cavemen didn;t have a native language,they kind of grunted lol, so they communicated completely non verbally) would be better at picking up girls than only a guy who uses lines. Although this theory can’t be proven, it makes you think doesn’t it?

A caveman could out game you by use of his non verbal communication, whereas you have the benefit of speech and yet he could steal your girl? Far fetched? I’m not so sure lol

Just a little quick story from me

It was one of my first ever approaches, with three asain girls. I cant remember how I opened but things went well anyway and as the set progressed, I realised I was running out of things to say. My gut reaction was to evacuate the set because there became this awkward silence.

I didn’t follow my gut reaction and I stayed in the set, silent, just looking at them as if to say ” its your fault this conversation has gone dry and silent”. After a while, say a minute, the pressure had drifted onto the girls to fill the silence and they were asking me questions, and eventually I number closed.

What did I do here, I shut up and used my non verbal communication. Having nothing to say isn’t a bad thing if you have the confident body language and remain in set. Who says DHV stories and routines are the key to game. I used non verbal communication and number closed without the stuff!

Cheers,

Noel

What i said earlier about mindset is true. If your mindset is to kiss a girl, your body and actions will naturally follow towards that goal. Things like kino, looking at her sexually and speaking seductively will start to happen naturally.

“Emotion could be the enemy, if you give into emotion, you can lose yourself… Be at one with your emotions, because the body always follows the mind…”