Are you a proud PUA?
I started as you are.
I started by reading this website and wondering what was this “System” that PUATraining taught.
I wondered if I really could feel as confident and successful with women as I did in other areas of my life.
But I was worried about what people might think so I didn’t tell anyone before I went on the bootcamp.
But afterwards I felt it was such a positive and eye opening experience that I told everyone in my life. My friends were truly supportive of me wanting to improve myself. Some needed to have it explained to them, some took some convincing, but they could all see the difference it had made to me.
Now I’m a trainer, everyone in my life knows about that too.
Isn’t it strange that we think it’s completely normal to educate ourselves in every other area but social skills?
So who’s with me – who’s a proud PUA?
Hell yea! I love helping guys change their lives and just transform from shy, quiet introverts into social, fun, awesome guys to hang out with.
The problem I get a lot is people going “oh so you just teach guys to be players”, which is completely not true. Generally the guys that just want to “play” girls think they are too good for PUA.
Most of the guys I’ve trained are really great friendly, nice guys, who go and do amazing things with their new found skills (like find the love of their life and live fulfilled lives). I truly believe The Community is making the world a much better place :)
I’m a proud PUA and a proud teacher! :D
– Solace
http://www.letsinspire.net
Lol, you know, this is a topic that pulls my attention specially, mostly cause recently i had been asking some “puas” or at least players, how do they feel about this, and what´s their final purpose with this, most of them play de deaf or just didn´t wanna answer, i think they are kinda ashamed of being puas or being studing social skills, another thing that comes to my mind is some days ago, i just told a friend of mine to check out my blog, he didn´t got it before that so i gave him the direction, here it is if you wanna check it too, www.puapoker.blogspot.com and he told me “yeah yeah yeah, so proud of being a PUA uh?” and i told him “Yeaaaah! im really proud about that, why? don´t you?” and he just nod a little, but well, answering your question, yeah, im a PUA and a really proud one!.
Hey, now that you put this theme out, how is like to be a trainer? like for example with your interaction with girls, what do they think about that?
Take care!
POKER
I’m not ashamed to admit that I need to work on this aspect of my life- afterall it’s a pretty important aspect.
A lot of people say that your wedding day is the most important day in your life- the day when you and your loved one decide to commit to eachother.
Well surely learning how to find that loved one is an integral aspect of that? I’m not thinking about marriage or anything like that (Im only 21). But if I did ever decide to settle down I would only be truly happy if I knew that I was with her because it was my choice, not because I couldn’t do any better, not because we decided to get together because we were in the same peer groups and not because I couldn’t be bothered to go out and attract the highest quality girl possible.
But PU isn’t just about attracting a partner, it improves so many aspects of your life. Confidence increases, socialising skills increase (with both genders), self-esteem increases, happiness increases, the feeling of being alive increases… I’ve only had a few successes in field but Ive already felt all of these benefits- and I can’t wait to see where my path of self improvement will take me…honestly, I can’t wait!
I am proud of myself!! That’s the starting point. I’m not a pua, I’m not white nor black, Asian or European, I’m not an emo, not a rocker, not a smoker not a communist or liberal or democrat or whatever…
We tend to categorize people. And often we are in the same ‘category’ with some people when it comes to political views (therefore friends who have something in common) and in a different category when it comes to the football team we support (and therefore ‘enemies’? with the same people we considered to be our friends??) Complicated huh??
I like looking at people as individuals. There are many people who changer their political views or their religion or acquired the citizenship of a new country in the course of their lives. These things come and go. Really. Even fanatics have changed their views many times. There are no categories. These were created later to help some people ‘brand us’. I don’t wanna be branded.
I’m not a pua. I’m someone who decided to improve his social skills (among other skills) and when I go out I talk to many people. I don’t use other people’s material and each conversation is unique. I’m not a Christian, nor a Buddhist nor a Muslim. I’m someone who prays to God (or however you want to call a Source Higher than us)
to satisfy my spiritual needs. I’m not a fan of any football team although I like watching football and at one point I might support one team or another.
So, I’m not a PUA. I accept myself as I am in every aspect of my life. Every day is a journey that leads me to my destination. I’m always trying to improve and sometimes I want to take a break. I don’t fit in any category cause I don’t believe there are any categories. This is what I believe. This is who I am. And I’m proud of it!!!
The shift I made where I moved from worrying about what people thought (hiding my copy of the game, not telling anyone what I was doing when I was learning) to now being honest and standing by any actions I make is something I think has helped me massively in game and other areas.
If you can logically explain something and believe it is morally right you should have the balls to stand up for it.
I am completely proud of the fact that after a few years, I have finally been able to consistently make the effort to improve myself in every way.
It took a couple years to get the ball rolling but once it did, things just got better. \
And I agree, I used to get a little hesitant when I would tell people that I help men in building a better life, especially when it comes to dating. But why should I be hesitant? It’s what I do! I should be proud! I am proud!
And everyday I tell myself how awesome I am to be able to do this, not only for other people, but or myself. There is SO much reward in that.
hi,
what about the next level, humble PUA? ;)
greetings ;)
t0sh. bat t0sh
That’s for sure man!!!
I am totally satisfied with current results, although I cannot keep on studying and practising more and more… in all areas of my life.
Regards all,
Eduardo
hi,
yeah, word… this path ‘all’ is worth walking ;)
t0sh
Just correcting.. I mean we cannot STOP studying and practising….
Oh man Gulliver, you just took the words right out my mouth. And like Gambler said, one of the main shifts that came for me too me (and which made a massive difference to my game) was when this became not just an acceptance but a positive in my own mind. Now because my actions are more in line with my core values, things just feel so much more “right”.
I have made this belief shift over the past year. Absolute belief & almost delusional confidence make for success.