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Hey guys quick question………………..who lies more men or women?
Only kidding, love getting people’s attention and saying that 
Come on, it would kill if it I was standing in front of you saying it right now.
Anyway, moving on to my blog topic. I have decided to write this one on interruptions when in set, as ‘Reset’ left a comment on my last blog, which was a video approach, as to how I dealt with the woman receiving a phone call when I was in set with her and how they should be dealt with.
I am going to start by saying that each situation is different and there is no universal method for dealing with such interruptions. You must assess each set, at what stage of the pick up you are in and how important the interruption is for the woman.
In my video approach, I stayed in set and waited for the woman to finish her phone convo which she picked up mid-set. Why? Well, because at this stage of the pickup the number close was already on, it would be rude to walk away. Also, she was meeting her friend and that is who rang her; thus it was an important enough reason for her to break set and answer I felt. After she’d finished, I number closed.
If you feel she accepted an interruption in set that wasn’t acceptable by your standards and plain rude, then it is up to you how you react to this – some guys might huff and puff, some guys might approach another girl – Me personally, I tend to smile and walk away, as there is no need to react, as you gave someone who was rude far too much value. There is also no need to come off as a man whore and approach another woman immediately in front of her just for the sake of it, it is much more powerful to smile and walk away, although the next time she sees me I will be with a very good looking female friend of mine or HB I have just gamed, then I smile again, this makes her want to come over and work me, now she truly realises who the prize is.
Every situation is different, but whatever it may be think about the following two things:
1) At what stage of the pickup you are at; and
2) How important the interruption is for the woman
Hope it helps Reset.
Until next time stay kool and keep gaming,
Your Friendly, Neighbourhood PUA, Dharam 
October 8th, 2008 at 10:57 am
Simple, but solid advice. I totally agree about not going straight to another girl in front of her, that’s just immature apart from anything.
It’s all back to that PU rule of being polite (if you’re blown out of a set, smile and say ‘pleasure meeting you’ etc), and I think thats the way to go- you don’t want to leave any bad vibes in ANY of the interactions you make, especially in a club as it could put you off big time.
Always enjoy your thoughts mate, and I really appreciate the fact you answer comments and show a presence on these blogs.
October 8th, 2008 at 3:30 pm
Thanks Dharam! I really appreciate it you taking the time to post something on interruptions. Actually it happened to me a couple of times yestesday. I was in a club and basically a friend interrupted me and at that time the girl’s friend started talking to her. It was going good but it was really early so I decided not to stay there and wait for her to finish so I just kino(ed) lightly and told both of them ‘I’ll see you guys later! Enjoy your night’. For the rest of the night I could have opened again but I just used the social proof they gave me every time I walked by.
The second time it happened to a set I had re-opened (so there was already attraction and comfort). I was with a girl one-on-one (3-set when I opened) and some of her friends had just arrived in the club and came to tell her they were going downstairs and she followed them. When I was leaving I went to say goodbye and I got her number. I understand it depends on the situation but probably experience in the field will teach us how to calibrate the situation. In this situations I just re-opened. But I don’t know if I could have waited..
Thanks again, I’ll keep your advice in mind next time!
October 12th, 2008 at 4:44 pm
hi,
who’s lying more? W,ell if a guy can follow the women’s emotional strategies, then maybe you dont know the answer
:D
t0sh
hint: _emotional_. yeah something like that…