There’s a question that I find myself asking students again and again.
It’s a question that gets to the bottom of how people feel about themselves and women.
It can uncover so much that I’m surprised that it’s not the first thing any trainer asks their students.
If you’re looking for a girlfriend or if you’re wanting to become your town’s biggest playboy – think of the kind of woman that you’re interested in and -
If you were her – would you date yourself?
Now if you answer this question with anything except yes – and “yes, once I got to know myself” doesn’t count – then you know that you’ve got something to work on.
Maybe you need to improve your social circle, get your arse to the gym, learn salsa, sort out that rubbish job you’ve been meaning to leave for years, tidy your flat.
What ever it is that you need to get handled, do it. It will take less time than you think and you’ll approach interactions afterwards feeling like a million bucks (exchange rate and current economic climate permitting)
Enjoyed this post? Then you're going to LOVE the material we've got waiting for you....here
Brilliant post Gulliver. I think all of our minds will spring to the most obvious thing that’s holding us back that we don’t actually want to admit to ourselves is our actual problem. One of the obvious ones would be spending too much time on the computer and not doing other things.
Keep the insights coming!!
This is definitely a 1 million dollar question. If you keep this in mind ans ask yourself this question everyday you can unlearn bad habits because the girls you like wont like you if you have those habits. At least it works for me.
Nice post!
Hey bro,
Really good post.
In my experience though, it’s not necessarily the lifestyle one has that determines their success, but rather how they perceive their lifestyle which makes the difference between success and failure. That’s why you get City Brokers who aren’t great with women.
The key thing is ‘value’. How do you honestly value yourself and your lifestyle?
It’s easy for someone who works in McDonalds to turn to himself and say that he’s low value, just because he flips burgers for a living. But since Game is about self improvement, how can a person like that reframe it so that he see’s what he does as high value?
He could say:
‘I flip burgers, i’m good at it, but really what i’m learning from this is the value of food, being good with customers, being a team leader and working for a team who is willing to provide good service to their customers which i could then use to further myself, applying those skills elsewhere.’
The reality is, ‘value’ isn’t concrete, but rather created from within. If you perceive yourself as high value, then no environment you’re in will matter, because people will see it naturally and will have no choice but to respect you as high value ;)
Onder
I agree with Onder. The funny thing is, as today’s economic climate is really showing, financial and material value mean shit too. They only have the value that YOU give them. And because of that, you can uncondition yourself into realising it’s bullshit. Money doesn’t even have a fixed value!