Female Processing (part 2)

Women want men in their lives.  It’s their feminine instinct.                                            

Like in my last post, the woman was in an emotional state, but she was going too fast and trying to connect to anything the situation presented in an effort to lock the man in.  It is her way of wanting him to prove that he loves her, so she can feel connected and thereby reduce her fear of isolation or deprivation.  If he does this she will feel calm, loved, appreciated, grateful and supported.  If he doesn’t do this she will feel anxious, sad and unloved.

Luckily, Female fear stimulates a protective aggression in the males of most species of social animals.  On an emotional level for a female, it feels like the only real protection from harm and isolation is intimate connection with a male.  Emotional talk is the native language of females. 

This results from an almost entirely unconscious process called emotional attunement.  To understand the power of emotional attunement you only have to consider its survival advantage.  Sharing emotions gives us multiple eyes, ears and noses with which to sense danger and opportunity.  When one member of the tribe (pack, herd, flock, or pride) becomes aggressive, frightened or interested, the others reflexively tune to the same emotion with more or less the same behavioural motivation.

Emotional attunement is why a woman’s choice of words has little to do with the success of her intentions.  Humans bonded, cooperated, and communicated by emotional attunement many thousands of years before we had verbal language.  Our vocalisations then were the same as those of social animals, serving primarily as a tuning fork to get the group reattuned to the emotion of the moment.  In humans, tone of voice and subcommunication now serves this purpose.

All of this means that, in general, it’s easier to form a close connection with a girl.  She follows you around, looking for it.

So condition yourself to notice how a woman’s feeling when she says something.  Maybe she creates her own meaning.  Because sometimes she just wants someone to understand her.  And someone to make her feel alive.

Alex Street Kid