Getting SOLID phone numbers

Any guy who’s in the habit of approaching knows that getting a girls phone number is no guarantee of anything. It’s not even a bloody guarantee that the girl will speak to you again, let alone go on a date with you.

Think about it. A girl giving a friendly guy her phone number after a little conversation is hardly the biggest commitment in the world, is it? You might feel like an interaction went great, and the next day when you try and call her up for a date she gets all hesitant about making any definite plans with you, giving you lots of “umms” “ahhs” and “maybes”. Put simply, you might as well have been the ticket inspector who stamped her ticket on the train last tuesday. This can be surprising (and confusing) at first you when you are not use to it, but trust me, it happens way more than you think. Needless to say, I have had my fair share.

But most often the problem isn’t what you did on the phone. The problem was earlier on, during your first interaction. So today, I want to give you a couple of tips on getting SOLID phone numbers:

1. Build some rapport -

Comfort-building routines can help if you don’t feel comfortable flying manually right now. Some guys like to learn The Cube. It’s a fun cold-reading routine that girls remember long after the conversation. I had a girl I did this on within 5 five minutes of meeting her, and 6 months later she still remembered her reading and said that it was doing this that made me unique in her eyes from the other guys who talked to her that night. So it does work, although its just as possible to build comfort naturally once you get the hang of it.

Teasing and being playful with her are great for attraction, but remember to spike her interest with something of substance. Any questions or observations that help you delve into her personality, albeit in a fun way (I.e. without being generic and dull) will make her remember you the next morning

2. Give her a reason to want to pick up the phone to you -

You can always say to her that you have to go, but you’ve got something really cool to tell her when you call her. You can think of what it is later on! Make sure when she picks up the phone you have lots of energy in your voice and launch into some fun question or routine straight away, or comment on things you talked about when you met her.

Example – You talked about films the night before. When she picks up the phone say “Hey, I’m just looking at my DVD’s picking out a film for us to watch, which do you prefer, horror or comedy?” Being presumptuous like this shows internal confidence.

3. Make a plan before you get her phone number

The plan does not have to be exact, but if she mentions she’s new in town and wants to see an art gallery, say “Oh then you HAVE to come to the Tate Gallery Exhibition next Monday. That’s our trial date sorted. Let me take your phone number.” Now the next time you call her you’ll have something that she’s already expecting. Remember: Make sure you talk up and sell wherever you’re taking her. And make it clear that you two are both going, and that you’re just going to call her to confirm the details.

Please feel free to email me at matt@puatraining.com

Speak soon my friends!

Matthew H – Master Trainer & Confidence Expert

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