Hey guys, while I know the topic of attraction has all but been beaten to death, It’s important that you have a simple, yet clear, understanding on how it works.
The first question to ask is what IS attraction? I’ve found it to be two key things. The first being Value, which every pick up method and style uses, and Investment, something pointed out to me by AFC Adam. The more value you create for yourself, and the more a girl Invests in you, the more she becomes attracted. Therefore the most simple forumla possible for attraction is….
Value –> Investment –> Attraction
Under this simple formula there are only three ways that men fail to generate attraction. The first is by not creating value or investment, in which case you will be met with indifference. The second is by demonstrating value, but not getting the girl to invest. When this happens you become what’s called a dancing monkey, or entertainer. You offer her all this value and she has to do nothing for it. Often men who do this will end up in the friendship zone or become an orbiter, if even that much. The final mistake is trying to get to much investment for lack of value. This will again lead to indifference because why would she work for something she doesn’t value?
The art of game is to create and give as much value as possible, honestly know how much investment you can get from the girl for that value, and then structure ways to get the investment. Understanding this basic truth will cut to the heart of any game issue you can possibly have.
When it comes to generating value there are two forms, generic value and elicited value. Generic value is what most people in the community learn such as DHV stories that trigger universal attraction switches, having a sense of style, creating a fun and playful vibe, generating social proof and preselection, and having alpha characteristics such as good body language. Elicited value is a bit harder but also more powerful. It involves eliciting and recognizing what a girl specifically values, and then giving or demonstrating that. For example, if you saw two girls who wanted their picture taken, and you offered to take it, you just provided a very light form of elicited value. Also building commonalities offers elicited value or providing value that you learn through qualification, such as learning she loves sushi and telling her of the best sushi place around. Here you can see how qualification not only helps with investment but also in creating value.
Investment is largely done through qualification and compliance testing. By qualifying the girl, and gaining compliance, you give her opportunities to begin working for you which starts attraction. The real trick is figuring out how large of a qualification hoop you can use, one that she will comply to, in order to get the most investment for your value. If she qualifies or invests easily then it’s time to start larger hoops. However, if she doesn’t comply, then we need to make our hoops smaller for less investment while simultaneously creating more value. Operant Conditioning is also used throughout qualification and compliance testing. We reinforce positive behavior, that is behavior leading to investment, with more value and rewards. We punish negative behavior, or behavior where she wont invest, by breaking rapport. The investment to try and gain can come in a multitude of forms. It can include the girl spending money, the effort she puts in for you, the time she spends with you, how physical she gets, and how much she invests emotionally and mentally in you.
While there’s more to pick up then simply attraction, such as kino, comfort, logistics, inner game, frame control, and calibration, to name a few….really remember this since it’s the heart of attraction and will answer most problems.
Hope this helps, and if anyone has any questions for future posts then please put them here and I’ll do my best to answer them for you.
-Jarett aka Psych
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Incredible post man! It really has a lot of value.
The attraction article is a real eye-opener so thanks very much for gettin the piece out. I just have one feedback to give and that is can you write the articles in a more conversational style please. I understand the urge is to write in technical style since it builds legitimacy and credibility for both the writer and his work, but the technical aspect completely removes the reader from gettin a deeper perspective on what’s being said. I trust that you’d take it positively and I look forward to more interesting articles from you!
Excellent article.
Want to place 1 comment. For long time higher value it is better to not use stories that are made up, or use standardized pua DHV stories. Because in the end the girl will notice that they do not fit or that you are not that adventurios et cetera. Try to experience real things and use stories of things that really happened to you.
I agree with what DJ said for the most part. But mainly I think this is more of an introductory and broad take on what attraction is and therefore it should be clear and concise, which usually means it should be technical. So I think the author did a fine job with his language. If he were to write a follow up post with more examples, then DJ you are correct that it would be wise to put it in a more conversational style to really get the reader involved and get more out of the post. Great post. When you qualify, obviously you don’t want to throw one hoop after the next after the next, you want a balance of increasing value too. What do you do if she qualifies herself but inside you really don’t like her answer, say you ask her who her favorite singer is and it’s Britney Spears, someone you think is a no talent and someone you reallllly dislike. The best thing to do would tease her about it, but what if it sort of bothers you? Is it best just to man up and ignore how much you hate Britney and use it as a good chance to tease her congruently because you actually do not like her and thus won’t appear incongruent when teasing her/you will have something legit you don’t like about the singer to tease her about?
INVESTMENT IS THE KEY!
You know that your (stuff) answer is standard. You can achieve almost anything, as long as you are dedicated and invest in it.
If the law of attraction really works, does that mean that what psychics say are inaccurate?
Lil Wayne is 1 of THE Saddest commercially recognized rappers of all time. He mouths nothing but bull shit. He’s not even the best on his squad. He’s zip in hip hop. He’ll never do the things Jay has done. He’ll never head foreign rock concerts, he’ll never be a basic in rap/hip hop, he’ll never be fronted at as a pop culture icon, he’ll never amass the riches Jay has. And let’s not even talk about comparing him to Eminem…