Talking to the right women

Hey guys,

 

so in response to my last blog and John’s reply:

 

The easiest sets in clubs are the girls standing or sitting in high traffic areas doing nothing. They’re obviously bored, low energy and are just waiting for someone to come and lighten up their night.

 

Also large groups of girls (8+) – they don’t get approached because guys in general would be too scared of being blown out in front of that many girls. The most obvious example of this – Hen’s night – subconsciously the girls are wanting some attention like the Hen has obviously got back home.

 

I agree with John that is is true is some situations.  However, my comments about the above are as follows:

 

Sometime low energy girls are difficult to bring up and you may have to lower your energy somewhat to interact with them which isn’t necessarily something you would want to do whilst you’re out gaming.

 

Women do respond to higher energy individuals however if the gap is too small you may have to do a lot of work.  Also, if the women is sitting there bored she may not be the most interesting person to talk to, if she takes too much energy and isn’t brought up by you fast, cut away from her and move on!

 

Hen groups can be good, however, they may stick together all pull each other away from a set.  This is common female behaviour and is sometimes caused by jealousy of the other members of the group so make sure you start off by addressing the whole group and then hone in on one individual slowly so that this doesn’t happen.  These groups may be good for a laugh but I wouldn’t expect a serious long term pick up out of it.  Meeting a guy on a hen night has negative connotations for a women in terms a relationship, it’s too difficult for most women to adequately romanticise the meeting and therefore it may take a great deal of work to convince them that it was a pleasant meeting.  Women like nice stories of how they meet their partners, and that boys isn’t exactly knight in shining armour behaviour!

 

Sometimes sets of 3 are positive as 2 of the friends can continue chatting as you speak to their friend.  These sets are best when you approach all three and make them laugh and then hone in slowly on one.  Once you have done this you can take her somewhere else, somewhere quieter where is would be easier to hear each other etc.  This with give you an opportunity to create a rapport and practise some kino techniques.

 

The truth is many sets and most are fine to approach as long as you come in with a higher energy level, approach a women with an observational or opinion opener and say whatever you want with conviction.  Less is more, short and sweet, asking open questions and allowing her to talk.  Giving you an opportunity to find hooks!  Another thing to note is that you can almost exclusively only find the right women if you know what you are looking for.  The probability on bumping into her is low unless you put yourself in the right situation based on what you know about what you like!

 

If you are in a situation just to pick up and you don’t like where you are this will come across so if you don’t like clubbing a club is NOT a good place for you to pick up!  Especially when she says “are you having fun?” and you say “no it’s rubbish” or “yeah, it’s okay”, people like to be around others having fun.

 

Please feel free to post any questions.

 

Until next time, get out there and keep trying, its the best method of learning.

 

“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”

 

angel