But i still wanted to add my thoughts into this..

-Approach a woman for the sakes of it not with the idea of taking her to bed

-Got to take things slowly, and be patient. Not rush neither pressure things

-Let things flow naturally..

It really ain’t that hard.. you have to do is focus all your attention on your game, not the girl, otherwise if you focus on the girl, you let go of your game and it’s rules and you mess up the opportunity.

Happy Gaming.

ps: Adam.. love that video where you propose marriage.. I’ve done it myself once at the Opera House, Australia and I got a K-close out of it as well as a new girl-friend :P

You mention that from negative responses, or by not approaching, we learn to fear meeting women since it’s being reinforced. Then you say the solution is to approach everyone and anyone, since most people will be friendly, and we wont have those negative reference points. We’ll now gain positive reference points which gives us positive reinforcement and takes away the fear.

The problem I notice though is what about more specific reference points. By approaching everyone and anyone I might notice positive feedback from old ladies, average guys, and even some decent girls. However I can also consistently get negative feedback or experiences from the high value girls, or 10′s.

Even if I usually get positive feedback on AVERAGE from approaching, my mind knows the difference when I approach a hot indifferent girl. Every time I get a negative experience it reinforces the fear of approaching them.

How do you get around this?

If you really want to force yourself into approaching, give one of your friends (that you trust) $100 or $500. Whatever. Make a deal that you get $10 or $20 BACK from him for every girl you approach.

When you make it about money, it’s a lot easier to take the fear of rejection out of it. Then, if the first girl you approach you get her number or lock it down, you get your money back. (Just make sure you trust your buddy).

The best thing to do is to practice opening just to open. Open 100 sets but don’t let them hook, don’t try to transition and don’t even think about closing in any way.

Just get used to approaching people and speaking on a whim. Once you have that down it will be easier to progress your game and taking it to the next stages.

Outcome dependency is the worst. Get rid of it! Girls can see right through it.

The reason a lot of guys face AA is because prior to the approach they worry about the outcome – whether the woman will respond well, will she give me her number, will we go out, etc. Become non-outcome dependent! Quickest way to do this, take away the outcome…Approach for the sake of approaching :o)

Stay kool and keep gaming.

Your Friendly, Neighbourhood PUA Dharam ;-)

Basically what I get from your article and from my own experiences is that AA is caused by not looking at the situation rationally and then making false assumptions that are based on no evidence whatsoever i.e. that girl won’t want to talk to me, she just doesn’t want to be approached, she is in a bad mood etc… all these negative assumptions could just as easily be positive ones which would actually help and not hinder the approach.

Now my main reason for leaving a reply, your post made me remember an old TV advert where an angry looking skin head was running towards an old man and throughout the whole advert the audience is thinking the skin head is going to attack/rob the old man, however towards the end of the advert the camera pans out, and you see that there is building work being carried out on the property near where the old man is standing and the skin head is running towards the old man to save him and push him out the way from a large piece of building equipment which is on a lose cable and about to fall on his head.

Remembering that just made me think about AA and how we make false judgments on approaching situations.

So never ever approach with the idea of picking someone up.

Just approach for the sake of it :o)

AFC Adam,