Pre Analysis Vs. Post Analysis

You see the perfect girl, you’re blue print, and you’re totally caught off guard.  Maybe you’re out to meet women and maybe you’re not…either way there she is.  Your mind begins to race…direct or indirect, what angle should I approach, do I go now or check things out first, what do I say….WHAT DO I SAY!?

While this is going on you can feel your inner game crumbling and the anxiety begins to build.  New rationalization after rationalization goes through your head since the situation is always changing.  Now the 2 set became a 3 set so you have to re-evaluate. Now they are sitting down which makes a whole new list of openers go through your head. Now a guy has entered, is that a boy friend, a friend, or an AMOG? What happens here is you begin some serious Pre Analysis (sometimes referred to as paralysis of analysis) and begin letting your mind race on how to do the perfect pick up.

Thing is there is never a “perfect” way of doing it…honestly, there isn’t.  By doing this kind of Pre Analysis you are essentially shooting yourself in the foot and is not useful AT ALL.  Sure it can sometimes help to check things out but it should literally only take a second.  Many times the best thing to do is simply begin walking, one foot in front of the other, not knowing what you’re going to say or do.  By the time you approach your mind will begin using it’s power, that was previously holding you back, to now give you something to say.  Look at it this way…

You see the girl and begin walking and have no idea what to say.  You’re freaking out but that’s fine and you finally approach her and come up with “Hi”.  She turns and looks at you and says “Hi” back.  NOW WHAT?! Your mind races and you remember something about opinion openers so you immediately say “I’d like to get your opinion on something”.  She says “OK” and you frantically think of what to say next.  Your mind suddenly remembers you asking your friend earlier in the day about whether you should wear contacts or not so you hear yourself blurt out, “Do you think contacts would be a good look for me or should I stay with glasses?”.  All of a sudden she begins answering and you find yourself in a conversation.

Your mind could also have found something situational to point out, or given a compliment, or maybe made a funny statement.  The point is that you ACTED instead of analysing.  Because the truth is you can’t really analyse a set and know how things will go until you act and see for yourself.  I can’t even begin to count the amount of times that I saw a girl who looked like she had a huge bitch shield up, and gave off that unapproachable vibe, only to turn out to be really warm and receptive.  However there is a time to analyse and that’s after the set.  It’s what’s called Post Analysis and is one of the single best things to do every time a set ends.

By doing Post Analysis you can begin seeing patterns in sets and finding sticking points, give yourself a good understanding of the situation so that you can act more naturally the next time something similar comes up, and allows you to make new insights and epiphany’s into your game.  There should be two types of Post Analysis.  The first should be after the set and the second should be at the end of the night.  The only draw back though is if you do a post analysis after every set you might begin finding yourself in your head to much instead of having fun and enjoying the game, which IMHO is critical.  Personally I do a Post Analysis after every set only if I’m working on a new idea or sticking point or if I’m in the mood where this wont put me in my head.

To get the most from it though I suggest doing the following.  At the end of the night (or right after a set if you prefer) have a small notepad ready.  Begin writing down every single set you did and for each one include these things…

1. Summary:  Write down an abbreviated version of what happened in the set.  (Kind of like a mini FR specific to one set)

2. Problems Encountered:  Here right down where you feel you went wrong in the set and what sticking points occured.  Be as detailed as possible and try and find everything wrong that you can.

3. Possible Solutions: This is where you analyze the problems and think up what possible solutions you could do next time around.  Try and be specific though.  Saying “Show more sexuality” is to broad, instead a much better version would be, “Could try kinoing more by putting arm around the waist and make more sexual eye contact”.

Here’s an example from one of mine back when I was trying to master dance floor game.

Summary: Saw a mixed three set on the dance floor, two girls and one guy.  I approached by mirroring my target and using a high five manuever to get her dancing.  From there I began some swing dancing manuevers to generate comfort and gradually got her dancing away from her group but within eye contact.  Did some nonverbal push pull moves to cycle attraction and comfort and then began having her grind on my knee while we’re face to face.  Began standard kino escalation and was about to go for the kiss but felt something was a bit off…decided lack of comfort.  Began swing dancing again then brought her back in and went for the kiss.  Her friend pulled her back and began asking if everything was fine which she replied yes to while the guy just watched.  We begin dancing again and out of nowhere she says “What’s your name?” I tell her and ask her hers and make slight small talk but continue keeping it sexual.  Finally her friends begin to leave the dance floor and she excuses herself to go join them.

Problems Encountered: Had her friend c%^k block and interfere which also caused her to walk off at end, saw a lack of comfort that had to continually be addressed, the loud club on the dance floor made it almost impossible to talk.

Possible Solutions: Could have danced with group for a bit first after approaching to have her friends more comfortable with me (possibly introduce self to friends first?), Should have exchanged names ASAP, should have isolated during a high point to talk and build rapport away from friends then came back on dance floor and do kiss close (this was probably key),  Be more observant and be ready for an interrupt from her friends such as leaving the dance floor.

Hope this helps,

-Psych