Hey guys
Something interesting I was thinking about today. People often go through life thinking that they are somehow owed something. Most people find it difficult to deal with pain because they think that the world owes them happiness on some level. It struck me some time ago that the world doesn’t owe any of us anything. Now that’s not to say that we aren’t entitled to happiness, because of course we all are, but being entitled is very different from being ‘owed’. One implies personal responsibility, the other a reliance.
We have to be courageous enough to say “I know that I am not owed happiness, or any of the things I want in this life, but I also know that they are there for the taking and I am entitled to take them”. See the only people who would be worried by this notion are people who sit back and wait. The rest of us can take comfort in knowing that although the world isn’t working for us, it isn’t working against us either. Everything is fair game, and I find that notion very exciting. Wealth, status, amazing love lives, its all there for the taking, and noone but yourself can really stop you. In fact, when people come to me to talk about whats holding them back, its never the world, or the people around them, its almost invariably themselves. Sometimes the only thing we have to do in life to get what we want is get out of our own way.
We should think about this in the context of our love lives, and I want you to follow three rules as you go through your day today:
1. Find meaning in the suffering
Whenever you suffer in any way today, either through stress at work, issues you are having with women, or family or anything else, I want you to find a meaning to attach to the suffering. In his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, Dr. Viktor E. Frankl said, “We can endure a great deal of what if we understand the why.” Once you know why, you can endure things you wouldn’t imagine.
2. Deliver first, expect second
Never sit back and wait. Go out and deliver, then people will be compelled to give back. Most people approach their interactions the opposite way round: they expect a result i.e. a number, before they’ve even given anything to the girl. Deliver first, then the results will come to you.
3. Quality is never an accident
John Ruskin said “Quality is never an accident; it is always the result of intelligent effort” And he was right. Most people put in mindless effort without standing back and asking whether they are doing the right things. Practice doesn’t make perfect, practice makes PERMANENT. Practicing the right things makes perfect. So always be asking yourself the question, am is this intelligent effort or is this just effort?
Know what your worth, then claim it.
I’ll be back soon
Matthew Hussey
Email: matt@puatraining.com
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Great article
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Very deep insights– they extend beyond pickup, and into all areas of one’s life.
I especially like the 3rd point when it comes to Pick Up. There is this idea being propagated out there that if you just go out and try pick up you will eventually get it. And although I agree you’re better off out there attempting to meet and attract women, if you are not applying the proper principles into each interaction…you’re NOT going to get any better.
I once knew a budding PUA who went out incessantly for years and kept repeating the same mistakes over and over. In fact, he got to a place where he thought the mistakes he was making were the hallmark of his game! I think he had only been with 1 girl the entire few years this was going on (and this girl would have hooked up with anything that was available!)
It’s not enough to practice…you absolutely MUST practice the right things!