hey, am just a regular gurl just like any other one but i have this wierd qution
ok so am really depresed i lost hope i hate ma life am not living for any dreams i dnt work cuz am only 14 i cant wait to work at least it will be sumthin to get me out of this house i hate ma whole family am a middel child ma older sis always put me down she kinnda treat me like a slave or sumthin i dnt know if that the right word for it but she use me in many ways she tell on me if i dnt do wat she wants even if i didnt do sumthin wrong she will make up storys and ma parent belive her i hate that part! the trust her and especily ma mom she belives every word she says ma dad use to be ma hero and ma favorit person in the world but now that i have a littel brother am the one left out noboady really cares for me its like am invisible or sumthin i have no goal for ma life then why should i live it?
plz answear if u have one ..

hey, am just a regular gurl just like any other one but i have this wierd qution
ok so am really depresed i lost hope i hate ma life am not living for any dreams i dnt work cuz am only 14 i cant wait to work at least it will be sumthin to get me out of this house i hate ma whole family am a middel child ma older sis always put me down she kinnda treat me like a slave or sumthin i dnt know if that the right word for it but she use me in many ways she tell on me if i dnt do wat she wants even if i didnt do sumthin wrong she will make up storys and ma parent belive her i hate that part! the trust her and especily ma mom she belives every word she says ma dad use to be ma hero and ma favorit person in the world but now that i have a littel brother am the one left out noboady really cares for me its like am invisible or sumthin i have no goal for ma life then why should i live it?
plz answear if u have one ..

You seem to have created a lot of negative assumptions. I see this all the time when people are on a long term goal.

I personally work in the field of online business, and yesterday I gave out some free advice to my readers… one person sent me an email that was filled with negative assumptions. None of which were actually true, but he had convinced himself that they were.

As I dug deeper, it was clear that he was failing with his goals, and created, or accepted from others these assumptions as excuses, the excuses over time became his beliefs.

That then lead to being a self fulfilling profecy… you see, his excuses and assumptions prevented him from achieving his goals, and so the vicious circle continued.

Needless to say, he has not made any money in 5 years.

“It has been known that doing something thats TOO scary creates sensitisation and actually increases the fear.

so at some level one has to be kinda off ready for it in some ways.”

Can you provide some proof of this? Any examples? Or did you just hear someone say it and decided that it fitted in perfectly as a future excuse?

Both the above are negative assumptions, and quite probably, are not true either.

“i dunno who ‘the masses’ are but they sound just like everyone else i know.”

That would explain a lot. You see, it has been proven that you can tell, with a high degree of accuracy, how successful a person is in numerous parts of his life, simply by looking at his or her 5 closest friends.

Sounds like you may have some negativity vampires in your life, I recommend cutting ties with anyone who is negative or doesnt have your drive, and go out there and start hanging with people who are ALREADY successful PUAs. It will be scary at first, but you will dramatically improve by being in their company.

“Most people dont really realize that they are missing out on anything because they dont think they are therefore they arent.”

You could put a chicken in a tiny cage, where it can barely move, but on your logic, it will be really happy because it doesnt realise that 100 yards away there are free range chickens roaming around and having a great time.

Ignorance is bliss… right?

Again, that is just another self-fulfilling excuse that has become a belief for you.

If you don´t take any risks, you cannot fail… right?

Wrong, you fail by default.

I was terrified of public speaking… and I mean, hugely terrified. It was my biggest fear in life. Then, one day I realised that even if I got on stage, made a fool of myself, fell off the stage and was laughed out of the room… longterm, I would feel worse about myself by never getting on the stage in the first place.

So I had nothing to lose.

“Plus. Most people that dont miss out on life probably lived in a position where they had no real traumatic experiences that really fractured their way of living.

ALSO those that do miss out on things tend to have been fucked up in the first place meaning they lack the inner resources to have ‘courage’ whilst those who never had real damages to their psyche would find it easier to find ‘courage’ than those that generally were fucked up in the first place.”

Let´s play a game of ´Spot The Assumption´in the above. How much of the above can you absolutely, 100% prove? If you cant prove it all, then isn´t it possible that you just accepted it from ´the masses´because it fit in perfectly with the excuses you were looking for?

Anyway, I don´t want to waste my time, but if I had to sum you up in a description of two words, I would say that you are a typical “yes but” kinda person.

So quite ironic that you chose that username.

All the best in your future growth, I am on the journey myself, and can relate to what you are saying, which is why I know how dangerous the path you are on will be.

Dean

Juan you are right. There is a time when being scared is a good thing, because it acts as a safety mechanism, the key is to recognise the situations where breaking through that fear will help you to grow.

Sexyboy and Perfection, thankyou for your kind words, I will be posting more soon, stay on the lookout.

Mike, i’m glad you’ve been able to draw from my material, I’ll keep putting my best stuff out there for you I promise.

Matthew

when people are desperate enough they will throw all their money at experts who claim that they can change their lives and reframe it into a positive when they actually dont. so capitalising on peoples desperations is big bucks!

also most of the people who come for help in this area would be shy or stupid so they wouldnt question a companys conman tactics. so more money goes into the bank! yes!

how come gambler made his so called transformation yet people his age never do? his explaination seems a bit simplistic since everyone goes through similar experiences in their life times and dont really transform.

maybe the only transformation that happened was from the image he portrays in his marketing.

Yeh baby!

not really