Comments on: Text Game done right

By: Define

Define — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 01:19:09 +0000

Hey Rich,

I met a girl in a club last saturday, kiss close + number close. Not too much confort due to the noise of the music. I sent to her a text message in the same night when I was home : “Hey, this is Define, now you have my number too ;)”

I don’t know what is the structure to follow in order to arrange a date ? Should I call her, talk a little bit of her week-end and then propose the date ? Or should I send some text message like “Hey, nice to meet you. How was your week-end ?”, wait for her response and then propose a date ?

I have read your book, I have also has good results with your Stealth Attraction System, but now I don’t know what to do with this girl !

Define

By: Dawn Brannick

Dawn Brannick — Tue, 21 Sep 2010 14:23:47 +0000

i heard a lot about that in the last few month and i think it might be true. Eventhough i believe everyone is responsible for himself. Just my opinion…

By: agenda

agenda — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 09:40:56 +0000

Wow i never realised how much text game impacted me in my everyday life, :) i use lots of smileys cause i’m generally happy i never put into that much thought about text game, i’ll definetly consider this. THANKS GAMBLER !

By: John Bowen

John Bowen — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 23:37:09 +0000

ho ho! not really gambler – i have to say im slowly edging to your point of view – just got back from a date with this Cambridge educated gorl that went royally badly – looks and charm (realnot acted) are what’s key and unfort i dont really have either – i went on a bootcamp in the us and I have t say it was basically fairly rubbish – it was worth it just to say that I had at least explored that avenue and it had failed, though

By: Not Really Gambler

Not Really Gambler — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 21:33:43 +0000

well mate, first you have to tell her a lame not-funny joke like squirrels kidnapped you let me bring you ice cream, this will really spike her emotions and if she doesnt respond then punish her but not texting her with my classic not funny patterns. she will REALLY be coming back for more then! and make sure when you get her on a date be really annoying by utilising annoying ‘im so alpha’ techniques to make sure she she knows who is incharge! a f-close is for certain! (not really. well maybe, depends if she likes you in the first place like that but might aswell run some pointless routines)

By: Jonny

Jonny — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 20:16:26 +0000

Hey Gambler!
Thanks for that usefull stuff…
There is a girl with that i had not much kino (she seemed to avoid my movements) but nice rapport.
I have exchanged some text sms where she made some effort, like asking me questions. Now i asked “what are you up to next week” as you described it. But I dont know if its right to go for a date in the next sms. Any advice?

By: John Bowen

John Bowen — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 21:04:21 +0000

sorry – final query – how do you have any chance of reviving if she doesnt reply to the call/text – how many days before calling again etc or do you just jump ship at that point?

By: John Bowen

John Bowen — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 20:59:55 +0000

I have to say I strongly disagree with this advice – though I do agree with a lot of what Gambler usually says

If youve got a girl’s number the first move you should always make is to CALL her – of course theres a possibility of her flaking and it all depends on how strong the connection was as to whether that happens or not but the call must be the first move. By texting you might think that youre sending a mixed message thus increasing your power but in reality she knows youre interested by this stage (you already got her number and bothered to text) so in reality the text comes across as a weasel way to avoid the discomfort of a direct contact – a call also has the added advantage of increasing recognition – even if she doesnt pick up and only gets a voicemail message she will still have a physical reminder of you: your voice when she listens to the message.

If you do have to text you have to make it more interesting than what you got up to the rest of the weekend – thats simply LIMP

Richard (I hope you dont mind if I use that name) I have a question – what happens if youre in the club, get great kino with a girl, isolte her then snog her then exchange numbers then call or text and get no reply? what do you think the reason might be for the flakiness? This happened to me twice recently – both very fit girls who were quite sober during th interaction. In one case I called but didnt get through and in the other case I texted and didnt get a reply! Any advice?
Many thanks

By: Summerbreeze

Summerbreeze — Thu, 21 May 2009 22:22:02 +0000

Hi Gambler,
Good advice on text gaming.
I’ve established a rapport with a girl through something you may not have mentioned before – The Cute Kid Approach. I took my 5 year old into a cafe on a few occassions and discovered a really nice staff member in there. We’re talking daytime gaming here. She and my boy hit it off really well although I took care to let her know that although I’m a loving father, I’m also a single one. I think it helped to establish me as Mr Comfort.
Today I went in there on my own to escalate seeing as I knew it was her last day working there.
Before I could properly ask her out she gave me her business card (she’s a post-graduate sports therapist) and said to call her if I needed a sports massage. I considered that a solid number close, even if I didn’t think she meant it in a sexual way.
I immediately asked her out for the weekend but she told me that she was going away to visit her home town for a few days. It wasn’t a blow out.
I gave her my business card and we agreed that I would text her this Saturday and that we could go out for a drink next weekend, although no fixed time or place. She is High Value and my intention here is for something deeper and longer term than just a pick up.
Gambler (or anyone else), can you talk me through my text game? – it’s all I’ve got at this point. I’m not going to come over too needy but I do want a first date.
Many thanks.

By: Saint

Saint — Wed, 20 May 2009 15:02:12 +0000

Thanks Gambler will check them out. I only use pick up books for ideas on openers which i then play with and use. Just about to get started on your book, but uni exams first.

In relation to this post got a girl’s number on Saturday night. Was serving her early on Saturday night in the bar. She returned with her number and told me to call her. I text her when i finished making the joke “If this is a flirt divert number for Radio One i wont be impressed lol” She text back continuing the joke and so i upped my game and mentioned that i would be out on sunday with a group of mates and she was more than welcome to join us. She turned up on sunday and i kiss closed. Here comes the wierd bit i could have F closed but it was too easy and so i dodged it saying i had an early start and she would be too much of a distraction. Then left it till today to text her back. She was cold to begin with but a little joking and general chat and she is back onside. I already know she was interested so now it will boil down to maintaining this for the next few days till i let her have what she wants.

One thing i would say smileys help with is showing a little emotion in a text. Ive lost count the amount of times ive been texting a girl and made a joke or given her a backhanded compliment but finished it with a smiley. It makes it slightly more light hearted as some times a text can be misinterpreted. The problem with texts and even emails is that emotions arnt the easyist to get across or even pick up right from another person. At the end of the day for me its a means to an end, you got her number and getting it in the first place is a postive. If you are annoyed it didnt work out, think in terms of this: It is only a negative experience if i dont take a postive from it. I.e you aproached,and had her interested enough to get a number. Next time will be better

All the best, Saint