In this post I want to introduce you to the term “Wu Wei”. Wu Wei means “without doing, causing, or making”. Practically speaking for us however it means without meddlesome, combative, or egotistical effort. To do without doing. Sounds like a problem though, I mean isn’t pick up all about using manipulation tactics to get the girl into bed?
Well it CAN be used that way or it might not, you can either be an amazing manipulator or an amazing man. That choice is yours though and I’ll admit I’ve definately been both. To be the amazing man and use Wu Wei though it’s all about letting things happen as naturally as possible with as minimal effort on your part to steer it there. The reason I’ve seen this work in pick up so well is two things. First noone likes to be manipulated and even the best manipulators get caught and the girl realizes it. By trying to force things you’re more likely to push her away. The second reason I’ve seen is that guys will tend to overanalyze everything and try to micromanage their actions to get the “perfect” result and just end up getting anxiety or acting weird. In contrast the guy using Wu Wei comes off genuine and enjoys the moment, letting things unfold naturally and only giving slight pushes (minimal effort) to help the pick up. The main lesson here is that when you try to hard it doesn’t work. The surest way to become tense, awkward, and confused is to develop a mind that tries to hard or thinks to much.
Lets look at an example to show what I mean here, since this is definately the hardest principle to understand and maybe the most powerful. If I need to get a village continuous water what I can do is constantly set up elaborate systems to bring water from the river. However if I just carved a path from the river to the village and let it flow through the village, I’d have used much less effort and gotten much better results, I let the waters own nature do the work for me. In pick up I could open, transition, try to attract and build comfort, and then begin countless ways of manipulation to get the girl into me. However I could also understand the girls inner nature (lets say being attracted to preselected men) and just go someplace with hot female friends and let the girl work for me instead. However the first way should still be known because in some situations the least amount of effort needed would be opening and everything that comes next. So when using Wu Wei it’s not so much about MAKING things work out, it’s more about LETTING things work out.
Lets look at another example to show that last point. Say you’re going to pick up a girl but realize it’s becoming more of a friendzone thing. The manipulator will try and force the situation to be something it’s not and make the girl like him which just ends up pushing her away. The man using Wu Wei however will gladly take the girl as a friend and just let it happen, later he invites his friend out to a club and she brings all her girls with her. Turns out one of them is the guy’s ideal 10 and because they have a mutual friend are introduced in a good way that ends up with them sleeping together. This is the power of Wu Wei…things begin to just always seem to work out.
Hope this helps,
Psych
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I like this kind of taoist mindset as it resonates with me. The part where it gets tricky is that this kind of information is almost useless….UNTIL…All of a sudden everything clicks and it makes sense! But when that happens, P.U. becomes effortless and easy….just like it should be!