OLIXONLINE: The fear of failure is normal, you know why…because your something called a human being. We have emotions, although what you should do is start to express this emotion in-set, for example, go up to a girl, tell her ‘you have a lot of fear coming up to her but you’re the kind of the guy that faces your fear so hi my name is…’ To stand there and say you know what, I have faults, I’m human, yet I’m here, is a huge display of confidence, very attractive. Try it out my friend and let us hear of your results on this blog or a future one :-)

COOL: Keep practising!! I have been where you are, I promise you I had such a long way to travel when I first started my journey, there were countless rejections, countless night bus rides home alone and countless moments when you have so much fear. BUT, push through it and practise, if I can get to a good level, anyone can! Eventually, I realised that all these ‘failures’ were actually opportunities to learn, every time things didn’t go smoothly in-set, I’d be learning something and eventually there were less and less opportunities to learn and more success ;-)

TEN: Thanks for the comment mate. Truth is there is no one technique I teach or I believe you can teach to have the ability of being a conversationalist. It takes practise, although one quick tip bro – Whenever you run out of things to say, whenever you feel it is hard to stay in-set, when ever it is easier to walk away, keep you’re a*se in set! You will learn by standing there and forcing yourself to build conversation then anywhere else. This is how I did it, just force yourself to stay in-set….add on a crazy, wacky opener and a smile and then things really take off ;-)

Hope it helps guys. Keep the comments coming.

Stay kool and keep gaming.

Your Friendly, Neighbourhood PUA Dharam ;-)

Just a question you always have something to say to the girls
how do you do that man! ^^ i got stuck pretty much time

i think it might be because i live with my parents and i have a seriously negativity LOADED assocation to where i live. there is like ZERO positive associations to my environment in the sense that it relates to happiness.

as the saying goes. ‘natural confidence and alpha manliness is the result of never having any real problems’

no convos, dates, etc 2 n-closes in almost 2 years

Its not that i have a fear of failure its that i fail all the time!

A lot of people (me) have a fear of failure, so I think people would find it interesting?

Thoughts?

Thanks for all the responses, please do keep them coming, I enjoy reading them all :-D

MARK DAVID: No comment :-P

COOL: Thanks for the comment, nothing related to my blog post although I shall take it as positive :-)

BLACK_CAT: Thanks mate. I started on April 5th 2008, that was my first exposure to game.

MR.JIMMY: Thank you, and thank you for the opener on the last blog post, am making a video based on it, promise its coming soon!!

AARON SLOAN: Glad it helps and motivates.

RENATO: I like how you’ve linked the blogs, will definitely try this one out at some point, excellent stuff.

ADONIS: Haha your right, never girls give the wingman or you’ll have to get loads of these. We only had one, they text me ten minutes later and said ‘they’d given up on comedy and wanted to come back to Nandos for ‘coke float’ so got the Cupid back off them.

RAJ: This is just me having fun, no style in particular.

JAMIE: Happy the break down helps, see you in Cardiff for the daygame tour date there.

BUTTRFLYCOLECTR: Interesting comment mate,, got me going, wonder if I could film in a library…Hhmm, I’d definitely go functional if they were next to me, add value slowly (not so much through conversation, as it is a library). For example, I’d ask her to borrow a highlighter, and a smile says more then words, then I’d thank her buy bringing her back a cup of coffee, then maybe get talking as she is leaving say how poor the coffee is and say I should have definitely bought you back a starbucks, this isn’t a great thank you, then it is ok to talk, walk her out, say you need some air, getting stuffy in her and say bye at the door.

Thanks guys, keep them coming.

Stay kool and keep gaming.

Your Friendly, Neighbourhood PUA Dharam ;-)