Hey guys this is my first post for the blog and I wasn’t too sure what would be most useful to you, but I hope it is a help to some of you as the subject I am going to talk about has really helped my game massively and in my opinion is something that really pushed me to the next level.
There is a way to start an interaction off on a good foot without even being verbal. This is called forcing IOI’s (indication of interest), forcing IOI’s is literally what it sounds like. You are forcing the target to respond in a positive way before you even approach. By using this technique the set is pre warmed before you approach.
There are different ways of forcing IOI’s, the one I personally prefer is acting as if you are looking for something or someone and placing yourself in her peripheral vision so she notices you. Lock eye contact and do a cheeky smile. The key for me to this is making it look like it happened naturally and you weren’t staring. I t has to be subtle and smooth. If you are caught staring it will come across needy which is not good as a needy man doesn’t have choice in his life.
You don’t have to do the cheeky smile when you have locked eye contact you can do something bolder if you want like a wink, point, wave or nod. Like anything I think you need to practice and try different ways of achieving this as different ways may work better for you.
You know if you have forced the IOI if they lock eye contact, smile or return the gesture. Once the IOI has been forced all you need do then is approach.
Anyway guys this was a quick tip so hope it helps :-) . Please leave replies as to what topics you guys would like me to blog about next time. Thanx
Darren
Hi Darren, I’ve just read your post and it made a lot of sense to me.
I’ve just realised how I have forced IOIs as you call it, and didn’t even realised what I was doing. Now that I’m actually aware of the concept and its advantages I’m probably gonna use it more and more. Only one question, is forcing IOIs in street game as effective as in bars or clubs?
Thank you and since you said it is your first post let me be the first one to say I’ve truly enjoyed it. Looking forward to read more from you and the rest of your crew!
Hi Darren, just had a quick read of your first post, and I have to admit, it sounds real good. I have never been one to use the forcing IOI’s technique, but now you’ve mentioned it…its definitely something I will be attempting in the future. Its smooth, subtle, and is an effective way of acknowledging whether the ‘ target ‘ is interested. Once the gesture is returned, your in!! Ill most definitely get back to you after I try this out, thanks! Will be looking out for more posts from you!
Great post, But who are you? have you just started working for the company, what’s your background in pick-up?
Hi Darren!
Forcing IOIs is not something I use personally that often, though from reading your post I am definetly am going to start using it more often! Using it regularly will help me get better at forcing IOIs and also is another way of identifying if the “target” is interested.
Great post and keep up the good work! Thanks very much
Good first post darren. I must admit, i tend to just smile when get eye contact and the results haven’t been great, guess you have just spelt out what is wrong with that though. cheers mate
Good post Darren,,,keep them coming.
Sound good Darren.
I forced an IOI on a girl at work this week, it is very rewarding when you get a reaction, ust need to follow up then.
In daytime I’ve spmetimes got IOIs from women and when I approach them they tell me they’re married or have BF etc. Any advice on follow up in this situation?
Looking forward to the next installment, any advice for more mature PUAs in clubs?
Hi Darren,this is a great idea to use before an opener,thank you so much.
Mate great first post, snappy and to the point. You were good at forcing IOIs from the weeks you started doing it and i can only imagine you’ve completely mastered it now.
Good first post Darren. I think you should write a report on the stripclub game you ran last month, I found the story amusing when you told me about it and think it is a good example of the game you bring to the table ;-)
Stay kool and keep gaming.
Your Friendly, Neighburhood PUA Dharam ;-)
Mate very good topic. you are master of forcing ioi’s. For your next topic how about to reveal your secret eyebrow game. lol.
Hey all,
Thank you for all the replies it is awesome to hear you views and questions.
You can definitely use it in street game but my advice in street game is be more subtle and not to bold.
I am a newish trainer who has worked for PUA training for a few months and have been in game well over a year. I got into game after being in a long term relationship and lost all social skills.
If someone tells me they have a boyfriend or husband I try and judge the situation on whether they are telling the truth or not as these phrases can be a polite way of saying no. In my opinion if she has got a boyfriend or husband good for her for being loyal and will back off as I do not pursue taken women, each to their own I guess. A good come back on the other hand is “Easy cheeky, I am only looking for friendship”.
I hope that answers any questions. Thanks again guys for all the questions and positive feed back
Hi Darren.First of all, Congrats, A very well written first post :).
I have to say that it is so true on how effective IOI’s can be and also how they serve as a means to test the waters on knowing if your approach is going to be positive when you go up to say “Hi” “Hello” or to simply introduce yourself to a girl verbally after forcing an IOI.
Well done ;)
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….or you could just go and approach her! All the same, this may be just the right thing to do to warm up or for those guys who are extremely afraid of “rejection”.
Thanks Darren… but what sort of thing could you approach with afterwards.. as you already interest would a simple hi how are you work?
yeh adonis is right.
and god shy people are so lazy! just be confident!! i dont mean to sound cliche and give useless advice because i dont know anything.
and be alpha! dont be shy just be alpha! how hard could it be god some people are just so lazy.
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Mac, that was hilarious.