One simple technique that will instantly make you an exciting conversationalist!
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This one routine is one of the best conversational pieces I have. It will eliminate the need to ever think “What do I say next?” and it will give you enough exciting conversational material to last an entire night. The best part about it is it’s also one of the easiest routines to use. 9 times out of 10 the best stuff is the simplest! Check it out….
im getting a bit fat these days. but the thing is even when i wasnt fat i still had the same problems. get to the point please.
i think im going to go to a psychiatrist for treatment. hopefully ill get drugs to numb my suffering. looking forward to be patronized by my GPs as usual.
question- do you start the routine by telling her you wanna play 21 questions with her? Or is it just a matter as asking open ended questions and exchanging and getting deep about the replies?
Nice technique tho :-)
Hey Mo!
You start by playfully saying: “Ok, 21 questions…I’ll start, favourite film?” This way it doesn’t even give her time to think you just launch straight in. She’ll go along with it because she’ll be happy that you are taking control of the situation.
With each question you can get deeper and elicit more of her values. That’s the best part about this, you’ll elicit her values and will know tons about her very quickly. It’s an amazing way to build comfort and its easy to make it last for hours if you want it to!
You can even reinitiate it after being away from her e.g “ok where were we, question 7….”
Let me know how you get on with it!
Matthew
so when can i expect… the end… to come about then? because it looks pretty hopeless.
I’m sorry but i REALLY don’t agree with this sort of ‘routine’. It gets boring real quick unless you’re both VERY interested in the interaction. And also with a lot of girls they’ll not like the stress of having to think of questions.
Maybe for a day 2 i can see this as being GREAT, but on your day 1 game, no way.
Hey Nate
I can see what your saying, and this routine does work great on a day 2. But I have used this alot when first meeting people and it always works well. Obviously its not great for an opener, but its a great thing for comfort once you’ve already got to the hook point. I wouldn’t use it before this point because as you rightly say, there needs to be a level of interest there for her to properly engage.
Also I’d say that if a girl cant think of any good questions I wouldnt be all that interested in her anyway because i like people who can banter and be spontaneous, so it can actually act as a filter for people you want to speak to.
Thanks for posting!
Matthew
The focus always seams to be on what to say and never or very little on how to say it.
How about teaching voice tonality and presentation skills, if you present well and are interesting in your voice tonality and body language then you can say almost anything.
I have noticed that some of the most entertaining sociable people the ones who really grab our attention and keep us listening are quiet often talking about the most boring mundane things going… but they still manage to keep a group hooked and entertained because they are good story tellers.
Matt you present so well and know how to keep people hooked on what you’re saying, in fact anything you talk about would keep a group or individual interested even if they did not agree or like the content, how about passing on this skill?
Hi Matt, thanks for the reply. What i am actually going to do is try this out tonight. In retrospect, i shouldnt be such a nay-sayer of other peoples routines, just because i havent really used anything like them before.
I did like what you said about using it as a filter; i myself REALLY don’t like uninteresting girls!
I’ll be reporting back in the morning ;]
No worries Nate! I know the feeling when you’re not sure whether something will work or not. Good luck with it tonight, let me know how you get on. Also I’d love to hear some of your own routines some time, I’m sure you’ve got some cool stuff to share!
Gav, thankyou so much for you kind words. You have actually inspired me to create a new video on just that subject. Keep your eyes peeled!
Speak soon guys!
Matthew
haha great video Matt – sounds like a cool lil game to play!
Hey matt, i sent you a follow up email to matt@puatraining.com instead of on here, i dont know if you got time to read it, i hope you can take the time to reply though :)
Wow Good one.
as if id fall for that!!!!!1111111
Cheers man! I’m gonna try this next time I’m on a date, quite often I’ve met girls who have been pretty into me, but then on the date the conversation seems to dry up easily and we don’t have much in common, so I’ll see how this works!
hey everyone says that it doesn’t matter what you say but its always great to have something in the bag if your mind goes blank!
i loved that 21 questions conversation stuff. If I was working and had no debtors to pay i would be going to the UK right now and being on your workshop. Fresh and interesting stuff. When are you guys coming to Australia? I could use the help
Cool :)
Why we can only use it after we pass the hook point?
And wouldn´t there be a way to put the game, to use it as an opener?
Yeah! good thing Hussy!
I am going to try this when I feel comfort with a girl.
and indeed! It also works as a filter!
I like it! No more … ‘ say bye to silences!’
I like that! – you have found the formula to put silences to the ground man!
You are great!