As for your second question, I imagine that different puas handle this differently depending on the location. Usually at dance clubs we go smack in the middle of the dance floor and form a “circle of death” (when a bunch of girls dance in a circle, often with their purses in the middle, only in this case I am part of the exclusive circle). Then I just have fun with them, lead the group, and basically wait for girls to enter our proximity so I can open them. If there’s a hot girl not in proximity that I just have to approach, I leave the circle to open them and later invite them to meet my friends (either before or after isolation).

My female friends all quickly discovered that I am a player, and are quite amused by it. They love joking about which girl I’ll be bringing home tonight–this is not a bad thing! In fact, it reinforces the idea that you are not looking to sleep with THEM so they feel be more comfortable around you. Sometimes I’ll even say something like “wow see that girl in the red dress–I gotta go meet her!” before I approach my target. That way the peer girl I was talking to is “in the loop” and routing for me (plus when I later bring the target back to my friends and introduce them, the peer girl is impressed).

I should also mention that I always pregame with my peer girls and also hang out with them outside the club setting. It is important to actually make friends with them, not just try to make it LOOK like you’re friends–otherwise you’ll probably run into the problems that you and ButerflyCollector mentioned.

I was in a really packed bar yest with guy and girl friends. It was exceptionally well lit, making it easier for every group to see each other. Maybe the external girls I talked to saw what group I was part of or not. But most places are not like that; how do you spread yourself around spatially irregular places?

Also I don’t know how you deal with people leaving and new groups entering. Girls you may have been working up to may leave and new ones will not know about your prior achievements.

But your question makes a really good point, since most guy “friends” of hot girls secretly do wish they could sleep with them (and most hot girls realize this to some extent). Yes, if you are outcome-dependent about whether you sleep with them, they will sense it. But you are different from most guys, because you ACTUALLY don’t care whether you sleep with them. Why? Because 1) you have internalized the fact that attractive girls are no different from anyone else (which requires some re-framing of your societal programming), and 2) eventually, you should have so much abundance that it actually doesn’t matter. Adam did end up sleeping with many of his social circle girls, but only because they saw how much other girls wanted him and couldn’t control their attraction for him. He completely reversed the roles.

In my own entourage I treat the girls completely as friends, and lo and behold one of them recently started coming on to me and making out with me in the club. In fact this took my as such a surprise that I forgot to manage expectations beforehand (and may end up having to drop her from the group :-/ ).

I feel he’s not very good at talking about his subject because of this! Not enough substance; too much talking about what you will talk about. ( kind of like many pua people actually => they want to sell the product obviously)

>>Adam / esticles / Adam’s esticles : what if in the process of trying to make female friends they see inside of you that you are also attracted to them but are not making a move on them ? How do you instead come off as a person who perhaps is the better for ‘controlling’ his feelings and not simply incapable of escalating?

Cheers, Steph

My question is; Reego will not be able to hide his homosexuality. Not at all. So, are there active social circles for gays in the military? Maybe a night club in Baghdad or something where he can let loose with other men who love men? I’m very worried about him being a complete loner, isolated and desperate because his fellow soldiers are made uncomfortable by his homosexual nature.

How do you manage that ur group stays together once u entered the club? Is it necessary to keep the people you came with together? I can imagine the girls with whom you entered the club are going to be approached by other guys (If they are hot). So how do you prevent that “your” girls are dragged away by other guys?