How to Pick Up a Bartender (Adam Lyons Video)

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Hey Guys!  I’ve heard this question a lot.  The bartender is that slightly unobtainable and usually beautiful girl, here’s how to pick her up. Comments are welcome, whether a question about the video or a suggestion for the next video!

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20 Responses to “How to Pick Up a Bartender (Adam Lyons Video)”

  1. Rick says:

    Great vid Adam! Loving your work.

  2. This is great advice. The bartender is one of the hardest pick ups since they get flirted with all the time and constantly have their guard up. This is the best description of how to approach it strategically I’ve yet seen.

  3. Vision says:

    As always this is GREAT STUFF!!!!!!!!!! Adam

  4. Joe says:

    Does anyone know where the clip was with two girls kissing? Wtf thats awesome! 3some guy

  5. Tom Harvey says:

    Great stuff from Adam again, I’ll never tire of watching and learning from his material!

  6. Keli says:

    Great video Adam but I think is more important about this video is the editing and production has taken a step up. Lectures and informal couch videos can only go a certain way to grab peoples attention.
    Hope to see more of this quality soon.

  7. x says:

    Awesome vid! Cheers!

  8. Saint says:

    Hey loved the post! Being a bartender for 3 years now i have watched the multitudes of men that have tryed and failed to pick up female colleagues. Something i would add is dont shout of wave or realy make any gesture you want served by her. Ive always used a subtle wink or a cheeky smile to get her attention. If she serves you quicker than you deserve this can be an i.o.i. And remember to tip good service guys it looks good when your at a bar, i would say raises your social value with the bar and we all appreciate it cause the bills dont pay for themself’s :)

  9. vegandrumma says:

    thanks for the vid adam, it was great… ill have to try out some of the tips!!!

  10. oh says:

    now i need to practise more on 8 9 10s and try to get accustomed to their ‘mentality’

  11. Loooooooove says:

    Hi thanks for taking a moment of your precious time to read think, I also love your videos. I watched your video for approaching a two set at the mall indirectly…so here is my question, how can you go direct at a two or three set, at the mall, street, or anywhere else

    Thank you

    Loooooooove

  12. Ian Lyons says:

    Can u just talk a little bit lounder like a real man?
    U are like a woman in this video.
    Train your voice tone. Make it deep and slow. I think this will increase ur success with women threefold at least.

  13. Raul Apollonio says:

    Hey my friends… I was actually very excited about this entry cause I’m a bartender… So what I mean is… do u have any tips for guys that are bartenders but are not quite guetting the hottest chick in the bar? I mean… the bartender is supposed 2 do it isn’t him? Hug

  14. oh says:

    i live a rather miserable existence. maybe if i use the energy it takes to be miserable into something productive something good may come out of it!

  15. Stephen says:

    Hi Adam,

    Great vid – thanks for that.

    You were looking for suggestions for your next video? How about a dance floor game one? Gulliver taught us a dance floor move on a recent boot camp which was pretty cool – this is the sort of thing i would like to see more of. Once your night out gets toward the end and you end up in a club, clubs are like 90% woman on the dance floor – this is something i would really like to see.

    Stephen

  16. Mark says:

    Thanks for the vid. Been wanting to know this for ages!

  17. JJ says:

    A video of how to deal with cockblocks would be great.

  18. Michael says:

    I’d like to ask some responses.

    I’ve had been getting a vibe from a female bartender that she was interested in me.

    It took me about 2-3 months of getting this vibe to finally ask her out, because be overly friendly is part of there job and makes for better tips.

    I asked if she would be interested in getting together sometime. She asked, what did I have in mind.

    I told her, “anything she would like to do. I’m open to anything.” She said “that sounded great, however it would depend on if she would be able to get the evening off.” (I never mentioned a day or time. Just sometime)

    I told her, “I am self employed so my schudule is very flexable.” Meaning I could see her anytime, not just at night.

    She said “thats funny, because between school and work she has very little time.”

    So I then said, “if I could get your phone number I will give you a call and maybe we could get together sometime.” She said “Sure”

    She turned around to a small ledge behind her. Wrote something on a piece of paper (or pertended to.) Pause for a few seconds, then just walked to the other end of the bar and started waiting on customers. Totally blowing me off.

    So then I’ve distanced myself from her, so as not to make her uncomfortable and I didn’t know she may be a pycho and get me kicked out or banned with a bunch of lies. I really like this club and had been going there regularly for years.

    This lasted about 2 weeks, then she purposely started to position herself to be the one to take my order. (There a total 5-7 female bartenders at this very busy club)

    When she took my order, she acted as if nothing had happened. She asked me if I wanted my ususal. I just nodded yes. She served me, collected my money, gave me back my change and litery ran away as fast as she could, I assuming, because she was afraid I would bring it up or keep hounding her for her number.

    Since then I’ve just avoided her, because I have a real hard time tipping someone that was really kind of mean (when you think about it) and did have the decency to applogize when she had the chance.

    I’ve been avoided her for about 2 months now, and she still will try to get in front of me to take my order.

    Is this girl interested in me or is there an alteriave motive.

    I would like to hear your responces.

    Thanks!

  19. Michael says:

    Umm, I have a question.

    Picking up the bartender/waitree/shot girl is supposed to be the hardest thing?

    Its the one thing I’ve had the most success doing, are you sure you’re not mistake about this?

    I have no trouble opening or chatting with regular women even in the bar/niteclub. My only real problem comes with getting the phone number and extracting myself to go play with someone else.

  20. Dominantleader says:

    I don’t get it…this guy has the whole frame that shes the prize

    slightly unobtainable…errr

    why wouldnt you try to take her to your hotel room ur

    …afraid to BE A MAN

    whats wrong with being sleazy ur

    …just a little pussy

    why just a ‘LITTLE BIT of a cool guy(pussy once again)’

    when, INSTEAD you can be

    …the COOLEST motherfucker she’s ever met

    she has to be careful about her reputation

    who cares about HER rep

    the only way to get her is to

    HAVE A BETTER REP

    this guy gives out this lame advice cause

    hes just one of the girls

    most guys don’t want to go through all this bullshit

    I’d rather

    fuck a girl

    WHENEVER I WANT

    get a life afc adam

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