Be the flame not the moth

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‘defeat is a state of mind. No one is ever defeated until defeat has been accepted as a reality. To me, defeat in anything is merely temporary and its punishment is but an urge for me to greater effort to achieve my goal. Defeat simply tells me that something is wrong in my doing; it is a path leading to success and truth.’ Bruce Lee

A state of mind that I have been applying to my life recently is be the flame not the moth. Now what I mean by that is whatever it is you desire, attract it you to. Be the blaze, be the glow, be the radiance. Always assume ATTRACTION. Some of the traits to this power are as follows:

Love – have love for yourself. Keep filling yourself with this one simple but magnificent energy. Because when you have love for yourself your also able to offer it to others.

“To be loved you have to be worth loving’  Casanova

Acceptance – be true and honest with yourself. We all have our own unique qualities that make us who we are. Don’t get stuck on what you don’t have, instead be aware of what you do have and use those qualities as a tool to your advantage. If your shy be shy, if your outgoing be outgoing.

Imagine who you want to become – why?, what are those new qualities? I desire to be someone who inspires, provokes, heals, protects, has no regrets. The list goes on and on simply because I evolve. Now understand guys you can become that man anytime you want in this instance, you just have to make the choice. What are you waiting for?

Believe – if you don’t believe your enough, if you cant believe you can be enough, you never will.

Positive thinking – positivity breeds positivity. Simple as that. Always find the good in a situation. Turn the obstacles you may face into opportunities to show your true power and strength.

Abundance – there is always enough! If it doesn’t work out with one girl, there is another coming around the corner. (possibly reason it didn’t work out, the timing wasn’t right e.g. she may have just broken up with bf, been hit on 10 times already etc)

FUN - speaks for itself, enjoy everything.

Now I believe this can be applied to all areas of life, try it out and see what happens. Now in terms of women think of who and how you would like to be with them. For me I remember I wanted to come across as smooth, honest, and unexpected.

How about you?

Ashley Shaw

Peace, Love and Joy

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18 Responses to “Be the flame not the moth”

  1. Jo-Wilfred says:

    Better than any of the stuff “Psych” posts on here. I agree with the majority of what you say…

  2. Jimbo says:

    Good post, so many guys I know getting into this end up being a dancing monkey trying to impress them. What works far better is getting them to impress you

  3. ben says:

    ashley i totally agree… i actually have not lloked at a thory of pua in the last year apart from going on this blog occasionally..

    the BIGGEST PROBLEM in pua land is that there is this mindset that all women have a code that needs to be unlocked rather than lloking at it as them being humans just like men with needs, i mean lets face it evey girl from the model to the cleaner wants to be loved, its a human instinct

    i think you guys should really also teach this mindset, that its not just about you but also the girl and that paranoid thinking about blow outs is probably a symptom of some sort of personality disorder

  4. I get the birdie boys out of the cage for a stretch. This gives me only enough freedom for a quick FB chat, then the computer is off and I’m out of the house again.

  5. WAIT A SECOND says:

    OMG! yet again! i think i know

    whats happening.

    but w/e really

    its all about experimentation

    and i know deep down that i wouldnt made any progress without any screw ups or anything like that.

    and people who are like LOLZ! are usually the typoes who have never been through one so. meh.

    its definately a reality shake

    to divert from that OMG if other people think this it must be true. but people naturally develop reactions to stabilise the tribal pack.

    but it does take mental toughness to be able to with stand this developmental period.

  6. WAIT A SECOND says:

    brillant though

    in a rather disagreeable sort of way.

  7. WAIT A SECOND says:

    because..

    it would be pretty nuts to set up pick up out of now where to be some easy path that comes together.

  8. WAIT A SECOND says:

    noooooooooo,,,,,,,,,, ffs i cant believe this

  9. Ashley says:

    ‘the journey of life can be seen like chapters…in order for you to reach the next, all chapters must be fully lived and treasured…for only then will you feel free to shine your never ending beautiful story’ Ashley

  10. The phrase is a simple allusion to the well-known attraction that moths have to bright lights. The word moth was used the the 17th century to mean someone who was apt to be tempted by something that would lead to their downfall. This is referred to by Shakespeare in The Merchant of Venice, 1600:

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  12. I think you guys should really also teach this mindset, that its not just about you but also the girl and that paranoid thinking about blow outs is probably a symptom of some sort of personality disorder

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  14. Davaa says:

    Hey bro,

    Great article, mindset to ultimate success in all areas of life.
    Keep em coming!!!

  15. sell my car says:

    Well it isn’t specifically fire that insects are drawn to, but light. They will also be drawn to an electric bulb. So I guess it might be considered a form of phototropism, though that term is more often used to describe a plant’s physical response to light.

  16. sell my car says:

    The human race is a moth, if knowledge, ‘heaven’, and figuring out why we’re here is the flame.We will always be chasing this desireable, ultimate meaning, for reasons we still can’t figure out.

  17. Sale says:

    Pretty nice submit. I just stumbled upon your weblog and wanted to say that I have actually enjoyed exploring your blog posts. In any case I??ll be subscribing for your feed and i hope you be able to write again soon!

  18. Ashley says:

    Thanks Sale :)

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