Dancing has been around from the beginning of time and is one of the most used arts for one to express themselves.
Hey Guys!
Me and a friend were out last week and again it was another memorable and humorous experience. Its so important to be around people who you are going to have fun with. As a guy who loves to dance I gotta say how good it feels to feel free and express yourself. Guys when you hit the club try jump on the dance floor and enjoy yourself whether you can dance or not because as you know, it will show you are comfortable to let yourself go and have fun. And nothing is more attractive then making people feel they can be free too, right?
Heres just a few more suggestion that may help for when your next at the club and if you choose to bust those moves :-p
Have fun- enjoy your own company or whoever your with!
Smile – if you don’t see someone smile give them yours
Bring a playful and positive vibe – it attracts and makes girls want to be around you.
Lead – if there is a girl you want to dance with go for it, you have nothing to lose. But take the lead as women want and desire this, because to them, it shows strength of character.
Dance- now believe it or not, not many guys do this, and to be fair that’s what the dance floor is made for. If you feel uncomfortable maybe try taking lessons like salsa for example, street or even ballroom; whatever’s good for you. You could also check out youtube or even music videos, anything that you feel will be good for you. We all have a heart, which beats to a rhythm, you just have to be in tune with it.
Do what you want by following your feelings (however within reason. I knew a guy who went around the dance floor forcing girls to kiss him. Some found it funny, others…well need I say anymore; be calibrated)
Try not to stare at women or hover around them, I’m sure you guys know this already as it kind of creeps women out and makes you come across needy.
If you’re a dancer avoid spending the whole night on the middle of the dance floor trying to show off your moves and if you know you are not a very good dancer then definitely DO NOT do this. It appears as if you are trying to hard which can portray a lack of confidence and a need for attention which after a while just becomes annoying.
Either way the most important thing to do as you know is have fun no matter what!
And Remember
Women love to go out partying either to have fun with their girlfriends, meet new and exciting people, (you) and most importantly to DANCE!
Why not join them?
Ashley Shaw
Peace, Love and Joy
excellence,
but alot of time its all about getting into a flow state.
and i find that its next to impossible to never be annoying, needy or anything like that. because after a while one can be like ‘shit maybe im annoying’ then its like then id be like all nervuous and weak and seeking validation to prove that im not annoying then that would annoy them even more!
criticism comes with the territory and its all about learning to sort of absorb it since its a part of the social reality.
and it functions as a way to ‘test’ someone’s status and leadership ability within the hierarchy.
and every ‘change’ or development comes with a social or psychological reaction of some sort.
maybe its all about self expression. maybe.
Hiya Ashley,are you one of PUA Training new staff,as I’ve not come across your name on the blogs here before,great post,this has definitely opened up my mind!,I sometimes try to dance with girls on the dance floor,and not always,but sometimes they look at me and walk away,could you please tell me where I’m going wrong,and what should be the first thing I should say to them on the dance floor!,I also agree with what Mr Sexy said,I think I have the same problem as him,I think you are right Mr Sexy,you do have to be in the right flow state.
It’s definitely a sport ! Because one popular form of dancing, rhythmic gymnastics, is a recognized and acknowledged Olympic sport.
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Hey guys,
Excellence – its definately about getting in that flow..and whatever helps you do that, make it happen. I see what your point about not trying to be annoying and then come across as annoying. I would say be comfortable..when your comfortable she will be comfortable.
Perfection- remember there is no one right way. try different things out and see what is congruent with your style. You may want to open by hi fiving, maybe gentley taking her hand and pulling her towards you, you may want to go direct and tell her what you think about her dancing and then take her to dance, you may want to copy her dance moves in a blatant and playful way..it goes on. The main thing is you are having fun and you are choosing to bring them into your fun with a big fat smile :)
It’s funny, Mystery was always adamantly against any type of dancefloor game. From my experience it works if either you are actually a great dance or if you not, but are just taking the piss.
Trying to look like a good dancer when in fact you suck is not good for picking up
i find that now people are like OMG like reading into everything i do. even when im doing nothing.
but then again
i read into everything everyone else does.
so i guess its fair.
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Yep, it is getting old. Perhaps each team should have to dance exactly the same routine as the others to see who dances that exact routine best and then judge them?
I get furious. You are one hundred percent right! Dance is a sport, you have to be really active to be good at it. You know what I hate more? When cheerleaders think cheerleading is a sport and dance isn’t.
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I’m going wrong,and what should be the first thing I should say to them on the dance floor!,I also agree with what Mr Sexy said,I think I have the same problem as him,I think you are right Mr Sexy,you do have to be in the right flow state.
I would say be comfortable..when your comfortable she will be comfortable.
I’ve gone to five or six reggae or ska concerts and I always have a great time dancing with my friends. I’ve been asked to dance a few times, but I’ve always turned them down. Then I realized if I were to accept, I don’t know what I’m a supposed to do. Is accepting just giving them permission to put their hands on my hips and kind of move together? Or am i supposed to do something?
A really good tip is to be still. Do not be afraid to remain completely still for two counts or four counts. Hold the last position you hit until you feel the beat again, then start dancing again. It looks really dramatic and professional.