“Live as if your father was dead.” -David Deida
Growing up, we are told what to do. Go to school. Go to church. Clean the yard. Get a job. Learn to drive. Go to college. Find a wife. Have kids. Get old. Die.
What if that’s not the journey for you? It’s the outline to the story society tells us to live, but is it the story you need to live? Is it the story you want to live? It’s can be hard to shed the trappings of a “normal” life, and go blaze your own trail through life. I’ve been fortunate to have family and friends who support me through my non-traditional existence, but even with my blessings, there have still been times when I’ve had everyone telling me that I shouldn’t do something, and I had to walk my path very alone.
How to change your life from normal to great…
In the course of life, we are called as men to find our purpose, and fulfill it. This philosophical question, “What is the meaning of life?” constantly calling to us for an answer. Scale it down; make it more useful for us to ponder, “What is the meaning of my life?” What do you need to do before you die? What purpose do you serve? Some peoples’ purpose is just to be an example of what’s possible. Sometimes it is to make some lucky lady very happy, to have a few kids and the white picket fence. Perhaps it’s to be an artist, an entrepeneur, a civil rights activist, or even the president of the United States. Okay, probably not that last one….jpg "Not Meant to Be President...")
Scaling it down even further, what is your purpose in getting great with women? Do you want to be a playboy, surrounded by women, a bachelor for life? Do you seek to bed a bunch of women, so that when you find the One, your wild oats have been sown, and you can settle down happily? Experience has taught me that the traditional methods of dating are flawed, and while they may work for some, they fail for many. That said, society will scorn you if you follow a non-traditional path, and friends and family may even confront you. It is tough to blaze your own trail, and people may not understand your choices. It takes a lot of self-esteem and courage to go out and do what’s right for you, and let other peoples’ opinions be damned. Funny enough, chicks dig courage and self-esteem…
Going forward:
1) Figure out what is your end goal? It’s okay if this changes, happens to everyone. Just go for a general direction for now.
2) What milestones do you want to hit on your journey? What do you want to say you’ve done? This can be total ego, it’s your life, sometimes the cheap thrills are totally worth it.
3) Spend time figuring out the best way to go about reaching your overall goal, while hitting those milestones along the way. If you need some ideas, feel free to comment below.
is this too direct or can you use this in any environment? day or night game or both?
hey there,
you stunningly beautiful and I would like to get to know you.
or,
excuse me,
You are stunningly beautiful and I would,like to get to know you.
hey justin
or,
hey there, I have to tell you
you are stunningly beautiful and I would like to get to know you.
as an opener or either way in middle of conversation or as opener.
what is your take?
michael
I’d never say excuse me while going direct. Direct is all about showing bravery, with no excuses.
That said, the above examples will only work if she’s already attracted on some level. It also only works if you mean it. Women are really good at reading emotion, so if you don’t mean it, she’ll probably pick up that it’s just a line, and you will not have a good result.
Direct is high risk/high reward, so it’ll either fail totally or win completely. Expect that, and it has very little to do with you. You’re better off going direct during the day, because alcohol makes it easy to go direct at night, so it won’t mean as much.