What is the most socially retarded thing you have ever done?
Spilt a drink over someone you fancied? Involuntarily soiled yourself in polite company?Brought up the subject of necrophilia to the recently bereaved?
The definition of a social retard is someone who is incapable of responding appropriately to his or her social environment in the presence of others and often lacks insight of their inabilities.
It seems like a given that we try to not be socially retarded in order to maintain our value and/or attractiveness.
Today I am going to talk about how you can be a social retard to skyrocket your social interactions. An intelligent one. Fucking genius. Basically breaking norms knowingly and safely without judgement, leads people into that naughty naughty frame which as a child gives us that certain thrill and attraction towards breaking the (social) rules.
If you are able to demonstrate such a high awareness of social nuances in a given situation, that you can break social rules in a knowing manner, you will demonstrate social intelligence and more value than a six pack of Pound-stretcher boxers. This means breaking the rules, deliberately, with the intent that you know that the rules can be broken. Kind of like stickin’ it to da man.
This is nothing new.Take your average fancy dress party.Or stereotypical hen party.People use these as an excuse to dress up badly, breaking social rules in a knowing manner. And by doing so, enhances their social value and garners loads of attention. Why else would anyone wear a Borat mankini?
In this thing we call Game, this concept is as old as the hills, dating back to even the earliest recorded methods. For example, years ago it was generally the social norm as a guy, to go out with the guys, talk about the footie, have a few pints, chat up some birds and hopefully, pull.(Oh, it still is!?) Women went along with this but in general, it was a numbers game. However, let’s say, some guys of the Stylish or Mysterious persuasion, decided to break out of the “social norm” and went to talk to girls, starting a conversation with, “Hey guys, me and my friend, blah, blah, blah……who lies more, cats or dogs??”
Then she thinks, wow, this is unusual, these guys are doing something different to all those others, they seem interesting, I’ll hang with these and see how it pans out….and it’s a valid question, I’ve never met a cat who I’ve fully trusted, dogs seem more open, but what are they hiding etc. etc.And the girls stick around because they enjoy the originality of the interaction.
This works tremendously well at its inception.
A word of warning. The problem is when such a conversation becomes ingrained as a routine part of one’s social acumen, then, it becomes, well, a ROUTINE. And by definition, this is not a response to the social situation, rather a repeated behaviour. You see, the whole point of social value is to exhibit a range of behaviours to demonstrate the ability to handle yourself socially. This cannot be replaced with “one size fits all” behaviours (the erstwhile magic pill), as they prevent you from responding to the social situation in Real-time.
The key to this is creativity. Our creative minds are most active when we are relaxed, comfortable and stimulated. And when we are chilled, we are at our most socially calibrated. This enables us to have the maximum awareness of what’s going on in the environment.
We unconsciously become aware of how others are behaving and our own behaviour inadvertently follows suit. For example, if most people in an environment are low energy, we naturally follow this socially proofed behaviour and go low energy.This is the socially normal thing to do. If we get into the habit of noticing these things consciously, we can break the behaviour, such as exhibiting bursts of high energy. The trick is to exhibit that you understand the socially proofed behaviour, not are oblivious to it. At the most basic level, this is the idea of matching and leading, i.e. you match people’s behaviours so you are in rapport, then progressively change your behaviour so they follow you by changing theirs to stay in rapport.
Now if that’s the basic principle, then this can be applied to a variety of behaviours and this can get quite outlandish. Dance when no one else is dancing. Be loud when everyone else is quiet. Be sober when everyone else is drunk. Get your cock out for no reason. Now (disclaimer), this is not an exact science. I shall refrain from delving into examples, as outside of a given social context, they become routines.I would say that the intelligent social retard is someone who is socially experimental. As soon as you know you are flowing with the social norm, think about what would happen if you broke it. Then do it. Even think of the worst thing you could do in that social situation. Then do it. Try not to break (m)any laws but the point is learn the boundaries of social convention for yourself. You will be surprised that often, what you think might happen if you break social convention, will produce the opposite effect. Aim to bring adventure or mischief, and people will value some escapism from regular social convention.
So next time you are out, or even going about your dailies, think of the people around you and notice their fundamental adherence to social convention. Notice how you feel naturally drawn to match those behaviours.Watch how everyone plays along to their social programming, and then….introduce a little anarchy!!………
Stay classy!
Shamwow
