You can have all the lines (or the booze) in the world but that’s not the real reason girls go home with guys. Girls hook up with guys (or girls) because they think they’re going to be great in bed. Makes sense, right? Why else would we catch a bus across town to see you, sneak into your parents’ house or duck into the stall of a bar bathroom with you unless we thought we were going to get something really satisfying out of it? Here are my top three ways to scream “sex god” even if you’re secretly more Steve Jobs than Ron Jeremy.
1. Establish & Maintain Eye Contact
Oddly enough, we seem more sincere when we hold eye contact and subtly move in towards a person when we’re saying things. Next time you’re in front of a mirror try saying “There are so many things I’d love to do to you,” in two ways: one, moving away from the mirror, and looking around. The other maintaining your gaze and gradually moving in. You’ll see the second option makes you seem way more like you might be telling the truth about that time you made the two cheerleaders beg for more.
Top tip: Adjust the angle of your head to be slightly tilted when you’re saying these lines. This is the position we move into when we’re about to kiss someone, and it seems less confrontational than meeting someone’s gaze head on.
2. Utilize a James Bond Tone Of Voice
You know in the romcoms when Hugh Grant splutters and mumbles his way through declaring his love for a girl, then she is overcome with love and goes home with him? Yeah, that would never happen in real life. Why? Because so much of your sexual confidence is suggested through your vocal tone. Hastily spoken, high pitched speech or mumbling under your breath all says that you’re not comfortable with what you’re saying. So next time you want to say something truly filthy, take your time over it. Slow down. Pause. Spend ages telling her how she would look great in your bed: and she’ll believe you have the chutzpah to pull it (her dress) off.
3. Postpone The Kiss For Gentle Touches
To take the lead in bed you need to show that you’re comfortable with touching a woman. You need to seem totally relaxed in stroking her face, sliding your hand around the small of her back and kissing her neck. And I mean seem. Plenty of guys aren’t that “touchy feely” naturally and feel awkward at first touching a girl. The problem is if you’re nervous and uncertain this feeling will transfer to your date. So you need to fake it until you make it and show how you’re at ease with touching her. PUA Training’s three tips to pull this off are:
• Don’t look where you touch: It looks unnatural and makes you seem uneasy.
• Don’t linger: Touches should start light, gentle and brief then get more intense when she gives you the green light by not responding negatively to your moves.
• Don’t go from 0-60: Go straight in for the kiss and you’ll probably get knocked back. Start with a light touch to her arm with the back of your hand, move onto shoulders, then her neck. Whispering in her ear will get a much better response than going straight for the kill.
Work on these non-verbal indicators that you’re a sexual, confident guy and let your moves (not your words) do the talking.
How are you Hayley,
Another cool post.
Strange isn’t it that what you say when applied is seduction and expressing your sexuality – I thought it was common scense. I was in in San Francisco and Sydney recently had got great results by doing exactly this – as always (including picking up my idealised dream girl – looks wise that is).
In these examples, and just like you say in your post, it escalated swimmingly/naturally and the attraction was obvious, then expressing yourself sexually (although I don’t kiss in the venue – my kino escalation let her know) so that outside the club when I eventually did – it was like all this built up sexual tension she had just had to be realeased. Brilliant!
Now Hayley, it took opening quite a few girls before one ‘clicked’ and escalated naturally (and thankfully me my standards). What is the best way to get a greater success rate – that is create amazing attraction in any girl. Generally I talk with people in my day to day routine and most girls show significant disinterest although they whinge that guys don’t approach them.
Thanks Hayley
All the best
Hmm, have you ever met a girl who, when given the choice between the two, would rather date Ron Jeremy than Steve Jobs? Because I haven’t and I’ve just asked quite a few of my female friends.
Some men get sexier with age and Jobs is definitely in that boat. Other men turn into lonely losers as they age, desperately trying to act young and appear cool; and Jeremy is in that category.
Hey Albert
How to create consistently more attraction is a huge question- which I don’t really have the breadth to cover here. I would say that everyone flunks out every now and again but results improve by actively practicing, opening as many sets as possible. This will help you to get better at responding to people’s reactions and to know what will work on what kind of girl- every woman is different but different characters will respond to different stimulus better or worse. Also practice will help you to feel competent and therefore confident in your actions which will make how your delivery much more consistent.
Good luck
HQ
Ps. Fluff definitely agree that a lot of men get better with age!