“You have the most beautiful smile” Nope
“Your eyes are like the ocean” Puke.
“You don’t sweat much for a fat chick” Offensive.
“You’re so hot you make me want to get a job” Not going to do you any favours.
Why do these compliments suck?
Someone has already used them. So if you reel them out on your hot date, they’re going to roll their eyes, and move on. Because you have done nothing to separate yourself from every other guy out there.
You’ll also appear insincere by using cliches; and like you’ve watched ‘The Notebook’ one too many times. Insincerity also makes it appear like you’re not giving the compliment in a genuine way, and that in fact you just want to get something from the woman in question, like a date, a kiss, or some other kind of nooky.
So how do you avoid these pitfalls? You be specific.
A specific compliment that’s tailored to the girl will seem spontaneous, sincere and feet-sweeping awesome.
The best ones are also never about looks; but about the girl’s behaviour or personality, something that is unique to her.
For instance:
“I love the way you walk” feels romantic incomparison to the cruder “I hate to see you go but I love to watch you leave”.
“I love how you’re joyously walking around eating pick and mix” will catch a girl off guard when she’s not feeling at her most glamorous.
“I love how you’re still smiling when it’s so late in your shift” works a charm on waitresses and cute shop workers.
“I admire how you told me about how you used to be a chubby, goth girl at school” will seem incredibly sincere if a girl has just opened up to you about her painful school memories on a date.
Uncertain how to make one of these compliments yourself? then just follow this simple formula:
1. Really listen to what a girl is saying if you’re on a date, or observing what she’s doing if you want to use the compliment to approach her.
2. Phrase it as ‘I like x about you’ or ‘I admire x about you’
3. Be as specific as possible: if you want to say a girl has beautiful eyes say why you think they’re beautiful.
4. Use compliments sparingly. One really good, unique comment, is so much better than telling her you love EVERYTHING about her… namely the hope that if you compliment her enough she will sleep with you.
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Ive read your story and you said you used to be ‘ugly’ when in fact you were never that bad in the first place. At most it was clearly a bad photo. You look like a typical teenage girl in the picture.
Haha I’m not sure if that’s a compliment or not! All I can say is whilst I may not have objectively been the ugliest girl in school, I was certainly made to feel that way. Even if I was just a bit plump, with terrible hair/ teeth children are miraculously capable of finding something to tease you about! It’s taken me ages to feel great about myself, and know that I’m pretty awesome. That’s why this job is so important to me: lots of people have negative body images and if I can show people that they are sexy, awesome and capable of amazing things that makes me very happy
Hey Harley,
How’ve you been legend. I see a lot of guys giving B/S compliments and not even looking at her (like they’re looking around) so they”re not essentially meaning what they say and their sub-communication is terrible. I was at the Opera Bar and there was this stunning woman – like she glided, style and class…haaaa. I stopped her as she was walking from the bar – went direct and conveyed with 100% total meaning, something like (and in no hurry, confident, like I owned the room, relaxed vibe): ‘Hey excuse me, I couldn’t help but notice…. you look absolutely stunning… its just that I really admire women with class and style : )’ She said ‘oh, thx’, I then said: ‘my friend Leigh really loves your dress – come meet her’ she says ‘no thanks’ and walks off.
Do you coach/train at PUA Training Bootcamps – I’m coming to England to get this shit handled once and for all LOL.
Keep smiling
Regards
Fat-Albert
Would that have shot my value in the venue.
Intrestingly enough, at school, the really hot girls didn’t have to work hard to get attention/be popular. But for a big girl to be popular, she needed to have a super ‘sparkling’ personality (in order to stand out and be liked). I guess what I’m saying is that you must’ve been a big girl at school since you have this amazing personality Hayley – its very attractive
Hey Harley,
How’ve you been legend. I see a lot of guys giving B/S compliments and not even looking at her (like they’re looking around) so they”re not essentially meaning what they say and their sub-communication is terrible. I was at the Opera Bar and there was this stunning woman – like she glided, style and class…haaaa. I stopped her as she was walking from the bar – went direct and conveyed with 100% total meaning, something like (and in no hurry, confident, like I owned the room, relaxed vibe): ‘Hey excuse me, I couldn’t help but notice…. you look absolutely stunning… its just that I really admire women with class and style : )’ She said ‘oh, thx’, I then said: ‘my friend Leigh really loves your dress – come meet her’ she says ‘no thanks’ and walks off.
Would that have shot my value in the venue.
Intrestingly enough, at school, the really hot girls didn’t have to work hard to get attention/be popular. But for a big girl to be popular, she needed to have a super ‘sparkling’ personality (in order to stand out and be liked). I guess what I’m saying is that you must’ve been a big girl at school since you have this amazing personality Hayley – its very attractive.
Do you coach/train at PUA Training Bootcamps – I’m coming to England to get this shit handled once and for all LOL.
Keep smiling
Regards
Fat-Albert
Hey Albert
Thanks for the comments! I don’t teach on the PUA Training bootcamp that much but I always work on the amazing Platinum Residential course.
Good luck with your game