Which came first, the chicken or the egg?

Does being good-looking matter?

Does having money matter?

Does having game even matter!?!?!?

These are the age-old questions that wars have been fought over.

This article sets out to answer these questions once and for all and is based on numerous conversations/musings with AFC Adam aka Adam Lyons.

Many will argue, especially old school routine based PUA’s, that looks, money and other qualities such as social status don’t have any impact on your ability to get the girl…..

Those who have yet to enter the matrix, the AFC’s of the world, would unanimously argue that looks, money and social status are the only determinants of whether you get the girl…..

Neither group can be completely right when defending opposing positions so do looks, money and status really matter when getting the girl?

I first want to tell you about where I came from to help lay a framework for my thinking and conclusions. I was very lucky to enter the game at a young age but this was only after years of struggling to understand why I never got the girl… Especially when the motivation behind 100% of my decisions and actions was to become what I perceived to be attractive to women.

At the time, I thought I had done everything right and that women should be throwing themselves at me, but that couldn’t be more far from the truth. Playing on the lacrosse team, head of my fraternity, part of the governing body of a 5000 person fraternity/sorority society, having perfect grades, and being told I was good looking, I would still go to bed alone every night (except in the luckiest of drunken debacles, which were few and far between), wondering what I was doing wrong. IT JUST DIDN’T MAKE ANY SENSE! It was painful and depressing. Then I discovered game…..

Now lets examine a guy who is down on his luck and has fallen through the cracks. Lets call him AFC. AFC has a menial job he hates, does not find himself attractive, can barely afford to take a girl on a date and has a bit of a belly from never having gone to the gym. As you guys may have guessed, he would also end up alone every night praying to find the answer.

How is it possible that two men on the opposite side of the spectrum still end up alone at night? And more importantly, how can this AFC find his way towards the light and get the girl of his dreams?

The answer is a combination of two things.

1. Attractive qualities
2. Game

Yes, it’s true, having things like looks, money and social status DO help but on their own, they are worthless! It is also true that having game helps BUT having game can only take you so far. In order to pull the girls from your dreams, the glorious 10’s, you must use a combination of attractive qualities and game!

So how exactly do attractive qualities and game work together and which is more important?

Everyone, whether you like it or not, has a score or a rating. In this article, we will use the 1-10 scale.

1 = AFC

10 = Brad Pitt

The 1-10 scale can work for or against you; it really depends where you land on the scale in relation to the girl you are trying to get.

Let’s take a look at Average Joe. Average Joe is a 5/10 in all areas of life. He is average looking, of average intelligence, has an average job and has average conversation skills. Average Joe, provided he doesn’t mess it up, should already be considered attractive to girls that are 1’s, 2’s, 3’s and 4’s on the scale (At least before he speaks).

If you’ve ever met a hot girl and she complains about how no one ever hits on her, what she is actually saying is that no one she views as equal or higher value ever hits on her. In reality every single guy she ever speaks to is hitting on her. YOU are in the exact same situation. Girls do hit on you, the only problem is, you are not interested in these girls because you view them as lower value.

With this understanding, it is proven that increasing your value or score on the scale will increase the quality of girls you get. The only problem with this is that you will still be getting girls of a lower quality than you “deserve” and want and your results will most likely be inconsistent. So whether you are a 2 or an 8, you still wont be happy with the quality and quantity of the girls you are getting because everyone wants to punch above their weight and get their dream girl. This is where game comes into play! J

Game is what allows all men from AFC to Pimp to pull higher quality girls with a high level of consistency. There’s only one catch….

No matter how amazing Average Joe’s game is, the odds of him pulling a genuine 10 are virtually non-existent. Game has a limitation on how much it will allow you to punch above your weight (and yes I agree, it is very sad!).

Realistically, when you first start to study game, you are most likely pulling girls below your weight. That’s right, if you’re an 8/10, your most likely getting 7’s and below even though you’re only interested in 9’s and 10’s. Once you obtain a decent understanding of game and conversation/social skills, you should expect to pull girls that are equal to you on the scale. (But this isn’t good enough, we want more!!!!!!)

Once you have a basic understanding of game, its time to start punching above your weight but what is realistic to expect? Having only a slight understanding of game will allow you to punch +1 above your weight. So in this case, Average Joe who is a 5/10 can now pull girls who are a 6/10. After you gain a solid understanding of game and put in the practice necessary, you can expect to punch +2 above your weight. When your friends consider you a master, you will be punching +3 above your weight.

To further put things into perspective, the very best PUA’s in the world can punch +4 above their weight but they most likely wont need it because while practicing game they have also focused on improving themselves and increasing their base value.

To summarize, game allows you to punch above your weight and get the girls of your dreams but it is also essential that you focus on improving yourself and improving your base value to reach full potential. The more you practice game, the more you will be able to punch above your weight but don’t forget to focus on improving yourself by doing things like going to the gym, getting a better degree and taking care of yourself.

-Alexander Prime

Right now I’ve got a problem… Last night I left a bar with a student I was training, a girl he’s successfully gaming and a girl that I’m gaming as his wing but as we entered the bar, I ran into one of my multiple long term relationship girls and all of her girlfriends, all of them want me to ditch the 2 girls my student and I brought to the bar. To make things even more interesting, I picked up a girl in the mall the day before and she was on her way to meet me at that exact bar! The girl from the mall shows up with her girlfriend whom I have to explain that my student and I were invited to go swimming at the original 2 girls pool and I couldn’t stay to party. After successfully explaining to my MLTR, all her girl friends and the mall girl and her friend that I had to leave, I had a few blocks to walk to my car. As soon as I get to my car I see a strange girl waiting for me… I realize this is a girl I met a few weeks early and ate tacos with at 4AM….. Which we ate in her bed….

Why am I telling you all of my problems from having slept with a significant portion of the girls in my home city? Especially when this article has nothing to do with solving a single one of them…. I am sharing all of this with you because I want you to realize what your life will be like if you implement the strategies discussed within this article.

You have officially been warned!!!

Many of you may find yourself thinking you’ll have to make significant life changes to find yourself in a situation similar to mine but by the time you finish this article, you will find it much easier than originally believed. This article will focus on giving purpose to your cold approaches, improving the quality of your interactions by building a stronger connection and creating a social circle based around your perfect girl and all of her girlfriends.

The first step to immediately improving the quality and number of women in your life is to give a purpose to your game and that starts by knowing what qualities your perfect woman has and what types of activities she is into. By knowing what you are looking for in a woman, you will be displaying a number of attractive qualities by default. These attractive qualities include displaying higher value, increased levels of attraction and increased investment. Once you have determined what qualities your perfect girl has, your next task is to determine what activities interest her. The perfect activity is one you are also interested in. The activity can be anything from clubbing, to visiting art galleries to playing role-playing games. This article will teach you how to create an event and social circle based on the activities/interest of your perfect girl and all of her girlfriends.

*For more information on determining what qualities your perfect girl has, please review my article on creating a qualification guide, which can be found at http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2010/09/qualification-find-perfect-girl

With a new found knowledge of what type of girl you are looking for and what activities/interests she would be interested in, you can now significantly improve your chances of picking the perfect girl up. Your cold approaches will no longer be random but in locations that you know your perfect girl will easily be found. If you are interested in club girls, you will game in nightclubs. If you are interested in girls who like to surf, you will game at the beach and surfer bars. Regardless of what activities your perfect girl does, you will game where this activity already takes place.

By gaming in places that interest both you and your perfect girl, something magical happens. You will find that you have much more to talk about with these girls and that you will easily build strong lasting connections. By sharing a common interest with a girl, you create a bond, which is the foundation of all relationships. The more you are able to find in common with a girl, the better your chances of having a successful interaction are. By knowing what you are looking for in a girl and gaming in locations your perfect girl is easily found, you are will find it easier than ever to build a connection with a girl, talk forever and have a GENUINE AND LEGITIMATE reason to stay in touch.

Your reason for staying in touch with the perfect girl interested in the same activity as you is the event YOU will create. Your mission is to create an event based on the activity that your perfect girl is interested in giving you the perfect reason to stay in touch. You won’t be inviting just one girl to this event; you will invite every girl from now on to your event. Because you are gaming where you know girls interested in the activity you have created an event around will be, you will find it easy to build a genuine connection based upon your common interest and then you will have a genuine reason to stay in touch so you can send her the details to your event and add value to her life!

The easiest way to create an event is to determine what the event will be based on then choose a time, date and place where the event will be held. You will focus on finding girls interested in the activity the event is based on, using the common interest to build a connection and then close the girl with the reason of inviting her to your event. To guarantee success, create an event that will be reoccurring at least monthly and continually game to invite more girls to your events. After hosting as few as one event, don’t be surprised if you find yourself running into similar situations as I have described in the beginning of this article!

By creating an event based on the activities that your perfect girl is interested and adding value to her life, you will quickly find girls fighting over your attention and going out of their way to game you! As the leader of the event, you will immediately be considered attractive and alpha. Additionally, you will be viewed as an expert in the activity, which is coincidentally something your perfect girl is very interested in. [Maybe you could spare some time to help her learn something new about her favorite activity? ] To stack the odds even further in your favor, you will have massive social proof from being the event coordinator and you will be the only person in the room that everyone in the room knows. Girls will start conversations with one another asking how they know YOU! It’s amazing how all of this is possible from giving a little purpose and direction to your approaches and creating an event based on a shared interest with perfect girl and all of her girl friends.

Reference Guide To Getting your Perfect Girl and All of Her Best Friends:

1. Soon-To-Be-Awesome PUA sits down and creates a list of all the qualities and activities his perfect girl is into.
2. Soon-To-Be-Awesome PUA picks an activity/interest he shares with his perfect girl and all of her best friends.
3. Soon-To-Be-Awesome PUA picks a time, date and place where he will host recurring events based on the activity/interest he shares with his perfect girl and all of her best friends.
4. Soon-To-Be-Awesome PUA then determines where his perfect girl and all of her best friends already hang out and then spends the majority of his time gaming there.
5. Soon-To-Be-Awesome PUA will build a genuine connection with his perfect girl and all of her best friends based on having a common interest, which will naturally lead into a close.
6. Soon-To-Be-Awesome PUA closes his perfect girl and all of her best friends by inviting them to the event he created based on their shared interest.
7. Soon-To-Be-Awesome PUA repeats this process with every girl who shares this common interest.
8. Soon-To-Be-Awesome PUA holds his event at least monthly and soon finds himself waiting for Alexander Prime to write an article on how to solve the problems originally described in the beginning of this article because Soon-To-Be-Awesome PUA finds himself in a similar situation!

By determining what you want in a girl and what she is interested in, creating an event based on that interest, building a genuine connection with each girl you speak to and closing them by inviting them to your event, you will quickly find yourself not only surrounded by multiple girls who fit your description of perfect but additionally girls will be begging you invite them to your events and join your social circle.

Please remember, you have been warned!!!

-Alexander Prime

Attraction has been broken down over the past few years and can be taught/practiced at any level. Whether you’re new to game or sleeping with four girls a day, qualification will be the majority of your game. Entire books could be written about defining qualification but this article will focus on creating a list of qualifications for the perfect girl and why qualifying from this list will act as leverage resulting in levels of attraction like never before.

The List

An easy way to elevate your game to the next level is creating a list of the qualities found in your perfect/ideal girl. The list should include both physical and non-physical characteristics. The more detail you include in the list, the better. Everything from height to the shade of her teeth to the way she laughs or even acts at the dinner table. We will be actively qualifying from the non-physical list avoiding qualifying from the physical list for the most part. We created the physical list because it helps to have a solid idea of what we are looking for in a girls looks so we don’t waste time in field. This list will be constantly evolving and changing as we learn about yourselves and your tastes. This list should be readily available in your memory and used in the field in every conversation.

Higher Value

In all conversations there is a battle of frame and value. Those who have higher value qualify those around them to see if they math the qualities they are looking for in others. By qualifying, you have already increased your value and as an added bonus, you are now giving girls reasons why you like them other than their looks.

Genuine

Because we have taken the time to create our list of qualities, when we qualify, it will be more genuine. THIS IS MASSIVELY IMPORTANT! By being genuine instead of qualifying on things you don’t care about (i.e. adventurous) this will massively lever the amount of attraction received. Because you are being genuine, you qualifications will come across much stronger and clearer as the girls can sense this.

Knowing What You Want

Most guys have no idea what they look for in a girl, this can really hurt you down the road, especially if you reach the point where you have many optionsJ. Knowing what you want will lever your value and put you miles ahead of the other guys. Girls are attracted to alphas and one of these qualities is knowing what you want. By qualifying from your list, all this will be conveyed and your attraction level will be through the roof.

Not Wasting Time

Because we know what we want, we can quickly move past those that do not meet our standards. It is important to be friendly with everyone for social proof purposes and the possibility of hot friends but we won’t be spending the majority of our night learning about this girl. Also, by having standards and not hooking up with every girl, your value will increase.

Reference

If you are qualifying a girl and you run out of things to say, you can simply reference your qualification list and incorporate one of the qualities you are looking for into conversation.

Target – Goal – Situation

For both beginners and the more advanced, it is important to pick a target and then decide what you are trying to accomplish considering logistics. i.e. we will probably being going for number closes on the tube at 9am on Sunday instead of a 3 minute lay, but don’t rule that possibility out! For the more advanced, you can use qualifying frames and certain qualification questions to find a girl that satisfies your immediate or long term goals. This is another article all together.

Summary

If you change nothing else about your game expect creating a list and qualifying from it, you attraction and close rate will reach all time highs. Also, it is important to update the list as you grow and learn more about yourself.