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Sexual Escalation

Hey all :-)

I was thinking about what I could cover for this blog and something that kept coming up and that was a common problem is a lot of guys end up getting themselves into the friend zone or they become the gay best friend. If this is a common problem you find yourself getting into then it isn’t all bad as we know where you are getting stuck. To get into the friend zone you need to be good at all the first steps of the ladder towards our end goal which is sex. We just need to be able to now push it to the next level and sexually escalate. So here we go here are my tips on sexual escalation.

Sexually escalation should start from the beginning of the interaction keeping in mind it is an escalation of events rather than hey I am Darren and I am touching your pussy. We need to build this all up slowly and smoothly. We start with the opener and kino the target. This first bit of kino will be in a none-threatening area where people are used to being touched for example the arm. This first bit of kino should be short and hardly recognizable. As the interaction goes on we increase the kino gradually increasing. If she starts to pull away or looks uncomfortable just take a step back and build more comfort. As we increase kino we should be able to get away with hugging, holding hands and placing the hand on the tops of her legs. When we get to the top of the ladder and we are ready to go for the kiss we can push their hair away from their ears as we talk to them gently in their ear. Women are very sensitive around the ears and when touched gently, breathed in or gently spoke in women can get very aroused. This is a good method to use before going for the K-close. If she allows you that close to her face she is comfortable with you enough to probably go for the K-close.

When you feel it is time to go for the first kiss don’t pussy foot around the area you need to go for it. May main way of getting K-closes is holding strong eye contact throughout the interaction. When holding the eye you need to look away sometimes or you will look like a vampire who wants to suck her blood. Guys who stare to long can come across needy and sexually frustrated. Hold the eye contact and move your eyes to her lips as she talks. When holding eye contact and talking to her move in and out gently as if you are going to go for the kiss then move back and carry on talking. I find this the most effective method out of all the methods I have used to the point of girls actually jumping in for the kiss with me. If a girl rejects are first attempt for a kiss don’t panic, don’t even acknowledge it happened. Just carry on talking build more comfort and go for it again. Women like to test us in as many ways possible and this is one way. When we go for the kiss we need to slow our words down and talk more gently as well otherwise it will seem out of character.

Verbalizing sex is also very powerful as when we talk about sex with women she will start to picture doing it on us. Good ways of starting a sexual conversation are asking a girl her biggest fantasies or her biggest turn on’s. When I discuss sex I will talk about it with a cheeky smile and will even tilt my head to make me look more non-threatening.

Top Five Tips

1. Escalation starts from the beginning so start Kinoing straight away

2. If anything feels uncomfortable take a step back and build more comfort

3. Hold eye contact

4. Don’t be afraid to talk about sex

5. Lead

I hope this may be of some help for some of you guys with some of your sticking points. This is a brief summary as sexual escalation is such a massive subject. In the near future I will be posting some videos on specific sub topics to do with sexual escalation.

Any questions or things to add please don’t hesitate to leave a comment. Till next time, thanks guys.

Keep the faith

Hey people I hope we are well:-) One if the things I specialize in is MLTR’s (Multiple Long Term Relationships) and I would love to share with you guys how I achieve this.

Honesty + Comfort +Morals

There are three sections and stages that I apply to successfully date multiple girls and each stage is used to help solidify an open bond. My definition of what I class a multiple long term relationship is someone who has more than one open relationship at one time. At one time I think any more than four regular relationships becomes too much maintenance. I may sleep with other girls who I extract from clubs or after a day two but I try and keep it at a base set of four.

Honesty

This is my number policy without a doubt. I believe in being honest for a few reasons but the main is not hurting anyone. Deception and lies always ends in hurt and trouble. Being open and free with your words and actually telling the truth and having abundance is a DHV (demonstration of higher value) in its self. If you lie once you need to defend the lie with another lie and it becomes a whole story and it becomes hard to remember what is real and what a lie is. For example if you open with “I am not from London can you recommend somewhere good to go at night” but you live in London you are then going to have to lie about where you live. If you frame any conversation well it can have a positive outcome or work to your favour. The way I word my situation would be something a little like this. “You seem like a really cool person and I really enjoy spending time with you and I want to carry on seeing you but I am not ready to settle down to an exclusive relationship. You seem like the kind of girl who wants to enjoy her life so if that’s the case we should carry on seeing each other.”  I am never shy of saying I am seeing other girls although I won’t constantly go on about it as this may seem like I am rubbing their nose in it. I won’t talk about sex with the other girls but I won’t lie if they ask.

Comfort

Comfort is one of my most powerful tools in my tool box. Without comfort you cannot do anything. In my opinion the art of being nonthreatening is building comfort. So let’s be honest you need comfort before you start anything. So in a manner of speaking comfort is stage one so before you move to stage two you need comfort. There many ways to build comfort, like being confidant, non- threatening, holding eye contact, kino, and building rapport. I like building rapport through texting and phone calls. I build so much comfort through conversation on the phone and through text. I make it feel like we are a couple just through the phone. By the time we meet for a day two its’ game on. I will escalate all the time we are together as we have so much comfort before we have even met. I will build the sexual tension so high with her that she cannot resist but have sex with me. Just before I sleep with her I let her know exactly where she stands. When I say that I mean I tell them that I am not ready for commitment.

Morals

This is the shortest section but by no means is it the least important it is just as important as the rest. Morals are so important to protect yourself and the girls you are seeing. Morals for me help prevent girls falling too much for me as well. I will tell you my top three morals and I suggest if you want MLTR’s that you sit down and work five out for yourselves.

1.       Never sleep or game a taken women

2.       If a girl starts falling for me I will finish it

3.       Be honest

This is basically the template I use for multiple relationships. There is obviously more work to at the beginning like getting their number for one. I recommend that you see each one of the girls once a week to keep them hooked but not more so they get too hooked. I hope this helps as much as possible guys. Any questions or opinions please write a reply as really love hearing your guys opinions:-)

Hey guys.  This weather is superb at the moment, perfect for game. Me and a good wing where chatting last week over a nice cold drink. We were chatting and he asked me what my stripper game was like. I have done a little in the past but not a hell of a lot so I agreed to help my buddy out and show him what I know.

Last Thursday was another awesome day so I didn’t want to spend all day in a strip joint. None the less we said we were going so we did. After a little street game we turned up at the club. It was early evening. It was a cool looking club in east London with three floors. We walked in the club for free as they were not charging on the door before 8pm. There were five girls on the floor. We walked over to the bar past the girls that were chatting to customers and straight past the pole. All the time remaining non reactive to the girls and the girl dancing on the pole. We both ordered a pint at the bar (which is so rare for me when sarging). We chatted a little and a hot blonde approached us. Before long it became clear that this one would become my friends target so I stepped aside a little and let them carry on. I was chilling and drinking my pint when a sexy black stripper approached me. She was my type and what I liked. So this is what happened.

Stripper: Hey

Me: Hey, how you doing

Stripper: So what you doing here today

Me: We were just walking past and wanted a beer. You must be gutted you have to work on such a lovely day huh?

Stripper: Yeah it’s not good. What is your name?

Me: Darren and yours?

Stripper: Crystal

Me: Come on at least have the decency to give me your real name as I did you.

Stripper: Ok fair enough my name is Janet

Me: Wasn’t so bad was it

We laughed a little. There was a lot of fluff talk between all the key points. The majority of the conversation was me qualifying her. She told me all about her dreams and life. All the time I was looking at her eyes and not the sexily dressed body lol. She kept trying to bring private dances into the frame so this is how I dealt with it.

Me: Doing this job you must get all different types of clients. You must be pretty good at telling who would be willing to spend money on private dances?

Stripper:  Yeah I guess I am

Me:  Why the hell are you talking to me then?

Stripper:  Do you not want to see me dance then

Me: I am good thanks. I have just come in here for a quick drink lap dances are not my style really

Stripper: Do like what I am wearing

Me: Not really it makes you look like a stripper. You would look good in a nice dress or something

The key in my eyes to all this is being super confidant while on the other hand not being like every other man in place. You need to build a lot of comfort for the close while talking about her dreams and ambitions a lot. Try not to keep talking to her about her job as it will keep her in the mind set of stripper and client. The quicker you can get her in the comfort zone you can start qualifying her. Then qualify her hard. After more chat and loads of qualification I knew it was time to go for the close. My wing had given up on his target and gave me the nod for our exit.  So I knew I had to close.

Me: Hey this has been really interesting talking to you but we must go as we are meeting some friends for dinner. What is the best way to keep in contact?

Stripper: Well I am not allowed to give my number out but if you wait there I will go put some clothes on and you
can come out for a fag with me and no one will see you take my number.

She gave me her number when we got outside. Strippers are not allowed to give their numbers out so you need to either learn how to remember long numbers or find a sneaky way to take numbers down without other people seeing lol.

I hope my experiences help some of you who may try these ideas. Please do not hesitate to leave a reply of your opinions